Fat bitch angry at doctor for calling her fat

Joe · Post by **Joe** » 2005-08-25 02:37pm

It's a lifestyle choice, not a disorder!

ROCHESTER, N.H. - As doctors warn more patients that they should lose weight, the advice has backfired on one doctor with a woman filing a complaint with the state saying he was hurtful, not helpful.

Dr. Terry Bennett says he tells obese patients their weight is bad for their health and their love lives, but the lecture drove one patient to complain to the state.

"I told a fat woman she was obese," Bennett says. "I tried to get her attention. I told her, 'You need to get on a program, join a group of like-minded people and peel off the weight that is going to kill you.' "

He says he wrote a letter of apology to the woman when he found out she was offended.

Her complaint, filed about a year ago, was initially investigated by a panel of the New Hampshire Board of Medicine, which recommended that Bennett be sent a confidential letter of concern. The board rejected the suggestion in December and asked the attorney general's office to investigate.

Bennett rejected that office's proposal that he attend a medical education course and acknowledge that he made a mistake.

Bruce Friedman, chairman of the board of medicine, said he could not discuss specific complaints. Assistant Attorney General Catherine Bernhard, who conducted the investigation, also would not comment, citing state law that complaints are confidential until the board takes disciplinary action.

The board's Web site says disciplinary sanctions may range from a reprimand to the revocation of all rights to practice in the state.

"Physicians have to be professional with patients and remember everyone is an individual. You should not be inflammatory or degrading to anyone," said board member Kevin Costin.

Other overweight patients have come to Bennett's defense.

"What really makes me angry is he told the truth," Mindy Haney told WMUR-TV on Tuesday. "How can you punish somebody for that?"

Haney said Bennett has helped her lose more than 150 pounds, but acknowledged that she initially didn't want to listen.

"I have been in this lady's shoes. I've been angry and left his practice. I mean, in-my-car-taking-off angry," Haney said. "But once you think about it, you're angry at yourself, not Doctor Bennett. He's the messenger. He's telling you what you already know."

Post by **LadyTevar** » 2005-08-25 02:39pm

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Stupid fat bitch.

Flagg · Post by **Flagg** » 2005-08-25 02:44pm

Did she file the complaint in whalesong?

Perinquus · Post by **Perinquus** » 2005-08-25 02:47pm

What a generation of crybabies this is.

18-Till-I-Die · Post by **18-Till-I-Die** » 2005-08-25 02:52pm

Perinquus wrote:

What a generation of crybabies this is.

God are you right, i was saying that to my mom just a few days ago.

I call it the 'Someone Else' generation...every problem is not YOUR fault no it's SOMEONE ELSE. It wasnt her fault she couldnt drop the God damn cheeseburger and push away, no, it was someone else.

Shit i mean even some of the kids i know realize how silly it is...i mean, when vapid teenagers can grasp how vapid people are today, that's fucking sad.

The Guid · Post by **The Guid** » 2005-08-25 03:26pm

What next?

"How dare he tell me my lifestyle of smoking is dangerous for me?"

"How dare he tell me I have to have a splint for my leg? I am happy with the way my leg is, however "broken" he might call it. He's just infringing my human rights and is a small willied weener!"

"How dare he tell me that my hobby of jumping into an acid pool full of pihranas with chains all around myself and a ten ton weight on my foot is dangerous to my health."

Then again, I suppose it might depend on his bed side manner but still...

Noble Ire · Post by **Noble Ire** » 2005-08-25 03:29pm

Geez, whenever I see my state's name in the news, its always for something stupid.

Yes, he was doing his job and trying to make the womans life better, but he wasn't PC and sensitive while doing it. Gaah.

DPDarkPrimus · Post by **DPDarkPrimus** » 2005-08-25 03:33pm

I hope she has a damn heart attack in the next few weeks.

Flagg · Post by **Flagg** » 2005-08-25 03:34pm

I just wish people had some goddamned sense, and that whoever recieved the intitial report simply responded "Lose weight, fatty".

KrauserKrauser · Post by **KrauserKrauser** » 2005-08-25 03:36pm

While I agree that they should have laughed at when she filed the claim, the doctor did a bit more than just call her fat.

His exact words were something more akin to you are fat, your husband is even fatter so he'll die before you. Then you'll be an old ugly fat woman becoming more and more lonely since no one finds fat old women attractive.

True as that might, it definitely lacks tact.

Though the inquiry is bullshit. The inquiring agency is not meant to look into bed side manner, so they shouldn't give a rat's ass if this doctor has all the tact of a brick wall. The patient determines what doctor they want to go to, if that doctor offends you, go get another one.

darthdavid · Post by **darthdavid** » 2005-08-25 03:38pm

If I'd recieved her call my response would've been more along the lines of "Sorry, I don't speak cow. Let me find an intrepreter. Here, that's better. MOOOOOOOO!!!" then hung up. But the loose weight thing works too.

gizmojumpjet · Post by **gizmojumpjet** » 2005-08-25 03:40pm

Why the hell did he write a letter of apology? You're just setting yourself up because apologizing implies you're at fault, when obviously in this case she's at fault for having thin skin.

He should have written her a letter of "regret," if even that.

"Physicians have to be professional with patients and remember everyone is an individual. You should not be inflammatory or degrading to anyone," said board member Kevin Costin.

I regret that giving people sound medical advice is now considered degrading.

mr friendly guy · Post by **mr friendly guy** » 2005-08-25 03:41pm

DPDarkPrimus wrote:I hope she has a damn heart attack in the next few weeks.

And another opportunity presents for her to bitch about doctors telling her to lose weight.

Flagg · Post by **Flagg** » 2005-08-25 03:43pm

gizmojumpjet wrote:Why the hell did he write a letter of apology? You're just setting yourself up because apologizing implies you're at fault, when obviously in this case she's at fault for having thin skin.

He should have written her a letter of "regret," if even that.

"Physicians have to be professional with patients and remember everyone is an individual. You should not be inflammatory or degrading to anyone," said board member Kevin Costin.
I regret that giving people sound medical advice is now considered degrading.

She doesn't have thin skin, that's the fucking problem.

DPDarkPrimus · Post by **DPDarkPrimus** » 2005-08-25 03:45pm

mr friendly guy wrote:
DPDarkPrimus wrote:I hope she has a damn heart attack in the next few weeks.
And another opportunity presents for her to bitch about doctors telling her to lose weight.

If she lives through it, maybe.

I might be an atheist, but divine irony is something every human should pray for.

Flakin · Post by **Flakin** » 2005-08-25 03:45pm

Heh. My last visit to my Internist, he looked me straight in the eye and said, "You're really far too fat, you know."

What is there to be offended about when he's telling the truth? I *am* fat. I'm aware of it and obviously trying to lose it. I've been fat all my life. I've been through high school and heard all the taunts. I moved to America and had the Abercrombie and Fitch types sneer in my direction.... I really don't care what other people think of me as regards to my size.

What I do care about is my health, which is why doctors will tell you - as a matter of fact, should be obligated to tell you - that you're too big.

From one person who's too big to the other I say, "Lady, shut your pie hole and get on a treadmill!".

LauraG · Post by **LauraG** » 2005-08-25 04:25pm

So now they're going to try and make laws about tact?

You know, this 'political correctness' thing is really going way too far in the US. It should've been obvious when someone came up with the idea of calling short people "vertically challenged" and nobody laughed.

Flagg · Post by **Flagg** » 2005-08-25 04:32pm

LauraG wrote:So now they're going to try and make laws about tact?

You know, this 'political correctness' thing is really going way too far in the US. It should've been obvious when someone came up with the idea of calling short people "vertically challenged" and nobody laughed.

Seriousely, I've been calling them Oompa Loompas for years, and now all of the sudden I get shit for it. Fucking midgets.

Vendetta · Post by **Vendetta** » 2005-08-25 04:36pm

You don't want to let the Campaign for Equal Heights hear you talking that way.. They can be vicious...

Flagg · Post by **Flagg** » 2005-08-25 04:40pm

Vendetta wrote:You don't want to let the Campaign for Equal Heights hear you talking that way.. They can be vicious...

Yeah, don't want them kicking my shins, stomping on my foot, or headbutting me in the balls.

18-Till-I-Die · Post by **18-Till-I-Die** » 2005-08-25 04:44pm

Flagg wrote:
Vendetta wrote:You don't want to let the Campaign for Equal Heights hear you talking that way.. They can be vicious...
Yeah, don't want them kicking my shins, stomping on my foot, or headbutting me in the balls.

Dont make fun, i actually (swear to God) fought a midget i thought was a kid when i was ten. Needless to say i had my ass handed to me, cause he was like thirty and i was ten.

Durandal · Post by **Durandal** » 2005-08-25 05:52pm

darthdavid wrote:If I'd recieved her call my response would've been more along the lines of "Sorry, I don't speak cow. Let me find an intrepreter. Here, that's better. MOOOOOOOO!!!" then hung up. But the loose weight thing works too.

Is it just me, or is your response in threads like this always something like, "If this happened to me, I'd do such and such, please laugh at me! ACCEPT ME!!!!"?

Either post something useful or stay the fuck out of my forum.

Haruko · Post by **Haruko** » 2005-08-25 06:24pm

Jesus Christ! It's the fucking truth, and the context is that, as a doctor, he's giving you some good health advice, not fucking insulting you purposefully, you over-sensitive jack-ass.

SecondToDie · Post by **SecondToDie** » 2005-08-25 07:20pm

I don't get it. Aren't doctors supposed to help patients live healthy lives? Despite what PC wackos say, being obese is not healthy and in fact can cause diseases and health problems. Yet organizations such as the National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance are spreading the dangerous view that being 150 pounds overweight is something to be proud of and anyone who says differently is insensitive and discriminatory. These PC wackos are almost as screwed up as Christian fundamentalists.

Aaron · Post by **Aaron** » 2005-08-25 07:24pm

SecondToDie wrote:I don't get it. Aren't doctors supposed to help patients live healthy lives? Despite what PC wackos say, being obese is not healthy and in fact can cause diseases and health problems. Yet organizations such as the National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance are spreading the dangerous view that being 150 pounds overweight is something to be proud of and anyone who says differently is insensitive and discriminatory. These PC wackos are almost as screwed up as Christian fundamentalists.

I don't get it, I'm 5'8 and 215lbs and I'm ashamed of my excess weight. So much so that I'm participating in the SDN weight watchers thread. The fact that a person could actually be happy that their obese blows my mind, don't these NAAFA clowns understand that their going to have a heartattack and fucking croak before their 50?