Flagg wrote:Grumman wrote:
Quite simply, Carey was too stupid to live.
This truly isn't directed at you, Grumman, and I don't advocate what I'm about to say in this case be done to you, since it just reminded me of something I've been feeling for awhile...
Maybe we should bring back custom titles and anyone who ever uses the term
"Too Stupid To Live" in relation to a human being's death (barring Darwin Award shit, but maybe even then...) in seriousness should get
"Too Stupid To Live" as their aforementioned custom title.
There's just something so callous and disturbing in an empathy-lacking way about it. I mean this is someone who in all likelihood took a wrong-turn, then panicked. When fight or flight kicks in, you'd be surprised at what some will do, especially when that reptile brain kicks in and you just need "out!", despite how stupid or irrational it is, or seems.
I mean if a couple dumb teenagers shoplift expensive shit at a large store, run to their car and load the stolen goods in, then take off and a cop without a drawn firearm or an unarmed security guard jumps into the parking lot dozens of yards ahead of their car waving their arms trying to block the way with their body alone and end up getting run over and killed, are
they "Too Stupid To Live"? And yes, it's happened.
I think if you say "yes" to the question, that's one thing, but if you read the story and say something like "That cop/guard was just too stupid to live" in response... You're deserving
"Too Stupid To Live" as a CT.
My feeling is that there are two categories of "too stupid to live" callousness that
don't turn my stomach at least a little, and I"d like to talk about them, but I want you to know that I empathize with the feeling and that there are certainly plenty of places where having "too stupid to live" brought up
does turn my stomach a little.
One of the two exceptions is, of course, when people make suicidally foolish premeditated decisions. Like disabling the safeties on heavy machinery and then using it as a toy. Or like having your dog play 'fetch' with lit sticks of dynamite (this was in an actual Darwin Awards book).
The other exception is when someone makes a persistent,
consistent, chain of bad decisions. Not a single instance of unwise judgment (e.g. jumping in the path of a moving vehicle in the expectation that the driver will stop rather than running over you, or conversely driving straight at a person on foot in the expectation that they'll get out of the way). But
consistent bad judgment, of doing exactly the wrong thing, making the wrong move over and over and over. Ignoring basic rules of 'how to behave in this situation, and displaying a total inability to control one's emotions or use one's reason in a crisis.
Do that enough times in a row, and the sentiment "too dumb to live" sometimes flashes irresistibly through my brain.
Now, I recognize that there exist people who have issues with mental illness or who may be having an adverse drug reaction or something. The problem is that, and this is something I alluded to in my last post,
the rest of us have to live in the same world as that. At street level, people have to somehow have a right to physical safety, in the face of people who behave erratically.
In particular, the guards who have to deal with erratic people have a right to
try to not die, while at the same time having a very important duty to protect others. One of those responsibilities is everyone's ground rule #1 and deserves some respect; the other responsibility is a sacred obligation. Having armed people around who are caught between those two imperatives is a big deal and we should take it seriously- as noted in my last post.
Ideally, everybody lives. The only way to make that happen in situations where violent force is involved, though, is if we all
keep a grip on ourselves. If everyone takes a little time to be... not-reckless. If we all show enough respect for the lives and welfare of others, we don't create situations where anyone feels forced to hurt or kill people in order to survive. Yes, that may mean ignoring an impulse from your reptile-brain... but part of the human condition is knowing when to do that, of being capable of participating in human society and not acting on this pure "nature red in tooth and claw" level.
But sometimes you get people who cannot or will not show that level of respect for safety and public order. Maybe they can't help it. Maybe they could, but are too reckless or lacking in empathy to care about the consequences of their actions for others. During an incident, it is hard to tell.
And at that point, well... you are in the presence of people who have deadly force at their disposal, whom we have told "protect this area, protect these people, maintain public order." And they are going to begin to see your death as "what they have to do" in order to both do their duty and live to tell about it.
The consequences are predictable.
So from my point of view, your right to wave your arms ends when you start hitting people. Even if you're in the middle of a nervous breakdown. Even if you're freaking out or have unreliably regulated bipolar disorder. If you're erratic enough to be using genuinely threatening violence against others (e.g. hitting them with a car) and acting in a way that makes you an imminent threat (e.g. running red lights and smashing into people and things with your car to knock them out of your way), then yes. If you're being that reckless, not once but
over and over, with no evidence that you are capable of stopping and getting enough control of yourself to NOT be dangerous to those around you...
Basically, at that point, you are
running amok, and as in Indonesia there is a strong likelihood that you will be killed... and if such actions aren't "too dumb to live," they are definitely too
something to live.