Dragon Angel wrote: ↑2017-10-24 04:47am
Dominus Atheos wrote: ↑2017-10-23 11:45pmThere is a large gap between "starts making bad decisions" and "is only half-conscious". This discussion is about the former period.
You're answering your own question and you refuse to acknowledge it. "Starts making bad decisions" is already
very beyond the line of "it's acceptable to make moves to stick your dick in her". "Is only half-conscious" is a smokescreen that distracts from the point that her judgement has already been impaired. You've already entered the zone of
get the fuck away.
There seems to me to be a bit of a two-step going on here.
"Is this person intoxicated enough that their judgment is impaired" is
your standard, but apparently going by loomer's words, the
legal standard is "is this person intoxicated enough that they're half-conscious?"
The consequences of a society-wide decision that it's socially unacceptable to have sex with people who are only half-conscious are... [SET A]
The consequences of a society-wide decision that it's socially unacceptable to have sex with people who
might have moderately impaired judgment are [SET B]
A and B are very different things, and people who are comfortable with the consequences of one set may not be comfortable with the other.
Do you have an impulse control problem that, when you can clearly recognize someone is easily influenced or not making logical sense, you just can't resist shagging her? If you do that is a problem you really should resolve ASAP.
I know you're talking to DA...
Me, I went straight from "too awkward and party-averse to even have this problem" directly to "stably married" without passing Go. It's an academic question to me- but one where I do want to make sure we're all being intellectually honest.
Flagg wrote: ↑2017-10-22 10:38am
And ITT we find out that DA is a creepy shit.
About the only thing that’s murky about the “too drunk to consent” thing is if both parties are just about equally drunk.
To be fair, it's not like this is an
unlikely outcome, since there are a hell of a lot of social gatherings out there where men and women both do roughly equal amounts of drinking.
If you want to increase your safety from the "Schrodinger's rape" scenario, you basically have to:
1) Refrain from getting drunk in mixed company,
2) Stay away from social gatherings such as parties where both sexes meet and drink to some level of excess, or
3) Both.
Given that one of the main socially acceptable reasons to consume alcohol at all is social gatherings like parties, this... kind of constitutes a weak form of backdoor prohibition on the consumption of alcohol.
I don't necessarily think we should disapprove of that, but we should very openly acknowledge it as a probable consequence. If men can get charged with rape for having sex with a roughly-equally-drunk woman, men are taking a risk by going to parties where women and alcohol are present, and we are making "go to a place with both booze and women" a borderline-illegal act. Drunk partying is less of a crime than, say, drunk driving, because it's legal
in and of itself... but if you drink and party, you face an unavoidable risk of ending up guilty of a severe crime you honestly didn't think you were committing at the time.
loomer wrote: ↑2017-10-22 08:17pmIt's a situational bar, but usually it's placed fairly highly. It isn't going to be easy to miss unless you're hammered too. We're talking 'out of it', 'falling over', 'totally smashed', 'singing the wrong words to karaoke' and 'trying to make waffles then forgetting they were making waffles and starting a fire' levels of drunk. Quite frankly, if you cannot recognize when someone is significantly impaired by alcohol then you should probably refrain from engaging in sexual conduct with strangers who have been drinking for the safety of others.
Are we comfortable having arguments in which the defendant is struggling to prove that the plaintiff "wasn't that drunk," or somehow tried to conceal their drunkenness? Are less-social or more inexperienced men inherently at more risk due to not being as adept at recognizing the signs of severe intoxication?
If the answers turn out to be "yes and yes," fine, but we should, again, let's be prepared to openly accept this as the price of doing business. Not something to be in denial about.
Again, all that is being asked by this reasoning is that you make a small effort not to rape people. In the best case scenario, you've missed out on a shag - but if they were into you, they'll probably be up for one the next time around when they aren't quite so drunk. In the worst case scenario, you've managed not to rape someone you otherwise might have! Gold star!
I'm not even saying any of this is unreasonable...
But if we're actually going to
solve this issue, it will probably be by effectively banning mixed-sex social gatherings where alcohol or other intoxicants are served in large quantity.
I wouldn't miss that kind of party very much, personally. Others might, and not just men looking to get laid.
Lagmonster wrote: ↑2017-10-24 10:18am
DA's illustrating an important problem that I think most people fail at. If you cannot effectively and clearly teach people *how* to make a reasonable judgment, then you better brace yourself for a shitload of people making horrible mistakes as they fumble their way towards understanding. Saying that something is common sense, or well described by legal scholars, or clearly understood in your particular culture or sub-culture, is a shit way to educate a person.
Using a similar example, "Don't drive if you have had ANYTHING to drink" is easier to teach than "Don't drive if you've had TOO MUCH to drink". The former is simple to measure: No is anything greater than zero. The latter is not, and relies too much for my comfort level on self-awareness, the opinion or judgement of others who themselves may not have good judgment (or be there), or the latitude to make a few mistakes - possibly fatal ones - as you experiment to zero in on the threshold.
Yes- but as noted, "don't drink and drive" is a much simpler norm to establish than "don't drink and party." An absolute ban on combining alcohol consumption and mingling with the opposite sex is going to be a tough sell.