TheHammer wrote:
According to Alyrium, after a drunken sexual encounter, consent is subject to the whims of the participants after the fact where they can "retroactively consent", or "retroactively not consent" once sober. His statement that consent is simply an "unknown" under those circumstances, essentially means that you are sexually gambling based on the odds of someone "consenting vs non consenting" later and is wholly unacceptable and unworkable for the vast majority of the population.
What? Did you even read Alyrium's post, even the part you quoted?
Alyrium very explicitly said that this isn't an issue of retroactive consent, it is an issue of INVALID consent. There is a fine line, I admit, but it is an important distinction. He never advocated the idea of retroactively taking away consent, he is advocating the idea that the consent was never valid TO BEGIN WITH. Go back and reread his posts if you will. That was very explicitly what he was saying, even in the post you quoted. I don't really know how else to impart that point.
TheHammer wrote:
Consent is either given or its not. If you don't know if you have consent, then you don't have consent. Logically speaking, if we consider that "sex without first obtaining consent = rape", and that by Alyrium's stance consent cannot be given until after the fact, then he is in fact arguing that all drunken sex is defacto rape at the time it occurs.
Alyrium's stance is NOT that consent cannot be given until after the fact. His entire point is that, at a certain level of intoxication, that consent is INVALID. As you said, consent is either given or its not ... according to Alyrium, there is a certain point where you are so drunk that you're consent doesn't count as consent. For the same reason you just said, "If you don't know, then you don't have." That was his entire argument. Seriously, go back and reread his posts.
TheHammer wrote:
Kon El is correct in recognizing why this notion of retroactive anything involving consent is a fucking terrible idea if we are interested in coming up with just system for determining when a crime has actually occurred and when it has not.
Luckily nobody is advocating for that.
TheHammer wrote:
People have gotten drunk and had sex for centuries, to the pleasure of the vast majority of those involved. Outlawing, or defacto criminalizing as some of the more asinine suggestions would do, is not a desired outcome.
I agree. I have not advocated for such criminalization at any point.
TheHammer wrote:
Therefore a reasonable standard for valid consent while under the influence of alcohol, preferably one that would also apply to other mind altering substances, should be established. It should in the best way possible account for different tolerances people hold, and be such that a "reasonable person" could be expected to adhere to and rely upon.
I agree. And so does Alyrium. That was exactly what Alyrium was advocating. In fact, so far as I can tell, Alyrium was the one who introduced the "reasonable person" standard into this thread in the first place.