Darth Wong Wrote:
People like me believe that pedophilia is a psychological disorder: the result of a malformed or disturbed mind. Normal people don't have these urges.
People like James Dobson believe that pedophilia is the result of "weakness", or people "falling to temptation": an argument which (disturbingly enough) presumes that we all have these urges, and some of us are just better at controlling them (presumably with God's help) than others. Personally, I think this implies that if they think everyone has these urges, they probably have these urges themselves.
That is so true. I am truly baffled when I hear people link homosexuality with pedophilia. You'd probably be surprised to discover how opposite the reality can be. In downtown Toronto here, I'm a "public" figure because I sing and play keyboard in the local gay bars. I know a LOT of people and do you know what I hear from the youngest members of the community? The 19 to 24 year olds complain that they are 'discriminated' against because if they want to go after an older guy, many times they tell me they prefer 30+...they keep getting the "you're too young. Sorry". Now personally I can also relate because I myself always preferred 30+. Even many 25 year olds just look like kids to me and the boyish look does nothing for me whatsoever. It's happened a few times where a 19 year old was hitting on me and it just freaked me out. I was diplomatic about it, but I wanted to say "You're like half my age, I could be your father. EW!" But if I said it that bluntly, I'd piss them off.
Granted it's not impossible to find people that like "chicken" as it's called...lol..but it's still a lot less common then you'd think. However being attracted to young adults of that age is not pedophilia..it's classified as Ephilophibia and it's far from illegal or immoral. It's certainly common enough in the hetero world, but ironically it seems a lot more common. There's a weird culture of tastes in the gay world and young men that prefer older men are considered to be 'daddy' chasers. Most of the time the assumption is even that they are hustlers and are after the money and comfortable lifestyle of an established older male. But I know some good friends who after being around long enough convinced me by their personal integrity and many years of companionship that they really DO like older guys. I don't mean old as in trolls mind you...good looking, fit 30+ dudes. In my own opinion men are the hottest in that 30ish age bracket. The boyish looks fade away and they ripen into a mature look that has the most character.
So the morons that parrot this bullshit about gays being boy chasers don't know their head from their ass. Just as an example of real significance since it's walking the walk....we had ONE hustler bar in Toronto for many years. It was called Sneakers and it was on Yonge St. just outside the gay village. It was sparsely populated by young twinks and the old men into that kind of thing, but it was never that busy...rarely visited by the majority of the gay community and in general reviled as a pick up bar. It shut down, changed it's name and is now a typical watering hole. There isn't even a place for that anymore. If it was SO prevelant, don't you think this place would have been a smash hit? Hell you can even have live sex shows in Toronto now and a place on Church st.. (outside the village again) has a somewhat twinky bunch working there and they still have a hard time getting much attention. Even though (because it's legal now) you can literally dick around with these boys, it's just not doing anything spectacular.
If pedophilia is so rampant in the gay lifestyle, don't you think these places would be booming like nuts? Now granted they are all legal....but Jesus, to me these 19 year olds look like 14. I don't remember looking that young when I was that age. Your perceptions get seriously skewed when you get older..lol
You have to realize that most Christian "moral values" behaviour is not really about "protecting" anyone; it's about their desire to send a continual stream of messages of condemnation towards people whose existence offends them. - Darth Wong alias Mike Wong
"There is nothing wrong with being ignorant. However, there is something very wrong with not choosing to exchange ignorance for knowledge when the opportunity presents itself."