Oh, yeah - people are scum, ya know?Surlethe wrote:You actually got mocked for that? I wouldn't expect people to actually say that to someone's face.Ha-ha-ha! All you people who mocked me for settling for less and not keeping up with the Jones - I WIN! Neener-neener!
I have made unconventional choices. Some very conventional people assume that is from stupidity or foolishness. Quite the contrary. I do put thought into my choices, it's just that, looking at the same pile of stuff, I come to different conclusions than they do.
For example - I have been repeatedly told that, for the money I have spent on airplanes I could have had a house. Well, yes, in fact that IS true. However, I decided that learning to fly and having those experiences was more important to me than having a house - which many of these types find simply incomprehensible. But, hey, I don't have children (that drastically reduces my space requirements), I don't need to put anyone through college, and, with a disabled spouse, I would have to do nearly all the home maintenance myself which, despite not being a home owner, I am well aware can be a lot of work. Or an expense because you're paying someone else to fix/maintain things. The other thing is that, should I lose my job I can simply stop flying and that cost will disappear. If I had bought a house I would still have on-going mortgage payments, even when paid off there is taxes and maintenance... It's not a choice I'd recommend for everyone, but for me, under my circumstances, it was a good mix of pro/con and fit to my resources and needs.
A lot of it is deciding what your priorities really are. We'd like a mammoth flat-screen TV, exotic vacations, a new computer system, more living space, lot of things we don't have. The thing is, we simply don't have the resources to have everything we want. First we must get the things we need, THEN decide what we can afford on the want list, and stick to just that. Frequently, it's a matter of waiting 2-3 months to save money for something rather than buying it on credit. Now, some things it makes sense to take out a loan for - a car, for instance. Or a house. Something very durable that you will be able to keep after you finish paying the bill (also, both car and home loans are available at relatively low interest rates, particularly with a good credit rating.) Credit cards, in my book, are only for emergencies. For example - if you're traveling and need a hotel room unexpectedly. Then you pay that sucker off.
Oh - and the living space thing? We're getting it by getting rid of shit we don't need or want anymore. This week I filled up the dumpster outside with garbage, and then took 10 bags of stuff to Goodwill for donation so someone else could use them. Ironically, we used shredded credit card offers to pad the kitchen gear against breakage when we donated it.
I have an odd regret in that computers became commonplace only after I reached adulthood. There are books and books of my writing that would take up MUCH less space in e-storage, for example, but computers as we currently know them just didn't exist at the time I wrote this stuff down. I have several thousand books - it would have been nice to have a really decent e-book format instead of all the shelves. I have thousands of pictures from film - digital cameras just didn't exist at the time. I have vinyl records and cassette tapes from pre-CDs (and yes, I still listen to them). These things take up space, they weigh a lot... if only I had had them electronically, in long-lasting media. But that is not what is. At least my electronic piano takes up much less space than an acoustic.