Alyrium Denryle wrote:I really find it hard to believe this isn't what she thinks, by now. She just seems to be equal parts cowardly and distasteful. It doesn't take bravery to admit you're a bigot, but it's still cowardly to hide behind claims that your sister is a "gay activist" and that you don't "mean any offense" while campaigning to keep people unlawfully denied their basic rights. It's the appeal to "my black friend." She's a terrible person.
So she is spitting on her own sister?
Yeah, she is a bigot. If she cant even support her own sister, she is a bigot and her sister should not consider her a sibling worth mentioning.
Really, what she did was call her sister a "gay activist" as a way to say
"I don't hate all gay people, my sister is tolerant!" as a shield from abuse, when in reality her sister had only attended a single tolerance/something event and was surprised to her herself mentioned as a gay right's activist. There's stories about it, it's not that she said "my sister sucks she's awful and she's a gay lover," it was the "Hey I'm not a racist I have a sister who is dating a black guy" sort of thing. As if she couldn't be less tolerant than her sister. Her workds are confusing and her position shifts a lot, so I call her cowardly for that. If she was actually brave enough to stand up and state her mind, she'd have a position with some granite in it.
For the record I think her sister is cuter than her.
All we can really judge her on are her actions, which have followed a trend that seems pretty to have gone from "I think Marriage should be between a Man and a Woman," to "I think your Marriage should be between a Man and a Woman." Hopefully this quells most of the lingering doubt about how carefully you can seperate a statement from intent, which I think is really a foolish and dangerous thing. There's no reason to
not call her a homophobe. I think people have only defended her because they don't want to think of themselves as homophobic either--but I think it makes more sense for people in such a position to reconsider why they think what they think about gay marriage, not to try and redefine bigotry so they're not in it.
I hope being minorly squicked at the first half hour of
Milk doesn't qualify me homophobic, but if it irrefutably did, then the fault is with me and not with the definition of what intolerance is. People will do almost anything to avoid having to feel guilty or in-the-wrong about things. Anything, that is, except change their perception.