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[girls] I don't know what to do.

Post by Uraniun235 »

First, the backstory.

I'm currently attending a summer term at college. There has been a 3 week art camp going on while I've been here. One of my friends from high school has come to the art camp, so I've been eating lunch and dinner with her when I can.

She's met a couple of friends and they've all been hanging around each other the whole time. One of them is really cool, geeky, funny, and seems to like talking to me.

This is the beginning of the third week, and next week she won't be here.

This is my problem. She's only here for this week before she leaves. I really like her, and I want to do something.

But, I enjoy talking to her immensely, and I'm afraid that if she rejects me it'll break what we already have.

Any advice is welcome.
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Get her phone number and/or email/screen name
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Touch her at night. Oh. Wait. I seem to be getting a little ahead of myself. :D Since you enjoy talking to her so much I'd suggest something along the lines of "You've been really nice and I enjoy talking with you and everything. This camp thing's going to be over soon and I'd like to keep in touch with you. Is there a way for us to keep in touch like you phone number, email, or something like that?" And then work you way from there.
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Be careful with exclusive online conversation. You can say things online you normally may not and the same goes for her. I know someone (he's like Butters from South Park) who convinces himself he's in love with people online but barely ever talks to them in person.
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"You know, you're interesting and I've really enjoyed talking with you... do you have an e-mail account I could contact you at?"

Something along those lines. No email? No problem; go for the phone number.
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Depending how friendly you are towards her, and she to you, I might suggest phone number first. Depending how close she lives to wear you do.
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I agree with everyone else. Get her phone number and stay in touch.
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Master of Ossus wrote:I agree with everyone else. Get her phone number and stay in touch.
Well I was going to say, ask for a quickie before you never see each other again. But I didn't think that would work. :D
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aerius wrote:Touch her at night. Oh. Wait. I seem to be getting a little ahead of myself. :D
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Post by Boba Fett »

Ask her now.

What do you have to lose?

Ruin everything that you achieved with her? You won't.

Come on dude, let's make it clear...you like how she looks like, you like to speak with her...but why?...because you want to be with her. Then ask her.

If she says no, you won't loose anything, you can speak till the stars fall from the sky.

If you never ask her, you loose even the possibility of a relationship.
Don't waste your time on thinking what and why may going on in her mind. You will have plenty of time to think about this matter when you're married.

You're young, have some fun don't take everything too seriously, that might make a girl afraid also.


The choice is yours. Use it wisely.

Good hunting. :wink:
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Post by Uraniun235 »

I had decided recently to simply wait a couple months (found out she lives fairly close to the college campus) and see how it progressed.

Tonight, one of her friends wanders off, and then pokes her head around a corner and flashes a sign at me saying "ASK HER TO DINNER TOMORROW".

Well, it seemed like an ok plan, and I thought 'what the hell, maybe she's talked to Eran and found out she likes me, or maybe they've planned this or something'.

Nope. All wrong. From Eran came the absolute bane of my existence.

"I'm sorry... I already have a boyfriend."

:(

Thank you all for your advice and support. I wish I could have returned with a happier tale to tell.
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That happened to me once. Not fun. Sorry to hear thats how it turned out.
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Post by Exonerate »

Ahh, that sucks...

Next time, find out if they're attached or not.

This doesn't mean it's the end. You can be ready to jump in if and when she breaks up with her current boyfriend.

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Ouch, I feel for ya man...
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Exonerate wrote:Ahh, that sucks...

Next time, find out if they're attached or not.

This doesn't mean it's the end. You can be ready to jump in if and when she breaks up with her current boyfriend.
I agree with you on that but in the longs years of my life I have found that rebound realtionships just don't work, still to much heartache over the break but tell that you do care about her and that you like as friend and if a brake up does happen just be there and if after she gets over the hurt who knows you might have a shot a real realtionship.
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Ouch, that sucks. Well, I'd say its preferable to a trip to "Let's Just Be Friends"
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Make a move. Tell her how you feel and that you want to keep in touch with her. What's the worst she could say? "No I don't feel that way about you"? Hardly. The worst thing she could say would be some piss-poor, patronizing, "let you down easily" spiel like, "Well I think I have some feelings for you ..." or something like that.

Rejection only gets easier as you go along, and it's better than sitting there wondering about how she felt about you.

EDIT: Duh, I didn't read the whole thread. Nevermind.
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Drop it. She's committed, and thats all there is to it. Further pursuit can have some bad connotations.
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Now my question is why the hell HER friend would tell you to ask her out. Shouldn't she have known that she had a boyfriend.
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Post by Uraniun235 »

She was pretty surprised too, but as I said they met at the art camp thingy which has only been going on for a couple of weeks.
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Oh, well, at elats she was honest.

Bad luck, man. Keep hunting.
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innerbrat wrote:Oh, well, at elats she was honest.

Bad luck, man. Keep hunting.
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Post by Arthur_Tuxedo »

This may or may not be doable, depending on how old you are and how much experience you have being rejected, but if you ask someone out after you've only known them a few days or a week instead of waiting for a long time, it doesn't hurt (much) if they have a boyfriend or aren't interested.
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