cheating part 2

BrYaN19kc · Post by **BrYaN19kc** » 2003-05-08 03:23pm

I would never consider cheating on my partner. The one who loses the most is the one who cheats.

SAMAS · Post by **SAMAS** » 2003-05-08 04:08pm

BrYaN19kc wrote:I would never consider cheating on my partner. The one who loses the most is the one who cheats.

Messin' over your fo'sho',
Trying to get some mo',
You gonna end up with no!

Arthur_Tuxedo · Post by **Arthur_Tuxedo** » 2003-05-08 05:02pm

This is a loaded question. Everyone says they wouldn't even consider it, yet after a major fight or some such thing, statistics show that about every other person would and has. Given the right (well, wrong) circumstances, I probably would.

Enforcer Talen · Post by **Enforcer Talen** » 2003-05-08 05:34pm

considered? of course. but I broke up when I thought it was a possibility that wasnt going away. that way friends is possible.

phongn · Post by **phongn** » 2003-05-08 06:56pm

Post by **AdmiralKanos** » 2003-05-08 07:18pm

Arthur_Tuxedo wrote:This is a loaded question. Everyone says they wouldn't even consider it, yet after a major fight or some such thing, statistics show that about every other person would and has.

Statistics based on polls taken in womens' magazines? How accurate do you really think those are?

After 10 years of marriage, I'll say the same thing I said on day one. I won't cheat. And we don't have major fights either; if we disagree about something, we discuss it. If I started berating her about something, she would just feel bad, and then I would feel bad.

Darth Servo · Post by **Darth Servo** » 2003-05-08 07:35pm

Arthur_Tuxedo wrote:This is a loaded question. Everyone says they wouldn't even consider it, yet after a major fight or some such thing, statistics show that about every other person would and has. Given the right (well, wrong) circumstances, I probably would.

I know for a fact that my parents have never cheated on each other, even after 38 years of marriage. They've had a few arguments but neither has ever gone off to be with someone else.

Enforcer Talen · Post by **Enforcer Talen** » 2003-05-08 08:19pm

AdmiralKanos wrote:
Arthur_Tuxedo wrote:This is a loaded question. Everyone says they wouldn't even consider it, yet after a major fight or some such thing, statistics show that about every other person would and has.
Statistics based on polls taken in womens' magazines? How accurate do you really think those are?

After 10 years of marriage, I'll say the same thing I said on day one. I won't cheat. And we don't have major fights either; if we disagree about something, we discuss it. If I started berating her about something, she would just feel bad, and then I would feel bad.

rite, when I get married, Im calling you for advise.

Enforcer Talen · Post by **Enforcer Talen** » 2003-05-08 08:20pm

Darth Servo wrote:
Arthur_Tuxedo wrote:This is a loaded question. Everyone says they wouldn't even consider it, yet after a major fight or some such thing, statistics show that about every other person would and has. Given the right (well, wrong) circumstances, I probably would.
I know for a fact that my parents have never cheated on each other, even after 38 years of marriage. They've had a few arguments but neither has ever gone off to be with someone else.

I know for a fact one of my parents cheated and they broke up 10 yrs later.

Arthur_Tuxedo · Post by **Arthur_Tuxedo** » 2003-05-08 08:26pm

AdmiralKanos wrote:Statistics based on polls taken in womens' magazines? How accurate do you really think those are?

Well it wasn't actually a poll, it was under the results of TheSpark.com's purity test. Not exactly a reliable source, I know, but still good enough for a ballpark figure (the exact figure was 47% said they had cheated I believe).

After 10 years of marriage, I'll say the same thing I said on day one. I won't cheat. And we don't have major fights either; if we disagree about something, we discuss it. If I started berating her about something, she would just feel bad, and then I would feel bad.

Yes, but you're lucky enough to have ended up with someone you're highly compatible with, and therefore not representative of most people. My parents were a bad match, and my dad cheated while he was in France shortly before I was born because he was pissed off about circumstances I won't bore everyone with. When my mom left him last year, I would bet a thousand bucks that she had cheated with her new boyfriend near the end of the relationship. I don't hate either of them for it, and can't honestly say I wouldn't have done the same.

Would I like to think I would never cheat under any circumstances? Of course! And I honestly would never cheat in a good relationship like the one you apparently have with your wife, even after a big fight or series of them. But those are ideal circumstances, and to assume that I will end up in a relationship as good as yours (or even good, period) is pretty optimistic.

Iceberg · Post by **Iceberg** » 2003-05-08 08:42pm

Self-selected samples are assumed to be unrepresentative unless there's sufficient reason to believe them to be representative.

TheSpark.com's survey is a self-selected sample.

Post by **Gandalf** » 2003-05-09 04:49am

I'd never cheat, simple as that, the odds of another person finding me attractive are too small.

Superman · Post by **Superman** » 2003-05-09 04:50am

Ah, don't sell yourself short, Gandalf. You'll probably get the hottest chick of anyone here.

Post by **Gandalf** » 2003-05-09 05:04am

Superman wrote:Ah, don't sell yourself short, Gandalf. You'll probably get the hottest chick of anyone here.

Thanks Supes, luckily for me I'm taken. And I love her.