The Official "Who Likes Anal Sex?" Thread

[Guest]

Definitely have to vote yes on this one.

[THEHOOLIGANJEDI]

Isn't anal sex unhealthy for you? Something about tearing the mucous membranes in your ass. I recall getting handouts in my high school health class about that, although I don't remember very well since I never paid attention.

That's what lube is for. There are women who have taken it in the rear hundreds of times without any problem at all. When dry, even vaginal sex can lead to tissue tears, which is why women who suffer vaginal dryness must use lube. I suspect that scare tactics about anal sex (and I've seen quite a few) are a side-effect of lingering puritanism.

True, but besides all those silly scare tactics that those wackos give, I hear that many ppl have problems Long term from having anal sex. I listen to too much Love Line, but I'd be totally open to giving a broad some Anal if they really like it.

[XaLEv]

Haven't done it yet. Giving or receiving.

[Antediluvian]

I've never had anal sex (never had sex for that matter) but I'd certainly like to try it.

Never?

You're missing out.

As for me, I have both gave and received.

[Darth Wong]

True, but besides all those silly scare tactics that those wackos give, I hear that many ppl have problems Long term from having anal sex. I listen to too much Love Line, but I'd be totally open to giving a broad some Anal if they really like it.

A lot of people say that, but it's like the "you'll go blind if you masturbate" thing; it's an urban myth. Shep has ranted about the health problems of anal sex before, and he hasn't got a clue; he's just repeating right-wing idiocy. After all, he doesn't appear to have any lingering health effects after his own experiences in jail ...

[Alferd Packer]

A side question pertaining to the topic at hand: how does one go about convincing his significant other into anal? Is there a perscribed method to go about it, or is just "PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE" until she says yes to get you off her case (and on that ass)?

[Darth Wong]

Good question. Most of us don't have wives or girlfriends who are quite as adventurous as Kelly. So there's an issue of overcoming hang-ups, etc.

I would suggest simply coming out and asking if she's ever been curious. If she says no, just answer "Oh, okay". And say NOTHING else; just sit there and allow the uncomfortable silence to goad her into asking the inevitable return question: "are YOU curious?"

At this point, I would suggest falling back and approaching the target from another angle. Try to cajole her into renting an instructional video like "Nina Hartley's Guide to Anal Sex". It will demystify it a LOT (Rebecca basically credited that video for overcoming her reluctance).

Then, try to work up to it. Start with a finger, perhaps while you're in the bathtub if you're both squeamish. Work up to two fingers, remembering to ALWAYS use lube (oil-based lube if you're in the bathtub, water-based lube elsewhere). I would say that if you reach that point, the rest is simply a matter of time.

[Alferd Packer]

But don't press the issue if she's adamantly aversed to it?

[Darth Wong]

But don't press the issue if she's adamantly aversed to it?

If she reacts with shock and horror, don't press the issue. Simply by asking the question, you've already made your interest known, thus achieving at least one objective: your dirty little secret wish is out in the open. Maybe you'll end up revisiting it later on down the road.

[Crown]

<Switch> The digital pimp, hard at work.</Switch>

[Darth Yoshi]

Oh goody. More advice from the Dark Lord. Cataloging...complete. I haven't had anal sex (or any for that matter).

[Alferd Packer]

Personally, it doesn't sound all that appetizing to me, but I'll never close the door on anything until I've given in a shot. Who knows, it might be a lot of fun.