The legendary "Women's Issues"

Post by **The Yosemite Bear** » 2003-02-16 03:09pm

And as far female Ex-Military....

We have the Dutchess (She was medically discharged from the Air Force, she said in one post long ago...)

Post by **Coyote** » 2003-02-16 11:09pm

Biddybot wrote:Hey, Coyote, what's this? 'Female soldiers...'? Navy and air force gals not good enough for you or something?

Well, being Army myelf, I tnd to think in that term, but yeah, femme sailors, fly gals, and Marines are welcome, although the Marine gals will have to have their backs shaven.... (heeheeehee)

XaLEv · Post by **XaLEv** » 2003-02-16 11:12pm

1. Gah.

innerbrat wrote:Preferences; techniques; stamina; girth; equipment; toys; protection; hygiene; flow strength; flow time; support and comfort over looks; pubic hair removal; and yes, if our EMOTIONS!

Now, who is this directed at? The only person other than myself I could think of it being for is Coyote, due to the way his post leaves off. If so, (insert sign of apathy here). If it's directed at me, refer to 1.

Kelly Antilles wrote:Ok, so you really want to know what the SoS:NBA is.

It is a place for we females to discuss things you boys would not want us discussing here in the OT forum. The moment one of us complains, you all tend to go off the deep end on us. That's why we have the forum. We can complain to like minded people.

No. I don't really want to know what the SoS:NBA is. I don't really want to know what the SoS:NBA is. I don't really want to know what the SoS:NBA is. I don't really want to know what the SoS:NBA is.

That's six times now. I mean only what I have already said, and only that. I only want to know about this shit that seems to disturb the rest of our species' males so badly. That it is spoken of in the SoS:NBA is coincidental. That it is spoken of in the SoS:NBA is coincidental.

You may now refer to 1.

aerius wrote:These "issues" you speak of, you really don't want to know about them if you don't have to, it's awful, and it's scarred me for life. One moment I was chilling with some girls at a movie, the next thing I know I have a 3 hour memory gap from the trauma inflicted by the discussion of these women's issues. I was in therapy for years in an attempt to resolve my post traumatic stress disorder and to find out what the issues were that caused it, and to this day I still don't know what the girls talked about that caused me so much pain and suffering. It's horrible, and I hope that you never have to go through anything like it.

Stop, you're getting my hopes up.

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-02-17 12:06am

XaLEv, we talk about guys. Us single girls, we talk about the guys we like, the guys we're trying to catch, and the guys who treat us like shit. The taken girls, they talk about how it's nice to have a place to talk without other guys around to bitch and moan when we need to bitch and moan. We talk about things we figure you'd rather not hear about, considering the way guys in general react to things like FDS and tampon commercials. We talk about cramps, and getting really emotional over nothing, and how great it feels to sit back with some Ben & Jerry's when life seems to totally suck, and we pyschoanalyze why guys say what they say and do what they do, even though we're pretty damn sure they don't think anything before saying and doing. We bitch about our friends who walk all over us, or who look right through us, or who've made us upset with some callous remark that they didn't even realize was hurtful. We talk about girlie movies and why we love them, and why we love it when our guys go to those girlie movies with us. We talk about secret looks, extra-long stares, and physical contact that may or may not mean a damn thing from the flavour of the month. We talk about the things our guy friends say or do that makes us love them more or want to bash their brains in, depending on the day and the comment/action. We worry over whether we look good enough to turn the head of that particular guy, and we worry whether there are too many other girlies out who can do the same.

See, since we generally look into things way more than the average guy, we have a lot more to discuss.

How's that?

Post by **Darth Wong** » 2003-02-17 01:16am

Women often like to talk about things that they would be reluctant to discuss in the company of men, for a variety of reasons.

After 10 years of marriage, I know a few things about womens' emotional needs, and that's simply one of them. There's no reason to worry about it, or resent it. They might not even be discussing anything that's particularly alien or scary or unheard-of, but particularly when those things relate to their own personal lives rather than some abstract social issue, they generally feel more comfortable discussing them with other women.

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-02-17 01:23am

XaLEv, have you ever noticed how chicks can have an entire conversation without actually saying a word? That's the kind of connection we have, and that's with ANY woman; the connection between girlfriends is even stronger. That's one of the reasons why there's the difference between what's said in the presence of guys and what's not; so much is already understood and implied that we need to gush on about the details when we get together. Which is why it probably would just sound like static to you...

Do you act differently when it's just the guys hanging out than when it's a mixed group of people? Sometimes guys feel they can't act or say certain things because chicks are around. Same is true for us. They're just usually not the same things.

GrandMasterTerwynn · Post by **GrandMasterTerwynn** » 2003-02-17 01:28am

Zaia wrote:
Mark S wrote:
Typhonis 1 wrote:Its called Society of Sisters No Boys allowed .And as for the mind blowing stuff EHH can`t be any worse than what thy show on Sex and the City

Hay, can I join? It says no BoyS plural. That means they can have one!
We have one. His name is Mike Wong. :D

<Rabbi Tuckman>
It's good to be the king!
</Rabbi Tuckman>

No, seriously. Whatever goes on behind those closed doors is their business. Let 'em be.

Drewcifer · Post by **Drewcifer** » 2003-02-17 01:45am

Darth Wong wrote:Women often like to talk about things that they would be reluctant to discuss in the company of men, for a variety of reasons.

Agreed. I'm a big fan of "girls-night-out". I learned long ago that as long as you trust your girlfriend, it's best if she has some secrets.

Too, XaLEv, if you have any questions, ask a good female friend if you can pick her brain. If you take it seriously, she will enlighten you to the mysterious ways of women.

XaLEv · Post by **XaLEv** » 2003-02-17 01:49am

Zaia wrote:<snip>

How's that?

Dunno. It's good to know, but is that supposed to be what goes on in SoS:NBA, or the things which supposedly make males run away screaming in terror? If (a) then I'd point out again that isn't what I'm after. If (b) then I must say I pity the average Y chromosome.

Zaia wrote:XaLEv, have you ever noticed how chicks can have an entire conversation without actually saying a word? That's the kind of connection we have, and that's with ANY woman; the connection between girlfriends is even stronger. That's one of the reasons why there's the difference between what's said in the presence of guys and what's not; so much is already understood and implied that we need to gush on about the details when we get together. Which is why it probably would just sound like static to you...

No, I can't say that I have ever noticed anything like that. But then, I don't think I've ever really been in a situation where I would notice such a thing.

Do you act differently when it's just the guys hanging out than when it's a mixed group of people?

No. The way I act around others is dependant solely on what kind of relationship I have with them.

Sometimes guys feel they can't act or say certain things because chicks are around. Same is true for us. They're just usually not the same things.

I'm not like that and find such behaviour foolish.

XaLEv · Post by **XaLEv** » 2003-02-17 01:53am

Drewcifer wrote: Too, XaLEv, if you have any questions, ask a good female friend if you can pick her brain.

......

Goddamn, I hadn't thought I would have as strong a reaction to that as I did.

At least it cleared my nose out....

Drewcifer · Post by **Drewcifer** » 2003-02-17 01:57am

XaLEv wrote:
Drewcifer wrote: Too, XaLEv, if you have any questions, ask a good female friend if you can pick her brain.
......

Goddamn, I hadn't thought I would have as strong a reaction to that as I did.

At least it cleared my nose out....

is that good or bad? I meant no offense.

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-02-17 02:02am

XaLEv wrote:Dunno. It's good to know, but is that supposed to be what goes on in SoS:NBA, or the things which supposedly make males run away screaming in terror? If (a) then I'd point out again that isn't what I'm after. If (b) then I must say I pity the average Y chromosome.

Some of it's what we talk about in the girlie forum, but I wrote that paragraph based on my various relationships with the different types of chicks I know and love. I don't know what's supposed to make males run away screaming, so I really can't tell you. As for pitying me, save it. I'm trying to do you a favour, and you're going to pay me back with a slap in the face? Thanks a lot.

No, I can't say that I have ever noticed anything like that. But then, I don't think I've ever really been in a situation where I would notice such a thing.

Well, then, maybe you have other things to figure out first, then.

No. The way I act around others is dependant solely on what kind of relationship I have with them.

Exactly my point. My friendships with guys are totally different than the ones I have with chicks. For instance, there's that whole sexual tension thing that's there between my guys friends and me (some more prominently than others) that's always going to be there. With my girlfriends (unless they're not straight), I don't have that issue, so naturally I behave differently with them.

I'm not like that and find such behaviour foolish.

I guess it depends on the behaviour. Some of my friends try to watch the language they use and how much they drink around me. Others don't. Depends on the person, I guess, but the fact that they try to treat me like a lady is a major mark in their book, as long as they don't change who they are for me. *shrug* They do it out of politeness, which I don't find even remotely foolish.

David · Post by **David** » 2003-02-17 02:11am

I have access to the SoS via the mirror board, and all of the other forums for that matter.

ArmorPierce · Post by **ArmorPierce** » 2003-02-17 02:16am

I'm jealous

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David · Post by **David** » 2003-02-17 02:18am

I said I have access, not that I looked. I considered deleting ALL of the private forums becuase of the number of supermods running around there, but I doubt anyone in the BotM care if they are seen.

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-02-17 02:25am

David wrote:I said I have access, not that I looked. I considered deleting ALL of the private forums becuase of the number of supermods running around there, but I doubt anyone in the BotM care if they are seen.

Thanks, sweetie, I really appreciate that. This sort of falls under that whole 'peeking into a chick's diary' category. If supermods end up reading the stuff in there, so be it, but if they ever say anything about what they read, they'll lose my respect since that stuff is supposed to be private.

XaLEv · Post by **XaLEv** » 2003-02-17 02:26am

Zaia wrote: Some of it's what we talk about in the girlie forum, but I wrote that paragraph based on my various relationships with the different types of chicks I know and love. I don't know what's supposed to make males run away screaming, so I really can't tell you. As for pitying me, save it. I'm trying to do you a favour, and you're going to pay me back with a slap in the face? Thanks a lot.

I didn't say anything about pitying you. I said "If (b) then I must say I pity the average Y chromosome." Last time I checked, the Y chromosome was male-only. Now, what exactly about that did you take as a slap in the face?

Well, then, maybe you have other things to figure out first, then.

I suppose I do.

I guess it depends on the behaviour. Some of my friends try to watch the language they use and how much they drink around me. Others don't. Depends on the person, I guess, but the fact that they try to treat me like a lady is a major mark in their book, as long as they don't change who they are for me. *shrug* They do it out of politeness, which I don't find even remotely foolish.

It's not being polite to a friend that I find foolish. Nothing wrong with that. I just think it's better for people to be themselves, else there is an element of deception present.

XaLEv · Post by **XaLEv** » 2003-02-17 02:28am

Drewcifer wrote: is that good or bad? I meant no offense.

No, I took no offense. And I'd definitely have to vote for 'bad'.

Drewcifer · Post by **Drewcifer** » 2003-02-17 02:41am

XaLEv wrote:
Drewcifer wrote: is that good or bad? I meant no offense.
No, I took no offense. And I'd definitely have to vote for 'bad'.

Cool. (I really suck at communicating online w/ people I haven't met in RL; I'm lost without eye contact, body language etc. to give people's words their true meanings)

Is that the first time you've seen "pick someone's brain" as a turn of phrase for "asking someone a lot of in-depth questions"? I try to keep my goofy sayings to a minimum around here, but they still slip out from time to time...

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-02-17 02:47am

XaLEv wrote:I didn't say anything about pitying you. I said "If (b) then I must say I pity the average Y chromosome." Last time I checked, the Y chromosome was male-only. Now, what exactly about that did you take as a slap in the face?

Sorry, my brain went on the fritz. I felt like I was being attacked and misread the Y for an X. I sincerely apologize.

I suppose I do.

Do you have girl friends who you're very close to?

It's not being polite to a friend that I find foolish. Nothing wrong with that. I just think it's better for people to be themselves, else there is an element of deception present.

Of course, but between hetero males & hetero females, there's always going to be that extra tension that slightly alters behaviour. People show off for other people; that's life. I can be completely myself with my guy friends, but that doesn't mean that I'm not also myself when I'm just with my girls. I have many sides to me, and certain people bring out certain sides. That doesn't make me fake, does it? I don't think so. *shrug*

XaLEv · Post by **XaLEv** » 2003-02-17 02:55am

Drewcifer wrote: Is that the first time you've seen "pick someone's brain" as a turn of phrase for "asking someone a lot of in-depth questions"? I try to keep my goofy sayings to a minimum around here, but they still slip out from time to time...

No, I am familiar with the phrase. Even if I wasn't, I could have figured out it's meaning from context.

Drewcifer · Post by **Drewcifer** » 2003-02-17 03:03am

XaLEv wrote:
Drewcifer wrote: Is that the first time you've seen "pick someone's brain" as a turn of phrase for "asking someone a lot of in-depth questions"? I try to keep my goofy sayings to a minimum around here, but they still slip out from time to time...
No, I am familiar with the phrase. Even if I wasn't, I could have figured out it's meaning from context.

Cool. I was just suprised that it made snot shoot out your nose

At any rate, I highly suggest an all night conversation with a close female friend. I learned more about women in one night at college with a girlfriend than my 18 years leading up to it. I asked her all those questions we guys have about women and our various gender differences etc. I learned volumes about all sorts of stuff, from motivations to menses; all very enlightening. And quite helpful when I later made trips to the drugstore at 3 am because I'm such a sweet boyfriend...

XaLEv · Post by **XaLEv** » 2003-02-17 03:09am

Zaia wrote:Sorry, my brain went on the fritz. I felt like I was being attacked and misread the Y for an X. I sincerely apologize.

Apology accepted.

Do you have girl friends who you're very close to?

Um.. I can't say for sure, at the moment, but I'd lean towards "No. No friends. At all." I'd then point you towards my exchange with Drewcifer.

Of course, but between hetero males & hetero females, there's always going to be that extra tension that slightly alters behaviour. People show off for other people; that's life.

I tend to think that I would only have that problem in a few situations, with my apathy overwhelming it everwhere else, but I'm really just pulling that out of my ass. No experience.

I can be completely myself with my guy friends, but that doesn't mean that I'm not also myself when I'm just with my girls. I have many sides to me, and certain people bring out certain sides. That doesn't make me fake, does it? I don't think so. *shrug*

Well, I understand that.

XaLEv · Post by **XaLEv** » 2003-02-17 03:14am

Drewcifer wrote:Cool. I was just suprised that it made snot shoot out your nose

Hahaha. OMG...that was funny. No offense, dude, but I think that went right over your head.

I'm in a weird mood, so I'll just say this:

Anatomy of the Lacrimal System

The lacrimal system consists of -
Lacrimal (Tear) gland - This is an almond shaped gland, located at the upper outer corner of each eye, just below the frontal bone. It produces tears.
Conjunctival mucus gland - secretion is an important part of tears.
Lacrimal punctum - is an opening located at the innermost corner of both the upper and lower lid. They collect tears from the eyes and drain it into the lacrimal canaliculi.
Lacrimal canaliculi - These tubes course along the inner lid margins and join to form the lacrimal sac.
Lacrimal sac - Located on the inner side of the eye, between the eye and the nose.
Nasolacrimal duct - It is the tube that runs from the sac into the nose.

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-02-17 03:18am

XaLEv wrote:Apology accepted.

Thank you. I would have felt simply awful (read: like an ass) had you held that stupid mistake against me.

Um.. I can't say for sure, at the moment, but I'd lean towards "No. No friends. At all." I'd then point you towards my exchange with Drewcifer.

Hmm, well, that changes my approach on how to explain things. That is, if you still want me to try.

I tend to think that I would only have that problem in a few situations, with my apathy overwhelming it everwhere else, but I'm really just pulling that out of my ass. No experience.

Someone somewhere once said that all relationships between the opposite sexes (or whoever it is that you're attracted to) are always affected by sexual tension. Even on a small level, even if it isn't from your side, there's always going to be a bit of it there. After all, for the most part, people are your friends because you like them. So, if you're friends with a chick, you already like her a bit and probably find her at least a little attractive just based on her personality. So, there's always that little bit of sexual attraction.

Of course, in some cases it's a lot more obvious than that. But the point is that with M/F friendships, they're never completely platonic, so there's always going to be that difference between how you act around the opposite sex and how you act around a group of people you will never be sexually attracted to.

Well, I understand that.

Well...good. I have nothing else to say to that.

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