Whom do you consider?

Evil Sadistic Bastard · Post by **Evil Sadistic Bastard** » 2002-12-03 01:00am

I have a small problem here.

I used to like this girl, but she rejected my gropes and pawings. So... eventually I kind of gave up and started bothering people like KElly and Zaia.

THing is, now that girls' come back to grope and paw ME. I am somewhat disturbed.

What should I do?

BTW I will never make fun of those guys in manga who are get confused when a girl comes on to them anymore.

Post by **Zaia** » 2002-12-03 01:03am

Evil Sadistic Bastard wrote:THing is, now that girls' come back to grope and paw ME. I am somewhat disturbed.

What should I do?

Disturbed? Why disturbed?

Evil Sadistic Bastard · Post by **Evil Sadistic Bastard** » 2002-12-03 01:04am

Because I don't really like her that much any more...

Argh i feel like such a bjerk...

Spanky The Dolphin · Post by **Spanky The Dolphin** » 2002-12-03 01:05am

Yeah, I hate it when I feel like a bjerk, too.

neoolong · Post by **neoolong** » 2002-12-03 01:07am

Honestly Zaia, that sound pretty bad. Forcing a woman like that, no matter if not sober is just wrong to me.

Post by **Zaia** » 2002-12-03 01:16am

neoolong wrote:Honestly Zaia, that sound pretty bad. Forcing a woman like that, no matter if not sober is just wrong to me.

I suppose I should mention that it was just an Amaretto Sour and hardly alcoholic at all (I guess that's not really the point, but I'd have been majorly angry if it had been a Long Island Iced Tea or something). He was being a brat because he knew I would have to stay another hour or two so I would be sure that I could drive, and I like the fact that he wanted me to stay that badly.

I guess maybe it still sounds bad, but he's never done anything like that ever in the past. He always holds doors and does other gentlemanly things, which is why I was so surprised that he did that in the first place. He's not usually a pushy asshole. I would have been annoyed with him a bit if I hadn't enjoyed the physical contact so much.

neoolong · Post by **neoolong** » 2002-12-03 01:23am

Zaia wrote:
neoolong wrote:Honestly Zaia, that sound pretty bad. Forcing a woman like that, no matter if not sober is just wrong to me.
I suppose I should mention that it was just an Amaretto Sour and hardly alcoholic at all (I guess that's not really the point, but I'd have been majorly angry if it had been a Long Island Iced Tea or something). He was being a brat because he knew I would have to stay another hour or two so I would be sure that I could drive, and I like the fact that he wanted me to stay that badly.

I guess maybe it still sounds bad, but he's never done anything like that ever in the past. He always holds doors and does other gentlemanly things, which is why I was so surprised that he did that in the first place. He's not usually a pushy asshole. I would have been annoyed with him a bit if I hadn't enjoyed the physical contact so much.

Still that's pretty damn fucked up, and it only takes once. I do the gentlemanly crap and all, but I still don't justify being a pushy asshole. And there is a line between good physical contact and being an ass.

Post by **Zaia** » 2002-12-03 01:28am

neoolong wrote:Still that's pretty damn fucked up, and it only takes once. I do the gentlemanly crap and all, but I still don't justify being a pushy asshole. And there is a line between good physical contact and being an ass.

I suppose so. I am very good at standing up for myself when people cross lines with me, though, so if he was truly being a dick or offending me in any way, I would have definitely said so, both at the time and later when he was completely sober. Besides, I've known him for ages, so he can get away with things that guys I don't know as well can't get away with.

Post by **Darth Wong** » 2002-12-03 01:33am

Zaia, if he gets that close to you, he wants you.

Men do not feel comfortable with extreme physical proximity to other people, unless there's some kind of sexual desire involved. There is a "personal space" buffer zone that we generally maintain.

neoolong · Post by **neoolong** » 2002-12-03 01:33am

Zaia wrote:
neoolong wrote:Still that's pretty damn fucked up, and it only takes once. I do the gentlemanly crap and all, but I still don't justify being a pushy asshole. And there is a line between good physical contact and being an ass.
I suppose so. I am very good at standing up for myself when people cross lines with me, though, so if he was truly being a dick or offending me in any way, I would have definitely said so, both at the time and later when he was completely sober. Besides, I've known him for ages, so he can get away with things that guys I don't know as well can't get away with.

Okay, if you know what you're doing. I just don't want you to get hurt.

Evil Sadistic Bastard · Post by **Evil Sadistic Bastard** » 2002-12-03 01:34am

Darth Wong wrote:Zaia, if he gets that close to you, he wants you.

Men do not feel comfortable with extreme physical proximity to other people, unless there's some kind of sexual desire involved. There is a "personal space" buffer zone that we generally maintain.

Yah. What he said.
No bloody wonder I'm feeling so disturbed.

Post by **Zaia** » 2002-12-03 01:43am

neoolong wrote:Okay, if you know what you're doing. I just don't want you to get hurt.

I can take care of myself, but thank you for worrying about me. *kisses cheek*

Darth Wong wrote:Zaia, if he gets that close to you, he wants you.

Men do not feel comfortable with extreme physical proximity to other people, unless there's some kind of sexual desire involved. There is a "personal space" buffer zone that we generally maintain.

Oh I hope you're right. You usually are, so your comments comfort me.

ESB wrote:Yah. What he said.
No bloody wonder I'm feeling so disturbed.

Has your girlie been doing this kind of thing to you? Is that why you are tres disturbed?

neoolong · Post by **neoolong** » 2002-12-03 01:49am

Darth Wong wrote:Zaia, if he gets that close to you, he wants you.

Men do not feel comfortable with extreme physical proximity to other people, unless there's some kind of sexual desire involved. There is a "personal space" buffer zone that we generally maintain.

Word. Of course getting so damn close and still not getting any sucks.

Post by **Zaia** » 2002-12-03 02:04am

neoolong wrote:Word. Of course getting so damn close and still not getting any sucks.

I suppose, but being teased like that feels pretty damn good too.

Post by **Vympel** » 2002-12-03 02:07am

neoolong wrote:
Darth Wong wrote:Zaia, if he gets that close to you, he wants you.

Men do not feel comfortable with extreme physical proximity to other people, unless there's some kind of sexual desire involved. There is a "personal space" buffer zone that we generally maintain.
Word. Of course getting so damn close and still not getting any sucks.

I wholeheartedly agree. Being so close yet being very far away .....

neoolong · Post by **neoolong** » 2002-12-03 02:09am

Zaia wrote:
neoolong wrote:Word. Of course getting so damn close and still not getting any sucks.
I suppose, but being teased like that feels pretty damn good too.

Not if you're a guy. And not if it's constantly. Agh.

Post by **Vympel** » 2002-12-03 02:11am

neoolong wrote:
Zaia wrote:
neoolong wrote:Word. Of course getting so damn close and still not getting any sucks.
I suppose, but being teased like that feels pretty damn good too.
Not if you're a guy. And not if it's constantly. Agh.

Again- agree

Being led on sucks majorly when it leads to nothing. There's only so much I can take. It also deludes you into thinking you may have a chance.

Post by **Zaia** » 2002-12-03 02:17am

neoolong wrote:Not if you're a guy. And not if it's constantly. Agh.

I don't tease him, except for my occasional references to handcuffs, scarves, leashes, leather, etc...

I just drop comments every once in a while that make him raise one of his eyebrows at me in a very sexy way. I don't think just that would cause physical pain....

Besides, I'm not a guy. I take pleasure in intense flirting. And he was the one to initiate it, so if it got to him, it was his own damn fault.

neoolong · Post by **neoolong** » 2002-12-03 02:23am

Zaia wrote:
neoolong wrote:Not if you're a guy. And not if it's constantly. Agh.
I don't tease him, except for my occasional references to handcuffs, scarves, leashes, leather, etc... I just drop comments every once in a while that make him raise one of his eyebrows at me in a very sexy way. I don't think just that would cause physical pain....

Agh, that is damn sexy.

Besides, I'm not a guy. I take pleasure in intense flirting. And he was the one to initiate it, so if it got to him, it was his own damn fault.

But we can't help it. It's ingrained in our very essence.

And this is getting off topic. I have AIM you know.

Post by **Zaia** » 2002-12-03 02:49pm

Ok, I guess that's about it, then. It's good to know that I can't be subtle when/if I approach him. Although he knows me very well and can guess at my feelings very well, this is sort of a different kind of situation.

If he wasn't currently living with his psychobitch gf, I would probably say something or maybe just kiss him... Ah, well. We shall see.

Thank you for all your help.

Knife · Post by **Knife** » 2002-12-03 02:52pm

Zaia wrote:Ok, I guess that's about it, then. It's good to know that I can't be subtle when/if I approach him. Although he knows me very well and can guess at my feelings very well, this is sort of a different kind of situation.

If he wasn't currently living with his psychobitch gf, I would probably say something or maybe just kiss him... Ah, well. We shall see.

Thank you for all your help.

Ok, its been a few day's now, I WANT A PROGRESS REPORT,please........

Post by **Ghost Rider** » 2002-12-03 02:56pm

Living with GF(psychobizanatch or no) presents a problem.

Usually tends to dull the mind.

Larz · Post by **Larz** » 2002-12-03 03:17pm

Darth Wong is right, I even felt uncomfortable when my best friend Petar would try to jump on me... yes he was an odd fellow. If he makes a lot of physical contact with you then its a positive sign that hes attracted to you in some way. To answering your question, I prefer to know a girl before I like her as a potential love. Even with old friends, I still feel some sexual attraction to them, even if I feel like their brother rather than their friend.

Post by **Zaia** » 2002-12-03 04:20pm

Ghost Rider wrote:Living with GF(psychobizanatch or no) presents a problem.

Usually tends to dull the mind.

Yes, well, they've only been living together for just over a week and a half now, and it seems that not only is she spoiled and whiny, but she's also anal retentive/obssessive compulsive (makes him wind up the cord around the PS2 controllers and put them in a pretty little basket after every time he plays; she has a place for EVERYTHING), which seems to annoy the piss out of him. She constantly talks about how she is going to make him marry her, and every time she says this, he rolls his eyes and says something about how she might think of asking what he thinks about that before broadcasting to the whole world about where their kids are going to go to school and such.

Ted · Post by **Ted** » 2002-12-03 05:37pm

Zaia, a question, when he was feeding you the alchohol, why didn't you, tempt him, like lick your lips or something, something that would get him closer, or after he let go of your hands, why didn't you grab him or something?
I mean if you're that into him, and he was doing that to you, wouldn't it seem logical to get him?