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None taken, many things online sail right over meXaLEv wrote:Hahaha. OMG...that was funny. No offense, dude, but I think that went right over your head.Drewcifer wrote:Cool. I was just suprised that it made snot shoot out your nose
[yoda]ah, understand now I do[/yoda]XaLEv wrote:...Anatomy of the Lacrimal System...
Original Warsie ++ Smartass! ~ Picker ~ Grinner ~ Lover ~ Sinner ++ "There's no time for later now"So does that sexual tension ever go away? I remember that I had asked out a girl who turned me down and just wanted to be friends. Wasn't my first choice but we hung out. I didn't view her as a potential and didn't really act differently around her, well except talking about the attractiveness of other women that I do with guys. Yet still in about a week we end up sleeping together, uh I assumed that meant that she wanted to be more than friends. It was a bit more gradual than that, but that was the net effect. I was rather suprised at the turn of events. And then a week or so later she says she wants to just be friends and doesn't want to hurt me. Note, this of course, happened on Thursday, ironic to say the least.Zaia wrote:Someone somewhere once said that all relationships between the opposite sexes (or whoever it is that you're attracted to) are always affected by sexual tension. Even on a small level, even if it isn't from your side, there's always going to be a bit of it there. After all, for the most part, people are your friends because you like them. So, if you're friends with a chick, you already like her a bit and probably find her at least a little attractive just based on her personality. So, there's always that little bit of sexual attraction.
Of course, in some cases it's a lot more obvious than that. But the point is that with M/F friendships, they're never completely platonic, so there's always going to be that difference between how you act around the opposite sex and how you act around a group of people you will never be sexually attracted to.
A few unsolicted opinions from a male: No, not really. I'm 33, and there's still some tension around with almost all of my female friends, even the ones that are married now. It's not a big deal, it doesn't really get in the way of any friendships, and I would never damage any of my friendships just for a lay, but the tension is still there, and sometimes it's mutual.neoolong wrote:So does that sexual tension ever go away?
Original Warsie ++ Smartass! ~ Picker ~ Grinner ~ Lover ~ Sinner ++ "There's no time for later now"
Oh yeah, I forgot that making you an admin of the mirror-board would do that. But as long as you aren't snooping around, I guess that shouldn't matter.David wrote:I have access ...
I think Xalev is just demonstrating some of the differences between the theoretical and practical approach to womenKelly Antilles wrote:Wow... this thread has gone on a lot longer than I expected.
Hm, yeah, probably. It's unfortunate that I can't work with such vague questions as he was proposing. Tell me exactly what you want to know and I'll explain it to you. Zaia did a good job of that, I think.Darth Wong wrote: I think Xalev is just demonstrating some of the differences between the theoretical and practical approach to women
PS. Your original avatar is back! Yay!!!!
Yeah. Thought I'd go back to her for a while. Maybe it'll bring me more respect.
*hugs YB* I'm a spoiled brat. I grew up with 3 mothers and 3 fathers (mom, dad, 2 sisters and 2 brothers that range from 18-10 years older than me). For some reason I have a hugely maternal instinct with my friends, but I can't begin to think of myself as a mother.The Yosemite Bear wrote:respect....
great now I've got that song stuck in my head, oh well, it's fitting considering what most males know of women's issues is either from music or TV, and most of them don't get the messages anyways...
of course growing up with split up parents, and then later with a smaller female sibling (she's like Zaia's age), I have an understandable overly protective fraturnal instinct going...
I think part of why this thread has lasted so long is that he doesn't really know what it is he wants to know.Kelly Antilles wrote:Hm, yeah, probably. It's unfortunate that I can't work with such vague questions as he was proposing. Tell me exactly what you want to know and I'll explain it to you. Zaia did a good job of that, I think.
Besides, we don't talk about different things than a group of guys may. We just say it differently.
Maybe it'll bring you more respect? Who's been disrespecting you?Kelly Antilles wrote:What?Zaia wrote:
Well, for what it's worth, I had a big bad crush on your original av; it's nice to see her back **prrrr**Kelly Antilles wrote:It's more like when I was using Faye, people seemed to disregard anything I said. And well, it's not getting any better yet. Maybe it will.
Original Warsie ++ Smartass! ~ Picker ~ Grinner ~ Lover ~ Sinner ++ "There's no time for later now"Of course not. I wouldn't do that.Zaia wrote:Thank you. I would have felt simply awful (read: like an ass) had you held that stupid mistake against me.
Sure.Hmm, well, that changes my approach on how to explain things. That is, if you still want me to try.
Yes, I realize all of that.Someone somewhere once said that all relationships between the opposite sexes (or whoever it is that you're attracted to) are always affected by sexual tension. Even on a small level, even if it isn't from your side, there's always going to be a bit of it there. After all, for the most part, people are your friends because you like them. So, if you're friends with a chick, you already like her a bit and probably find her at least a little attractive just based on her personality.
I don't deny that there would be attraction. I'm just saying that unless that attraction is quite strong, I wouldn't really care about it.So, there's always that little bit of sexual attraction.
It's not just the reason for this thread's longevity, but it's whole existance. Of course I don't know what exactly it is I'm looking for. No one ever says what it is, always just vague references to "It". It's beginning to look like "it" - whatever "it" is - is really just something (or more likely large number of somethings) tame and trivial ( to me, at least), and all the "OMG THE GOGGLES DO NOTHING!" shit I see about it is centered on a small core of queasy individuals who blow it all out of proportion, and that the rest of it is just a bunch of ignorant alarmists pointing into the darkness and screaming. I've suspected this for a while, but now it would seem that my suspicions are being confirmed.Zaia wrote:I think part of why this thread has lasted so long is that he doesn't really know what it is he wants to know.
