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Here's the situation: There's a girl at my school which I liked since the beginning of the school year. We're good friends and all, and I recently found out she already knew (Yeah, I'm really subtle alright ) Anyways, she knows that I like her, but is choosing to ignore the fact that I do. So, what's your read about her feelings towards me? Neutral? We're still friendly, and I think she's suspected a long time...

And don't tell me to ask her out; I've already decided to not do that until at least my sophmore year.
Maybe some of the females could help? Zaia or Kelly or Brat...?

If she is ignoring your feelings then I hate to tell she is not interested. Sorry man.

Wouldn't know how to read it actually, though on the bright side, at least your body and mind are into girls, mine are not, which gives added problems with reading signals...

Sorry man thats never happened to me. I've either been slapped or taken to bed when I showed my interest and made it known. Of course in retrospect you are better off because you are in the middle while I have only experienced the extremes.

If you don't want to date her yet, what's the problem?

I have no problem, I just want to know your analysis on this...

Okay. Well, ignoring your means 3 things.

1) she doesn't know
2) she knows, but isn't interested
3) she knows, she's interested, and she's waiting for you to make a move.

She knows. That leaves only the last two, which I've already figured out.

What I want to know is which one do you think is more likely?

Impossible to tell unless she starts getting more pissy with you. That means she wants you to do something but, since you don't you're a coward. The fact that she's saying nothing doesn't factor into that equation.

Well as for which of the two is more likely...that you're going have to push forth.

Do nothing and it won't matter which one it was.

Do a search for Clarence Carter on Kazaa. He has all the information you need.

Exonerate wrote:She knows. That leaves only the last two, which I've already figured out.

What I want to know is which one do you think is more likely?

Depends on the chickie. Is she outgoing and loud, generally, or is she more reserved and quiet?


Oh, wait--I'm sorry. You wanted useless advice. Hmmm. In your case, then, I'd say plant some begonias and start protesting the painful way active yogurt cultures are mercilessly eaten everyday to the point of near extinction by people on fad diets.

Exonerate wrote:She knows. That leaves only the last two, which I've already figured out.

What I want to know is which one do you think is more likely?

The best way to find out is to ask her out. If she's interested, she'll take you up on it. Trust me: nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Zaia wrote:

Exonerate wrote:She knows. That leaves only the last two, which I've already figured out.

What I want to know is which one do you think is more likely?

Depends on the chickie. Is she outgoing and loud, generally, or is she more reserved and quiet?

She's usually a bit shy, but is very friendly once you get to know her.

Oh, wait--I'm sorry. You wanted useless advice. Hmmm. In your case, then, I'd say plant some begonias and start protesting the painful way active yogurt cultures are mercilessly eaten everyday to the point of near extinction by people on fad diets.

Where is that "wtf" smilie when I need it...

Exonerate wrote:She's usually a bit shy, but is very friendly once you get to know her.

Well, let me see. I think the chance that she's interested but just too shy to do anything about it is about 50/50, maybe 60/40 in your favour. Since you're friends with her, that adds more importance to the relationship, and being as young as you are, she'd have to be really sure that she had very strong feelings for you because there's a definite chance that your relationship won't last through high school/college/life after college to the point where you'd get married, have 2.5 kids and live happily ever after. It could, but it probably wouldn't. She would know that she'd essentially have to choose between dating you for a while or being your friend for possibly years and years to come. So, although she might be interested, she might value your friendship too much to say anything about any feelings she may or may not have for you.

There would always be the chance that if you asked her out she'd say yes because you would have shown her that you cared enough for her to put yourself out on a limb to get her, but there's also the chance that she'd say no because she'd be afraid that would ruin your friendship and things might get weird.

And if she doesn't have any feelings at all for you, as long as you didn't stalk her or anything, seems like things would go on as they have been. She's been ok with ignoring the situation so far, so there's no reason to believe that it would change after you confront her about it, if you ever do.

*shrug* That's all I can come up with.

Where is that "wtf" smilie when I need it...

You asked for useless advice. I supplied some. What's so 'WTF' about that?

Thanks for all the advise people

Exonerate wrote:Thanks for all the advise people

Going to try any of it?

OK, I think she probably knows, and if it doens't become more obvious, she probably neither likes you back nor minds that you like her.
So just relax and keep being her friend.

Lucky bastard.

OK, I think she probably knows, and if it doens't become more obvious, she probably neither likes you back nor minds that you like her.
So just relax and keep being her friend.

Caution is advised. Don't get too hung up on her, and draw a clear line of demarcation. Don't do shit for her that would be in the boyfriend preserve. In fact, don't go out of your way to be really nice/sweet to her. It won't get you anywhere. Just go about your business, treat her like you would ANY other friend.

Casually ask her if she'd like to come over to your place and watch porno with you

Wong, he can't legally watch porn. I doubt that'll go over too well.

Just do what I'm going to do sometime this week. Talk to the girl you've been masturbating over for quite some time and place when you two can be alone and not interrupted, and tell her you like her (leave out the masturbation part) and that you're interested in a relationship with her. Fuck waiting till your sophomore year. If she likes you now and you do nothing, she'll probably be over you by then.

Darth Wong wrote:Casually ask her if she'd like to come over to your place and watch porno with you

She's more of the modest and sweet and innocent kind... Wouldn't fly unless she was severely drunk or high, but she's wouldn't do that...

Durandal: I have my reasons for waiting...

Just ask her out. There's really not much to risk.

At least you'd have more courage than I did/do.