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Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-27 09:43pm
by Kitsune
This is heartbreaking
http://www.examiner.com/article/girl-12 ... her-heaven

Yes, I am sure that there are other issues but there is no daddy in heaven unfortunately
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Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven
October 27, 2013

In Poland, a school girl commits suicide in the hope of being reunited with her dead father in heaven.

Maria Kislo, 12, was found hanged in her bedroom with a note saying she wanted to be with her dad in heaven.

Reports indicate the young girl was left devastated by the loss of her father, Arek, who died after suffering a sudden heart attack in 2009.

The girl was discovered hanging in her room by her mother Monika, 35, when she went to read her a bedtime story.

About her daughter, the dead girl’s mom said: "She didn't seem unhappy. She didn't have problems at school and she seemed a happy little girl."

She added: "I had no idea she missed her father so much, she never really spoke about it."

A great man once said “Religion poisons everything.” The tragic and heartbreaking story of Maria Kislo only confirms such sentiment. For one so young to throw their life away in some misguided hope for an afterlife is deeply disturbing, and a potent reminder of the irreparable damage caused by religious superstition.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-27 10:11pm
by Mr. Coffee
Goddamnit... Thanks for the downer, Kitsune.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-29 11:14pm
by Scrib
This is why religious people hammer the idea that suicide doesn't lead to heaven. Unfortunately it apparently did not get through.

As for the anti-theist message:meh,I'm kinda inured at this point I suppose.I find it hard to get it up. Especially since the story is about perspectiveless kid fucking up.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-29 11:30pm
by Jub
If she wasn't abused by having religion forced on her maybe she would have opened up to other people instead of talking to god and killing herself. In fact, I think this is great proof that religion, in and of itself, does nothing to prevent or treat depression and that in fact it might lead to cases like this.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-29 11:34pm
by AniThyng
Jub wrote:If she wasn't abused by having religion forced on her maybe she would have opened up to other people instead of talking to god and killing herself. In fact, I think this is great proof that religion, in and of itself, does nothing to prevent or treat depression and that in fact it might lead to cases like this.
I honestly find the slant of the article somewhat unbecoming - and yours even worse. I don't think proves anything any more then anyone cherry picking a case of a depressed atheist killing himself because he has nothing else.

"abused by having religion forced on her". Riiight.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-29 11:45pm
by Borgholio
Yeah the first thought in my mind was to blame religion. But shit...a little girl just died, and now her mother must be going through all sorts of hell. I'll save my preaching for a less tragic time.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-29 11:54pm
by AniThyng
Borgholio wrote:Yeah the first thought in my mind was to blame religion. But shit...a little girl just died, and now her mother must be going through all sorts of hell. I'll save my preaching for a less tragic time.
Yeah. Look, the girl was 11 when her father died (presumably unexpectedly, since it was a sudden heart attack), and from the article she took it pretty hard. Maybe I'm being (EDIT: not) entirely rational about it, but I'm finding it hard to see taking this and using it as an example of how religion is bad is anything but a cheap shot.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-29 11:57pm
by Scrib
Jub wrote:If she wasn't abused by having religion forced on her maybe she would have opened up to other people instead of talking to god and killing herself.
Or maybe some people deal with grief by shutting down?
In fact, I think this is great proof that religion, in and of itself, does nothing to prevent or treat depression and that in fact it might lead to cases like this.
You do realize how ridiculous this is right? From the one case that agrees with me, I have proven that the exact conclusion I want to be true is true! Fuck the scientific method, adopt the Jub method today!

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 12:17am
by Jub
AniThyng wrote:
Jub wrote:If she wasn't abused by having religion forced on her maybe she would have opened up to other people instead of talking to god and killing herself. In fact, I think this is great proof that religion, in and of itself, does nothing to prevent or treat depression and that in fact it might lead to cases like this.
I honestly find the slant of the article somewhat unbecoming - and yours even worse. I don't think proves anything any more then anyone cherry picking a case of a depressed atheist killing himself because he has nothing else.
You can take the slant any which way you like, no skin off my back. Except that we've had people on this very board try to post studies showing that religion helps with this sort of thing, I figure this makes a decent anecdote against it.
"abused by having religion forced on her". Riiight.
How is religion not child abuse? You're telling kids that they'll suffer for all eternity if they don't worship your imaginary friend. If I said that to a kid and replaced god with a random comet or aliens, people would have no issue telling me that it's child abuse. Not to mention the whole, join us in heaven when you die angle that prompted this girl to kill herself.
Scrib wrote:
Jub wrote:If she wasn't abused by having religion forced on her maybe she would have opened up to other people instead of talking to god and killing herself.
Or maybe some people deal with grief by shutting down?
Those people, assuming a lack of religion, don't kill themselves to get to heaven which is what this girl did. Perhaps she would have done it anyway, but her religion seems to have been pretty harmful to her in this particular case.
In fact, I think this is great proof that religion, in and of itself, does nothing to prevent or treat depression and that in fact it might lead to cases like this.
You do realize how ridiculous this is right? From the one case that agrees with me, I have proven that the exact conclusion I want to be true is true! Fuck the scientific method, adopt the Jub method today!
It's no worse than the junk studies, such as the one that [url="http://bbs.stardestroyer.net/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=158442"]TimothyC posted in SLAM[/quote]. At least here there is a relatively clear cause and effect on display.
Yeah the first thought in my mind was to blame religion. But shit...a little girl just died, and now her mother must be going through all sorts of hell. I'll save my preaching for a less tragic time.
When else should we be bringing this up? A kid died trying to get to heaven, it seems like talking about what she stated she kill herself over is perfectly valid.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 12:17am
by AniThyng
Reading the comments on the posted article is even more uninspiring. These are not people I would want consoling anyone. 9_9 But of course big strong atheists are better then abused religious people and surely would not deal with grief in any self-destructive ways.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 12:24am
by Jub
AniThyng wrote:Reading the comments on the posted article is even more uninspiring. These are not people I would want consoling anyone. 9_9 But of course big strong atheists are better then abused religious people and surely would not deal with grief in any self-destructive ways.
At least when an atheist does it they know that they face oblivion in doing so. A Christian would have the false hope that they will wind up in heaven. It doesn't change the outcome, but it might change the odds of trying in the first place.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 04:00am
by Tiriol
Jub wrote:
AniThyng wrote:Reading the comments on the posted article is even more uninspiring. These are not people I would want consoling anyone. 9_9 But of course big strong atheists are better then abused religious people and surely would not deal with grief in any self-destructive ways.
At least when an atheist does it they know that they face oblivion in doing so. A Christian would have the false hope that they will wind up in heaven. It doesn't change the outcome, but it might change the odds of trying in the first place.
How? A person committing suicide rarely gives rat's ass about what comes after, be it non-existence or some sort of afterlife. Many of them are incredibly depressed and their brains aren't working right: no rational consideration like "hmm, if I no jump off the bridge, I'll cease to exist as a person and will be nothing more than a piece of rotting organic waste material without sapience" enters their thought processes at that point. Mostly it's "I have nothing to live for, nothing" or "I wish that the pain will stop now". Of course there might be some rational reasons for suicide, like trying to prevent a lifetime of torture or slavery or something like that, but at that point it's more about trying to avoid some horrible fate than about contemplating what happens to you if you off yourself.

This kid's case is tragic and sad. Those close to her will now think over and over if they could have done something and did they miss some clues or hints in her behaviour and speech. She was far too young to die, especially by her own hand.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 04:26am
by AniThyng
Most religions have fairly explicit clauses against suicide anyway, so the devout would probably have to be pushed pretty hard to even consider it, and if they are going to disregard that in the hope that they'd maybe get into heaven, they could disregard any other reasoning you care to offer, secular or religious.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 04:36am
by Jub
Tiriol wrote:
Jub wrote:
AniThyng wrote:Reading the comments on the posted article is even more uninspiring. These are not people I would want consoling anyone. 9_9 But of course big strong atheists are better then abused religious people and surely would not deal with grief in any self-destructive ways.
At least when an atheist does it they know that they face oblivion in doing so. A Christian would have the false hope that they will wind up in heaven. It doesn't change the outcome, but it might change the odds of trying in the first place.
How? A person committing suicide rarely gives rat's ass about what comes after, be it non-existence or some sort of afterlife. Many of them are incredibly depressed and their brains aren't working right: no rational consideration like "hmm, if I no jump off the bridge, I'll cease to exist as a person and will be nothing more than a piece of rotting organic waste material without sapience" enters their thought processes at that point. Mostly it's "I have nothing to live for, nothing" or "I wish that the pain will stop now". Of course there might be some rational reasons for suicide, like trying to prevent a lifetime of torture or slavery or something like that, but at that point it's more about trying to avoid some horrible fate than about contemplating what happens to you if you off yourself.

This kid's case is tragic and sad. Those close to her will now think over and over if they could have done something and did they miss some clues or hints in her behaviour and speech. She was far too young to die, especially by her own hand.
People need a lot of willpower to commit suicide, that's precisely why so few people with suicidal thoughts actually do it. Adding one more barrier, however thin, makes taking that all too final step a little harder. How is this hard to understand?
Most religions have fairly explicit clauses against suicide anyway, so the devout would probably have to be pushed pretty hard to even consider it, and if they are going to disregard that in the hope that they'd maybe get into heaven, they could disregard any other reasoning you care to offer, secular or religious.
Most religions have a lot of rules that people who consider themselves practicing members ignore on a regular basis either out of laziness, giving into basic desires, or because they believe they will be forgiven for it. I think this is because people often see God and/or Jesus as a personal best friend and forget the rules that are supposed to be tied to having them be your best friend back. It isn't a stretch to think that they would consider suicide something forgivable if they think of God in such a way.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 04:48am
by AniThyng
Well.

http://www.gallup.com/poll/108625/more- ... rates.aspx

http://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/article ... eID=177228

Using the power of my fuzzy layman powers, it sounds to me that the social construct and framework of religion in the end overcomes the "if i commit suicide i get to go to heaven so I should commit suicide" factor. This suggests that what needs to happen is that secular organizations need to step up and do something to fill the void that is left if one decides to cut religion out of ones life, and thus religion itself is not an ideal solution, just the solution that happens to be present.

Mind, the girl was 12. I doubt any of these considerations apply to her mental state specifically, and I am not certain the outcome would have been any different if she were raised in a hardcore secularist family, unless you are arguing that they would be more likely to notice she is feeling suicidal than a religious family would be, and that she would more easily accept the "daddy is gone forever" notion than the "daddy is waiting for me in heaven" notion.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 05:57am
by Jub
Even the article you quoted says this publication doesn't prove that more religion = lower suicide rates. Did you even read the entire thing before posting it?
And again, this one doesn't prove anything, is only related to suicide attempts and not actual suicides, and has poor methodology associated with it. Did they even consider the fact that the non-theists were committing suicide due to the factors they failed to control for such the following "Unaffiliated subjects were younger, less often married, less often had children, and had less contact with family members", the very factors that showed the highest connection to suicides. The lack of a social network seems to play a larger part in suicides that religion. Also noted as is the possibility that some theists failed to make note of suicide attempts due to shame or guilt. This calls into question the entire data set given that the data they gathered was purely from surveys that people may or may not have been entirely truthful on.

Here are some other weaknesses as stated in the study:

"This study has some limitations. For example, it did not assess religious upbringing, religious practice, or the level of personal devotion. Therefore, it is possible that depressed patients who stated that they were atheists or had no religion had abandoned religion as a consequence of depression or hopelessness. It is notable that hopelessness and depression scores were similar in the religious and nonreligious group but that the two groups differed strongly on perceived reasons for living. This suggests that some positive aspect of religious affiliation overcame the negative effects of depression, stressful life events, and hopelessness. Perhaps this was also manifested in the presence of less suicidal ideation."

In fact none of your studies do anything more than show a correlation between lower suicide rates and religion and given the methodology used the results are suspect at best. This is especially true when other studies have been conducted that show no relation between depression and religion.

Here's the abstract for one such study:

http://journals.cambridge.org/action/di ... 1712003066
Abstract
Background Sev
eral studies have reported weak associations between religious or spiritual belief and psychological health. However, most have been cross-sectional surveys in the USA, limiting inference about generalizability. An international longitudinal study of incidence of major depression gave us the opportunity to investigate this relationship further.
Method Data were collected in a prospective cohort study of adult general practice attendees across seven countries. Participants were followed at 6 and 12 months. Spiritual and religious beliefs were assessed using a standardized questionnaire, and DSM-IV diagnosis of major depression was made using the Composite International Diagnostic Interview (CIDI). Logistic regression was used to estimate incidence rates and odds ratios (ORs), after multiple imputation of missing data.
Results The analyses included 8318 attendees. Of participants reporting a spiritual understanding of life at baseline, 10.5% had an episode of depression in the following year compared to 10.3% of religious participants and 7.0% of the secular group (p < 0.001). However, the findings varied significantly across countries, with the difference being significant only in the UK, where spiritual participants were nearly three times more likely to experience an episode of depression than the secular group [OR 2.73, 95% confidence interval (CI) 1.59–4.68]. The strength of belief also had an effect, with participants with strong belief having twice the risk of participants with weak belief. There was no evidence of religion acting as a buffer to prevent depression after a serious life event.
Conclusions These results do not support the notion that religious and spiritual life views enhance psychological well-being.
Here's an article about this study.

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/dr-raj- ... 28675.html
Previously studies appeared to show that religious and spiritual beliefs may be protective for depression, and were associated with better well-being. It was a widely held view amongst psychiatrists (who are not, as a group, particularly religious) that religion and spirituality protected your mood from the vicissitudes of life's misfortunes.

But now, a very large study, which followed up people for a year, has found there is an opposite relationship between religious belief and depression. Religion, and even more, spirituality not tied to formal religion, appears to be unhelpful in terms of protecting you from low mood, and could even be linked with more depression.

A key finding of the study, conducted in several different counties, is that a spiritual life view predisposed to major depression, especially significantly in the UK, where spiritual participants were nearly three times more likely to experience an episode of depression than the secular group.

The results are startling because previous research found formally religious people had good mental health habits and lifestyle, for example, previous studies established they were less likely to have ever used drugs or to have been hazardous drinkers.

Entitled 'Spiritual and religious beliefs as risk factors for the onset of major depression: an international cohort study', the relationship with religious and spiritual belief was investigated in depth by researchers led by Professor Michael King from University College London. Over 8,000 people visiting general practices across seven countries were followed up at six and 12 months. The general practices were in the UK, Spain, Slovenia, Estonia, the Netherlands, Portugal and Chile. These general practices covered urban and rural populations with considerable socio-economic variation.

The study has just been published in one of the most respected academic psychiatric journals, 'Psychological Medicine'. It was conducted by researchers at several UK and European universities and Chile.

The study defined religion as meaning the practice of a faith, eg going to a temple, mosque, church or synagogue. Being 'spiritual' was defined as not formally following a religion, but having spiritual beliefs or experiences. For example, believing that there is some power or force other than yourself, which might influence life.

People who held a religious or spiritual understanding of life had a higher incidence of depression than those with a secular life view. However, this finding varied by country; in particular, people in the UK who had a spiritual understanding of life were the most vulnerable to the onset of major depression.

Regardless of country, the stronger the spiritual or religious belief at the start of the study, the higher the risk of onset of depression.

Although the main finding of an association between religious life understanding and onset of depression varied by country, there was no evidence that spirituality may protect people, and only weak evidence that a religious life view was possibly protective in two countries (Slovenia and the Netherlands).

The incidence of depression over the subsequent 12 months was similar across the different religious denominations (Catholic 9.8%, Protestant 10.9%, other religions 11.5%, no specific religion 10.8%).

Those with the more strongly held religious or spiritual convictions were twice as likely to experience major depression in the subsequent 12 months.

Although a religious, spiritual or secular outlook on life seems to be relatively stable in most people, slightly over a quarter of participants in this study changed their life view during the period of the study. And this was with a higher risk of depression for those changing to a more religious path, a lower risk for those moving in a secular direction.

Those in the process of developing a common mental disorder, like depression, may become involved in a 'search for meaning' for relief from symptoms, and this is one possible reason why previous research may have found a link between a religious or spiritual attitude, and poorer mental health.

That this study followed participants over a year, meant it was possible to demonstrate that it was more likely a spiritual and religious outlook which was leading to future lower mood, than the other way around.

Previous research had found that religion may have a protective effect during and after the impact of life events but this study did not find evidence of this.

The authors conclude that holding a religious or spiritual life perspective, in contrast to a secular outlook, predisposes to the onset of major depression. These beliefs and practice do not act as a buffer to adverse life events as had previously been thought.

But the authors acknowledge the wide variety of contrasting findings from other researchers in the field, make it difficult to come to a definitive conclusion as yet. The most that can be said with any certainty, they contend, is that if there is a link between religion/spirituality and psychological well-being, it is most probably weak.

After all, if religious belief has a powerful positive effect on mental health, they argue it should be detected in most studies.

The dramatic rise in New Age movements and other non-traditional faiths, perhaps the embracing of alternative belief systems as embodied by complimentary health care in the West, might reflect a growing search for meaning, as more traditional religious practice has declined sharply.

A previous study by a team led by psychiatrists Michael King and Paul Bebbington, published in the 'British Journal of Psychiatry', found spiritual people were more likely than those who were neither religious nor spiritual, to have used or to have been dependent on drugs, suffered from generalised anxiety disorder, any phobia or any neurotic disorder.

Professor Michael King sums up all the research to date by concluding maximum psychiatric vulnerability seems to stem from spirituality not tied to religion.

Some may examine this study and argue its results suggest that while many might still be looking for answers far and wide, ironically, it could be those less religious and spiritual, who might already have found them.
Now please, try to find something that was done under slightly better conditions.
Using the power of my fuzzy layman powers, it sounds to me that the social construct and framework of religion in the end overcomes the "if i commit suicide i get to go to heaven so I should commit suicide" factor. This suggests that what needs to happen is that secular organizations need to step up and do something to fill the void that is left if one decides to cut religion out of ones life, and thus religion itself is not an ideal solution, just the solution that happens to be present.
Not really, these studies are poorly done and admit that they can't actually take much away from them due to a number of different factors. Thanks for trying though.
Mind, the girl was 12. I doubt any of these considerations apply to her mental state specifically, and I am not certain the outcome would have been any different if she were raised in a hardcore secularist family, unless you are arguing that they would be more likely to notice she is feeling suicidal than a religious family would be, and that she would more easily accept the "daddy is gone forever" notion than the "daddy is waiting for me in heaven" notion.
Without knowing what the family did or didn't do to help her it's impossible to say how things might change with a more secular family and social circle. It is likely that they would have been more progressive and that means they may have better noticed the signs of serious depression, but that's hardly a given. I will also say that we've seen religious family's try to pray away medical issues before instead of seeking proper treatment, and while such cases are rare it does show that some religious people are less likely to get proper care for serious medical issues.

In any case it's pretty hard to argue that religion wasn't at least partly to blame here given the girls stated reason for killing herself was to be with her father in heaven.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 06:35am
by Broomstick
Jub wrote:How is religion not child abuse? You're telling kids that they'll suffer for all eternity if they don't worship your imaginary friend.
That is a feature of some religions, not all of them. It's a better argument that Abrahamic religions are child abuse rather than all religions being child abuse.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 07:21am
by Jub
Broomstick wrote:
Jub wrote:How is religion not child abuse? You're telling kids that they'll suffer for all eternity if they don't worship your imaginary friend.
That is a feature of some religions, not all of them. It's a better argument that Abrahamic religions are child abuse rather than all religions being child abuse.
I suppose that is true. Still other religions might not be as aggressively harmful, most still have aspects that can be harmful, such as excessive meditation leading to damage in certain regions of the brain. I don't know as much about non-Abrahamic religions though so I'll say this. Unlike religions with a punishment for non-adherence, religions lacking this component only have the potential for harm and as such are no better or worse than any other way of life.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 08:34am
by Borgholio
When else should we be bringing this up? A kid died trying to get to heaven, it seems like talking about what she stated she kill herself over is perfectly valid.
Ok discussing it rationally is fine, but I don't want to see people go "Hurr Hurr, religion is bad! See! It killed thar little gurl!"

I think that, had the girl been of sound mind initially, that we could blame religion for her line of reasoning. But, having lost her father, I doubt she was in sound mind.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 08:58am
by Jub
Borgholio wrote:
When else should we be bringing this up? A kid died trying to get to heaven, it seems like talking about what she stated she kill herself over is perfectly valid.
Ok discussing it rationally is fine, but I don't want to see people go "Hurr Hurr, religion is bad! See! It killed thar little gurl!"

I think that, had the girl been of sound mind initially, that we could blame religion for her line of reasoning. But, having lost her father, I doubt she was in sound mind.
I think that it had the potential to be the nudge that sent her over. Obviously we'll never know for sure and even if we did know, it doesn't change the fact that a little girl is dead and a family already missing a father is no even more heartbroken.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 03:09pm
by Simon_Jester
The problem being simply that "religion is child abuse" is a whole different order of claim than saying "maybe this girl's belief that she'd meet her father in heaven was the tipping point."

The fact that you started with the strong claim and backpedaled to the weak one does not speak well of your rationality on the issue.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-30 08:09pm
by Jub
Simon_Jester wrote:The problem being simply that "religion is child abuse" is a whole different order of claim than saying "maybe this girl's belief that she'd meet her father in heaven was the tipping point."

The fact that you started with the strong claim and backpedaled to the weak one does not speak well of your rationality on the issue.
I still believe that religion, at least the Abrahamic ones that I am most familiar with, are abusive due to the belief that not following their tenants will send you to be punished for all eternity. Even religions that don't have this in built method of abuse can lead to negative outcomes for those that participate in them. I also strongly suspect that religion was a contributing factor in this girl's suicide and, even if my first assumption isn't something I can prove conclusively without more evidence, I think that it's clear that religion doesn't offer some special protection against suicide. I feel that it can actually provide an incentive for suicide, but lack the resources to study this hypothesis further.

Of course I am always open to having my opinion changed which is why you will often see my stance change as an issue is discussed. After all, what is the point of posting if not to see how people answer and see what questions are brought up in the process?

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-31 03:11am
by Tiriol
Jub wrote:
Tiriol wrote:
Jub wrote:At least when an atheist does it they know that they face oblivion in doing so. A Christian would have the false hope that they will wind up in heaven. It doesn't change the outcome, but it might change the odds of trying in the first place.
How? A person committing suicide rarely gives rat's ass about what comes after, be it non-existence or some sort of afterlife. Many of them are incredibly depressed and their brains aren't working right: no rational consideration like "hmm, if I no jump off the bridge, I'll cease to exist as a person and will be nothing more than a piece of rotting organic waste material without sapience" enters their thought processes at that point. Mostly it's "I have nothing to live for, nothing" or "I wish that the pain will stop now". Of course there might be some rational reasons for suicide, like trying to prevent a lifetime of torture or slavery or something like that, but at that point it's more about trying to avoid some horrible fate than about contemplating what happens to you if you off yourself.

This kid's case is tragic and sad. Those close to her will now think over and over if they could have done something and did they miss some clues or hints in her behaviour and speech. She was far too young to die, especially by her own hand.
People need a lot of willpower to commit suicide, that's precisely why so few people with suicidal thoughts actually do it. Adding one more barrier, however thin, makes taking that all too final step a little harder. How is this hard to understand?
You really don't know how mental illnesses work, do you? The brain is not functioning properly at that point. What a rational, healthy mind would perceive as unthinkable or delirious can be the most sane, clear and obvious solution once the chemicals in your brain are not doing their job properly and are out of balance. Depression, clinical one, makes one lose all sense of self-worth and/or drive to accomplish anything or strive for anything, because it cannot be done, the person is "not enough" and so on. Even normal things like cleaning, socializing, eating and so on become horrendous tasks. Once your life is utter hell and you see no way how to make it better, how to get better, the solution of suicide becomes that much more attractive. It doesn't care whether your Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, atheist, agnostic, Wiccan or who knows what else. So your entire counterargument is based on an idea that someone who is actually suicidal or suffering from a mental illness is capable of rationally thinking about it, or what is rational to us. And that is not the case. Hell, I could pull out an even more stupid counterargument to that and say that to a depressed person the thought of no afterlife and no God means that life has no purpose, that they are meaningless and nobody will miss them when they die, so why bother living at all.

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-31 07:19am
by eyl
Jub wrote:
Broomstick wrote:
Jub wrote:How is religion not child abuse? You're telling kids that they'll suffer for all eternity if they don't worship your imaginary friend.
That is a feature of some religions, not all of them. It's a better argument that Abrahamic religions are child abuse rather than all religions being child abuse.
I suppose that is true. Still other religions might not be as aggressively harmful, most still have aspects that can be harmful, such as excessive meditation leading to damage in certain regions of the brain. I don't know as much about non-Abrahamic religions though so I'll say this. Unlike religions with a punishment for non-adherence, religions lacking this component only have the potential for harm and as such are no better or worse than any other way of life.
Punishment for non-adherence isn't even a constant across Abrahamic religion. Judaism is pretty vague on the issue of the afterlife in general, much less eternal punishment, and I understand that not all denominations of Christianity believe in it either (I don't know enough about how Islam sees the topic to address it).

Re: Girl, 12, commits suicide to be with father in heaven

Posted: 2013-10-31 07:23am
by General Zod
Jub wrote:Still other religions might not be as aggressively harmful, most still have aspects that can be harmful, such as excessive meditation leading to damage in certain regions of the brain.
Excessive meditation causes brain damage? Where the fuck did you pull that from?