1st experience with death.

Post by **haas mark** » 2003-04-09 07:06am

Okay, so I am kind of depressive as of late. I am going to soon experience the first death of a friend of mine.. and it's already getting to me. [sighs] She's dying of an infection, and she has a few days to a week before her roomie is given the option of taking her off of life support. We weren't particularly close, but she has said that if nothing else, she wants to bake cookies for me and my roommate before she dies. [sigh] God, this is getting to me again, and I'm about to crash again.. I'll stop before I totally go down in flames again..

Next of Kin · Post by **Next of Kin** » 2003-04-09 07:16am

How horrible! I am sorry to hear about the health of your very good friend.

Captain tycho · Post by **Captain tycho** » 2003-04-09 07:18am

Man, that is horrible.

XPViking · Post by **XPViking** » 2003-04-09 07:41am

I am very sorry to hear that verilon.

XPViking

Cpt_Frank · Post by **Cpt_Frank** » 2003-04-09 07:53am

Oh god that's horrible indeed. Nothing worse than losing your loved ones.
My thoughts are with you Ver.

InnerBrat · Post by **InnerBrat** » 2003-04-09 08:54am

[hugs Ver]
Sorry babe, good luck getting thorugh it. xx

Question - why is her roommate being given that decision to make?

Darth Gojira · Post by **Darth Gojira** » 2003-04-09 10:06am

That sucks

I feel sorry for your woes....

Post by **Ghost Rider** » 2003-04-09 03:28pm

Soory to hear this Ver...death of anyone close always hits hard.

Kelly Antilles · Post by **Kelly Antilles** » 2003-04-09 03:38pm

*hugs ver* You will get past this, as you do everything. Just remember, you brightened her life be it for a short time.

Post by **Lagmonster** » 2003-04-09 04:37pm

The best, if not easiest, advice that I can give you is that it's better to have known that the person leaving was happy with the way you were a part of their lives, and imporantly, remind them of that so that they feel fulfilled with the life they had and the friends they knew. It's their moment to reminisce.

Afterwards, that's when your friends here and without will be ready to help you grieve, and eventually heal.

Frank Hipper · Post by **Frank Hipper** » 2003-04-09 04:49pm

I'm getting pretty fucking sick and tired of people around here going through hell. Seems like every week somebody's grieving, when the fuck do we get some happy news?

verilon, I am so very sorry.

I'm starting to develop an attitude towards bad news, seems like it's the only kind there is these days. Bear with me please.

Post by **The Yosemite Bear** » 2003-04-09 05:00pm

Last year the reaper just seemed to camp out around my friends and me.

My health went to shit, and I got sent to ICU, my Step-Granny died.
My roomies fiance went into emergency surgery and was given very low chance of survival, and they are still paying her hospital bills.
My Roomie's Grandfather died (Dad's side)
My Roomie's Other Grand father died (Mom's side)
Half of the employee's working under me had to take funeral leave.

and my diabetes got so bad through stress that I couldn't see for a whole week.

Lord_Xerxes · Post by **Lord_Xerxes** » 2003-04-09 05:50pm

Sorry to hear that, ver. Hold together, man.

And for some reason, everyone talking about dying has gotten me to listen to "Everyone I love is Dead" by Type O Negative. Random.

Straha · Post by **Straha** » 2003-04-09 05:56pm

[ANGER]WHY THE HELL IS EVERYONE THE SD.NET BOARD CARES ABOUT HAVING TO GO THROUGH SO MUCH FRIEKEN PAIN WITH DEATH!!!!![/Anger][Comfort] I'm so sorry Ver, I hope it gets better, and that she can pull through if she can[/comfort]
[Inquisitivness(alright I'll admit it, for me this usually comes first)] What kind of infection is it? And what is wrong?[/inquisitivness]

Hyperion · Post by **Hyperion** » 2003-04-10 02:34am

Oh shit, I'm so sorry to hear that Ver. You've been thru enough as of late. If you want to talk about it, I am available.

(what the hell is up with life in general for the people of SD.net lately with people they're close to dying or getting very sick, or just plain old shit in their lives?!)

Post by **haas mark** » 2003-04-10 04:52am

innerbrat wrote:Question - why is her roommate being given that decision to make?

Because they adopted a kid together, from what I understand, or maybe that he's just always been there for them. (She adopted the kid, I know that much)

Frank Hipper wrote:I'm starting to develop an attitude towards bad news, seems like it's the only kind there is these days. Bear with me please.

'Tis completely understandable.

Straha wrote:[Inquisitivness(alright I'll admit it, for me this usually comes first)] What kind of infection is it? And what is wrong?[/inquisitivness]

It was cervical cancer that had spread to a malignant tumor in her brain, and she got an infection from an IV tube.. She had a blood transfusion which helped her. And now sh'e sjust got a 60/40 chance of living.

Hyperion wrote:(what the hell is up with life in general for the people of SD.net lately with people they're close to dying or getting very sick, or just plain old shit in their lives?!)

Many many theories on that one..