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Simple question. Which is better? Being nice or being mean?

Folks already know my answer. What's yours?

I don't think that there is an all encompassing rule on this one, it depends on the circumstances.

I evaluate situations on a case by case basis to decide how to baheve. I'll be nice if it serves my interests to be nice and mean if it serves my interests to be mean.

I'm generally nice until someone earns being mean to.

Well, first i'm mean if im in a humourous mood, but then im nice straight afterward to make sure they know i was only joking.

I'm nice almost all the time and don't like being mean but sometimes there are people that deserve being mean to then...

I like being nice, but being mean gets things done, in the long run, being mean gets you happiness ... and being mean makes you finish closer to the top

I'm nice unless you give me a reason to be mean. And then I will be mean.

How much of an offense (minor slight, accidental comment, or out-right being a huge pain in the arse) deserves a mean response?

Marc Xavier wrote:How much of an offense (minor slight, accidental comment, or out-right being a huge pain in the arse) deserves a mean response?

I would say that if someone is abusive or tries to act high-and-mighty, he should expect an abusive response. It's hard to see someone with his nose up in the air and not want to knock him down a few pegs.

Of course, that brings up another question: is it truly mean to tell an incredibly stupid person that he's stupid? Or is it just factual?

Darth Wong wrote:Of course, that brings up another question: is it truly mean to tell an incredibly stupid person that he's stupid? Or is it just factual?

Harmless stupid? Or annoying and/or dangerous stupid? I just tend to leave the former type alone, the latter I'll tell them to their face.

Like most people, I consider myself nice until provoked. Interesting
I think, is that everybody thinks of themselvs as the nice guy. The
bad guy is always "somebody else"

Nice....... Dipshit.

I don't give people reasons to be in a bad mood with me in the beggining, so things usually remain nice and quiet. I can't really be a mean guy if I wanted to anyways...

Some people try WAAAAAY too hard to be an e-badass.

Nice. It's always funny seeing people's reactions to someone just waving hi for the hell of it, and the girls seem to like me a lot now...

Vorlon1701 wrote:Nice. It's always funny seeing people's reactions to someone just waving hi for the hell of it, and the girls seem to like me a lot now...

Marc Xavier wrote:How much of an offense (minor slight, accidental comment, or out-right being a huge pain in the arse) deserves a mean response?

Recurring incidents of any of the above. A single instance will not warrent my assholeness, but continuing offenses will.

Mean, but in a humorous, sarcastic sort of way.

Take a guess.

Have a very nice day.
-fgalkin

Mind you, "nice" has many definitions.

It is more important to be genuinely nice than superficially nice. The world is full of people who wave hello, smile, never say a bad word, never use foul language, never directly insult anyone ... and then turn their backs on you when you need help.

Me, if somebody I know needs a helping hand, I'll go out to help him. That's how I find and keep friends in real life; by actions, not words. That's also how I judge others. I don't put much stock at all in a friendly outward mannerism, to be honest. When the chips are down, that's when you find out who's really nice and who's not.

Darth Wong wrote:It is more important to be genuinely nice than superficially nice. The world is full of people who wave hello, smile, never say a bad word, never use foul language, never directly insult anyone ... and then turn their backs on you when you need help.

Me, if somebody I know needs a helping hand, I'll go out to help him. That's how I find and keep friends in real life; by actions, not words. That's also how I judge others. I don't put much stock at all in a friendly outward mannerism, to be honest. When the chips are down, that's when you find out who's really nice and who's not.

What a lot of people my age, and even older fail to notice is a real friend is someone you can really depend on, and who is loyal. Not some "neat" kid who you can waste time with.

I don't stomach morons and assholes making me tolerate their crap or bothering the people I love. But I'll lend a hand to a guy or girl who needs a favor.

Yeah, I agree, Wong. Actions speak much louder than words.