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I just suddenly found myself reminescing about old times and friends. And I do have a lot. I'm quite young, but I've moved a lot; on average, I spent about 2-3 years in one place. I've never been in the same area more than three years. Never. You move to a new place, you make new friends, and before you know it, it's time to repeat the cycle. You try to keep contact, but it just fails. And now everything you once knew feels so alien...

I hate my fucking parents for this and their false promises.

Hey, that sounds like my life, my personal record for a place is four years. I think my movement is to blame for various problem I have.

What was your reason for moving around a lot?

Parents always said they found a better job, or that they were going to lose it, so moved. Not that they even tried to find one in the local area. Then they'd say and promise it was the last time

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This makes me realize once again how lucky I was in childhood. The only move we ever made was replacing one trailer with a bigger one on the place in my grandmother's yard.

Even my parents never really left home ... when they finally did get rid of the trailer, they moved to the house that both families had lived in back in the '50s. (My dad and his parents moved out, my mom's family moves in next day.) As the crow flies, it's not even a mile away from where the trailer stood.

Hell... even my brothers have never left the State. At most we're an hour's drive from home, and Mom.

Guess there is something to the statistical data that West Virginians rarely leave their roots... unless it's to find jobs.

LadyTevar wrote:..........

This makes me realize once again how lucky I was in childhood. The only move we ever made was replacing one trailer with a bigger one on the place in my grandmother's yard.

Even my parents never really left home ... when they finally did get rid of the trailer, they moved to the house that both families had lived in back in the '50s. (My dad and his parents moved out, my mom's family moves in next day.) As the crow flies, it's not even a mile away from where the trailer stood.

Hell... even my brothers have never left the State. At most we're an hour's drive from home, and Mom.

Guess there is something to the statistical data that West Virginians rarely leave their roots... unless it's to find jobs.

My mom's family (except for her) all live within an hour of each other, easily. I love the family reunions we have. I got to play with a paintball gun at the last one.

*Recalls the joke about West Virginians and toothpaste*

Sounds like your parents suffer from the "grass is greener" syndrome. My mom moved umpteen times while I was in Middle School and High School. I got so frustrated that when we she wanted to move about 6 weeks into my starting SJSU, I just moved out and went to live with my dad. I should have done that 3 years earlier.

Exonerate wrote:Parents always said they found a better job, or that they were going to lose it, so moved. Not that they even tried to find one in the local area. Then they'd say and promise it was the last time

Again, parts of my childhood to a tee, I'm in what I think is my 16th house, and we're looking to move again.

I'm only on my 3rd house in 21 years:

7 Years in Small House when in Elementary school. (House 1)

Moved to bigger house halfway thru Elementary school,
stayed there for 12 years. (house 2)

Moved to smaller house 30 minutes from House #2, stayed there
for 2+ years (House 3)

MKSheppard wrote:I'm only on my 3rd house in 21 years:

7 Years in Small House when in Elementary school. (House 1)

Moved to bigger house halfway thru Elementary school,
stayed there for 12 years. (house 2)

Moved to smaller house 30 minutes from House #2, stayed there
for 2+ years (House 3)

Most of the times I moved, it was hundreds of miles away. Sometimes even thousands. There was once where it was only about 40 miles, but then we moved 2.5 years after that, another couple hundred miles away...

Sounds a bit like my childhood, except for different reasons. The weird thing was when I went back to my "home town" for the last two years of high school. Suddenly there were all these people I hadn't seen since third grade, and they all remembered me but I only remembered one or two names, and couldn't match them to any faces. And they had the nerve to be offended.

The really weird thing is that, as much as you hate it as a child, when you grow up, you get antsy if you spend too much time in one place. I haven't moved since college, and I really want to get out of this town. If I weren't too lazy to look for another job, I am sure I would have left years ago. Mind you, there is nothing wrong with this town. I have no real reason to want to move; I am just tired of looking at the same things all the time.

<----- Army Brat. Four years tops, and that was hawaii. I know, torture that tour was! LMAO. You get numb to it after awhile.

Never lived outside of Santa Clara, CA. I've traveled plenty, though...I can't imagine a life never even leaving the state.

I've been in the same town all my life (only 19 years of it, mind ) up until uni, some friendships have developed over many years to the point where they are sort of like extensions of my family, others have developed to similar stages in a couple of years - eventually, we will all lose touch, drift apart, get different jobs in different towns, I know that, and I think deep down everyone else knows that too, but at this stage, we've all got the blinders on and arent thinking about that.

So, party at my place tonight! Fine weather, more meat than your average butchers, doubtless more alcohol than an offlicence - (unlikely, I said I'd get the food in, but told the buggers to bring their own beer...), and 25 people *sings* in a english country garden... *sings*

Well, it's more of a Northumberland New Town Suburban Garden, but who's splitting hares? Come on, own up, you bastards, put the rodents down, and step away from the warren.

My parents had a wandering mood when I was 5 and when I was 12...between 4-5 we moved to Indiana and New Jersey. When I was 12 we moved to Texas.

Mostly lived in Northern VA and then I moved to DC area(yay...such distance)

Most part I tried once gathering ol buds and what not...but the gulf of years was just a bit much and hell most moved.

Exonerate wrote:I just suddenly found myself reminescing about old times and friends. And I do have a lot. I'm quite young, but I've moved a lot; on average, I spent about 2-3 years in one place. I've never been in the same area more than three years. Never. You move to a new place, you make new friends, and before you know it, it's time to repeat the cycle. You try to keep contact, but it just fails. And now everything you once knew feels so alien...

I hate my fucking parents for this and their false promises.

I can feel for you all too well on that one. Growing up in a Navy family, that's how it went. I've gone to four elementary schools, two middle schools, and two high schools (the last HS being only the last 1 1/2 years of schooling). I never got "numb" to it, as Chardok says. The last move left behind tons of memories.. and the first true best friend I had had in my life.

The last move was because my mom went psychonuts on my sister.

On top of that, I have lived in Virginia, Florida, Oklahoma, and New Mexico, and my personal top time staying in one place is one day shy of three and one half years (Roswell, NM). Parents promised that I could finish HS in Roswell.. but she went nuts, and I moved to Albuquerque to finish HS. I miss my friends in Roswell very much.. my orchestra teacher and my best friend out of all of them, the most. [sighs]

~ver

Well, that sucks... Military kids are very often moved around...

Chardok: I used to live in Hawaii too. I had to switch schools there too, but it wasn't so bad because you could keep in touch by phone easily without worrying about the bills too much.

Ouch, I feel your pain:

England-->Switzerland->America->England again.

Of course, the last period was the longest, and I still live in the UK. It was awkward in school though, since virtually everyone else had lived in the same county their entire lives.

Sheesh. I've moved a bunch of times, but it was all within a 30 mile radius of where I was born--almost all within San Francisco or the cities immediately south. Except for for two years in Redwood City. I can't begin to imagine what it's like for you.

heh, I emapthize completely. military brat means 10 homes in 18 yrs.

I glad I got to grow up in the same place for most of my childhood ( when I was 6 till I was 18 ). My best friend sat behind me in every homeroom class from first grade till our senior year. after 18 till my present age (33) I've moved over a dozen times to 5 different states. The last 6 years I've lived in Florida but have moved 5 times since I've been down here.

I can relate. my dad was in the Air Force and it meant we moved all over the place: first Washington and then Utah, Arizona, New Mexico, England, Ohio, and Floriduh. Even afterwards when we settled down in Maryland I ended up moving back and forth between Annapolis and Baltimore, and as of a month ago I ended up moving *again* to Pennsylvania. It's not my last move, either: my girlfriend lives on the other side of the country from me.

After a while, you get used to it.