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As I'm writting this post, my girlfriend is dumping me via cellphone messages. Knowing that I can't reply to her (the website I use to message her back is down) she is sending me one text msg after another to say how she doesn't deserve me, and a lot of other crap.

Fuck it. I'm fucking tired of having a girlfriend who is terrified of fucking telling her mother that she's dating somebody. Apparently all that love shit is cheap right after 7 months, crap.

That's certainly a shitty way to dump someone.

At any rate, what exactly is the problem with the mother?

You got it figured, dude. If she can't deal with her mom and dumps you via text messages, I say move on.

Sounds like a girl who is easily intimidated, which is why she's using the cowardly text messages and also why she can't face a confrontation with her parents over dating.

She's not necessarily a lost cause, but she needs someone to help build up her confidence and guide her. This is not one of those cases where the feminists' "girl power" crap holds sway; a girl like this probably needs someone to be her Rock, to give her direction and tell her where to go. She could probably use a bit of tough love, ie- somebody telling her quite forcefully to confront her parents and then being at her side when she does it. The great danger of such a personality, of course, is that the person she eventually finds will be abusive, and she won't stand up to her parents so much as run away from them with the guy.

Mind you, I'm working from very sketchy information, so I could be completely wrong

I bet that she'll be associating with you (in one way or another) again later.

Damn, that sucks. Is there a reason why she won't talk to you directly?

What's this shit about 'she doesn't deserve you'? Is this an attempt at trying to let you go gently? If it is, it doesn't sound like it's worked.

Not to sound like an echo, but what's the deal with the mother?

Stofsk wrote:Damn, that sucks. Is there a reason why she won't talk to you directly?

It's probably fear of confrontations.

What's this shit about 'she doesn't deserve you'? Is this an attempt at trying to let you go gently? If it is, it doesn't sound like it's worked.

She might honestly feel that way. She sounds like a girl with insecurity problems.

She is a very insecure girl. But now I do think she's a really lost cause: I've been trying to get her to tell her mother, a lot, and she flat out refuses, or cries, it's like trying to push a brick wall. It almost seems like she's happy being unhappy.

I've done everything in my power to help her, show her how I care, etc. She said something like that I deserve somebody without fears and problems, or somesuch (probably true, at least to the extent that she has them, anyway). I think she had been giving me several chances to dump her (if I don't like the way she acts) but I flat out told her that if she wants to dump me then she should, instead of baiting me so that she could be the victim.

Anyway, good riddance.

Slartibartfast wrote:I've done everything in my power to help her, show her how I care, etc. She said something like that I deserve somebody without fears and problems, or somesuch (probably true, at least to the extent that she has them, anyway). I think she had been giving me several chances to dump her (if I don't like the way she acts) but I flat out told her that if she wants to dump me then she should, instead of baiting me so that she could be the victim.

Well, I guess that's the end of it then. However, just be careful: she might, in fact I'd wager she will, come running back to you sometime later.

Recently I had a slight problem with my girlfriend holding some information back from me- I finally had to go out on a limb and promise her that I wouldn't leave if she told me (she was afraid of losing me). Risky, yes, but it wasn't as big of a deal as she had thought it would be and as a result we're closer now.

Fear can be a big problem in relationships, and it's something I think should be dealt with as soon as possible, before it becomes a real problem.

I had never been dumped until June this year where my girlfriend of 6 months told me I didn't go out as much as she wanted...

She was 20yrs old...I am 30

The thing that makes me laugh is that I am a Club Promoter and used to go out alot more than her...infact I was out every weekend...(perhaps she meant with her)

It did make me chuckle though...I was only using her for sex anyway

Is she worth fighting for?

If so fucking fight for her, love comes only so many times to a guy that he needs to battle for it, don't give up so easily.

If you don't think this you've lost nothing but you know better fir next time