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Have you ever dated someone and discovered much to your horror that her sister is way hotter and better than her? Maybe you and her sister hit it right off and its obvious you two make a far better couple.

or even best friends, you know you meet her best friend after a month of dating and suddenly you find yourself lusting after her instead of your GF. Take any chance you can get to dance with her, have "friendship dates", etc.

How did you get out of this awkward situation? Did you do the honorable thing and stick with the original GF? Did you listen to your heart and either initiate a hot lusty affair behind her back or simply dump her for the other girl right away? Did you suffer in silence? Or were you just sick of the whole situation and walk away from it all?

Stravo wrote:Have you ever dated someone and discovered much to your horror that her sister is way hotter and better than her? Maybe you and her sister hit it right off and its obvious you two make a far better couple.

or even best friends, you know you meet her best friend after a month of dating and suddenly you find yourself lusting after her instead of your GF. Take any chance you can get to dance with her, have "friendship dates", etc.

I've been there. My ex-girlfriend has a friend who I regret not asking out when I had the chance.

How did you get out of this awkward situation? Did you do the honorable thing and stick with the original GF?

I think doing the "honorable thing" sounds like a mistake. Any relationship where one partner stays with the other out of some sense of obligation seems to be doomed anyway.

Did you listen to your heart and either initiate a hot lusty affair behind her back or simply dump her for the other girl right away?

I would strongly recommend against going behind your girlfriend's back. That's just dishonest and will only bring trouble. If you must be with the woman, do it in such a way that you can still look in the mirror. I don't think you need to dump her right away, if only because that might make it harder for you to hook up with the more desirable woman.

Did you suffer in silence? Or were you just sick of the whole situation and walk away from it all?

I think suffering is also a poor choice. Again, that would just sour your relationship anyway.

Unfortunately, I can't think of a way out of the situation. If you are unhappy in your relationship and would rather be with someone else, I would think that the best course of action would to be to directly communicate with your girlfriend. If you want out, break it off honestly, suffer mightily, and then get on with your life. Especially if that means asking the other girl out.

*makes sure sharp objects are out of Jmac and Muse's reach pending Aerius' arrival.

*shrug* Depends on the situation, I suppose. What type of relationship you have with chick A. If its a casual sex type thing then moving on up the food chain (while hardly a noble thing) isn't out of the question.

If its a more serious relationship, friends and family should be off limits.

That's happened to me a couple of times. When I was 21, I went out with a 23-year old girl who I was head-over-heels for because she was super-charming, seemed to know everything, had a very mature value
system, was very well-collected and had very exotic tastes.

At her college graduation party in May which lasted all day, I met her exceedingly hot older sister who worked for a fashion magazine in NYC, and because the older sister and I both smoked, we found ourselves
hanging out together outside the house away from the food puffing and chatting over the tobacco smoke. Over the course of the alcohol-filled day, me and the older sister were taking long walks around the street
together and it slowly dawned on me that all the attractive characteristics in the 23-year old younger sister were from the influence of her older sister who seemed a lot smarter and sophisticated, more mature, more well-collected, more exotic, and was also a blazing hottie. She was also charming in an aloof, subtle way which I found to be more captivating than her younger sister's in-your-face playfulness.

I thus developed a crush on the older sister that day, and whenever I was in her presence after that, I'd go all ga-ga and goofy, beaming at her like a mongoloid on nitrous oxide. The younger sister was no fool, as she was 2 years my senior and girls can read my [mind] really easily for some reason, and so she knew what was going on. However, the older sister's BF was a rich-ass model/actor guy on TV, so it was easy for me to wuss out and file her under "unattainable love interest."

The second time the sibling dilemma occurred, was a year later, last summer, when I went to Florida for two weeks with this 24-year old girl who I had been dating for a couple of months. The first week we stayed in Miami, the second week we stayed at her 19-year-old half-sister's house. When I got there, and met her half-sister, my first thought was "ohhhh, no! NOT FAIR!!" Her younger sister had a perfect body, was very bubbly and cheerful, was very, very nice to me, was always
wearing minimal clothing, and was shaking her butt ghetto-booty style every other minute where the bum moves like a separate appendage. I couldn't keep my eyes off of her and it didn't help that the 19-year old was always jumping on me, and sitting on my chest and shaking her ghetto booty on my upper torso like she was trying to restart my heart with pelvic thrusts. And her loins were always so friggin' hot, I finally learned that "hot in the [ass] and ready to fuck" was a valid medical term.

Alas, I did not give into temptation to make a move, but the older sister I came to Florida with was very disagreeable to me for the rest of the week, needless to say. Within a week of us getting back to Connecticut, I was going out with another girl, and had no more romantic interest in the girl I had gone to Florida with.

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I've never been in this situation before, but Jerry Seinfeld has. In his case it was the roomate of his girlfriend he wanted to switch with. George came up with the ultimate solution.

Basically, you suggest a threesome to your girlfriend. She should become outraged and dump you, but if all works to plan, her sister/friend/roommate should become interested and the switch is made with a minimum of hurt feelings.

Do like Elvis said: "A little less conversation, a little more action..." Just go afer the one you want. You're not married.

Superman wrote:Do like Elvis said: "A little less conversation, a little more action..." Just go afer the one you want. You're not married.

Don't question the King. He fought mummies.

Stravo wrote:How did you get out of this awkward situation? Did you do the honorable thing and stick with the original GF? Did you listen to your heart and either initiate a hot lusty affair behind her back or simply dump her for the other girl right away? Did you suffer in silence? Or were you just sick of the whole situation and walk away from it all?

A) Justly step forward to claim the reward

Welcome back Stravo(yeah I saw the Politics thread...didn't want to muss it up)

As for your question, I'd almost go with walk away from the mess. Things of this nature can get ugly for little reason and usually not resolved well.

There's nothing wrong with sleeping with your GF's sister.*
I almost ended up dating my GF's sister instead of my GF way back when, but somehow the girls were psychic and they arranged things so that I ended up dating the one who I thought was cuter. Of course there was also the slight problem that my GF's sister was a bit underage at the time, but that would've been fixed in a couple months anyway so it wasn't that big of a problem.

Hypothetically speaking, had I ended up dating my GF's sister back then, I would've been perfectly happy despite the fact that her sister's a bit cuter IMO. If, theoretically, things were clicking better with the other sister and we got along better & all that, then I think I'd have to have a talk with the girls to work out what the fuck to do. Hopefully we'd all be mature enough to realize what's going on, and then I'd end up dating the other sister.

*aerius is a skilled professional. Attempting to recreate his acts may cause severe physical and/or mental trauma and fuck up your life. Results may vary, don't do this at home, etc.

Col. Crackpot wrote:*makes sure sharp objects are out of Jmac and Muse's reach pending Aerius' arrival.

You know...I'll just have to beat to death with a blunt object then.....

Superman wrote:Do like Elvis said: "A little less conversation, a little more action..." Just go afer the one you want. You're not married.

Dumb. Think about it in your terms. Let's say you're dating a girl, and she decides to dump you for your brother. I don't know about your family, but this would end with some form of violence if it occurred in mine. Girls don't have fist or knife-fights as far as I am aware, but it would not be a happy situation for them. Or let's say you're the one who is approached by your brother's girlfriend. Now, whether or not you like her, you're going to be thinking about how it's going to affect your relationship with your sibling... unless you're a total asshole.

That brings up another hitch. If you start hitting on the sister, she might very well be thinking, "Hey, this guy is betraying my sister, he must be a total dick!" And then she'll tell her sister about it, and you're just fucked.

Switching from your girlfriend to someone very close to her (a roommate, a sister, etc.) is something of great difficulty. IIRC there was an entire episode of Seinfeld dedicated to Jerry's complex machination in attempting to pull off such a switch.