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so this chick I was pretty good friends with during high school, and who Ive been rather concerned about, emails me after almost a yr, and says dont contact me, your kind of creepy.

this is seriously ruining my day.

Enforcer Talen wrote:so this chick I was pretty good friends with during high school, and who Ive been rather concerned about, emails me after almost a yr, and says dont contact me, your kind of creepy.

this is seriously ruining my day.

That was kind of random.

a) Is there any chance she emailed the wrong person?
b) When was the last time you talked to her? (was this email just out of the blue)
c) About what?

Ha, sorry to hear it. Any idea why she thinks your creepy?

her email, after 9 months of not saying a damn thing, and me mailing her during this time, seeing if shes ok:

"I'm fine. Very busy, but fine. I'd appreciate you not e-mailing me or
trying
to get in contact with me. You're an interesting person, but our little
cyber fling rather creeped me out; our tastes are very different. I
think
its best for memory's sake if we go our own ways now."

my reply:

"I would appreciate a reply

far be it from me to play the stalker, but if I may ask, why the sudden change? we were friends, if I recall, and the little fling was a year and more ago. I dont plot stalking you because of it, and dont remember saying anything seriously disturbing. I admit I like to be provacative, particularly with adrian at rp, but thats not me.

in all seriousness, this kind of message is rather painful to receive. I am perfectly content with being told your busy, not much time to chat, thats how life goes. but being told Im creepy and not to talk to you again? this is startling to me, and as a rule I dont send letters that say that except to people who really hurt me. I am unsure when I did such to you, but Im quite willing to apologize,

if otherwise, plz inform me on this creepiness. I am unaware of any stalker or unhealthy attitudes I have possessed in your direction, and plot no romances as such - as Ive said, life makes one busy. I still welcome your friendship, and would prefer more of an explanation then 'your creepy' after 9 months of not chatting.

hell, when I messaged you about bootcamp, you seemed rather supportive, if busy, and I am fine with that. what confuses me is this sudden hostility - I zip off for a few months, and suddenly a yr old memory makes me creepy?

gah. this is twitching me out. tell me what boundary Ive crossed, as I am completely in the dark.

I still want to be friends.

motherfucking peice of shit, I *hate* when this happens. I hate losing friends, I hate being in the dark, and I hate being shut out and hurt for no reason at all. I hate pyschotic girlfriends, I hate deleusional emails, and I hate it when chicks send me things that make me wonder what planet they are on.

what. the. fuck.

hellfuck, she's sent me emails saying how cute I looked in my trenchcoat, how kewl my fanfics were, we've flirted a lot, and rebounded off each other when we were both hurting.

I am completely in the dark as to when this creepy phase started.

I know Ive gotten really fucking sick in some of my sex games, but seriously, she wouldnt know about that for one, and two, I only do it with people who want to.

Ive mentioned deconverting, but I scarecly see that as a reason for creepy.

shes done a complete 180, and I dont get it at all.

-posts repeatedly-
I have this chick on my wall!
I took 3 hours to draw her as a christmas present!
why does she suddenly hate me?
I can understand when niki hated me, we had a fucking huge fight
that one hurt
but this chick
we havent chated in 9 months!
when did this creepy thing occur!
Im a fucking good artist too
I only do portraits for chicks Im close to
I sent her the original, for christ's sake!
I dont remember any nasty bits from our relaitonship, either
we laughed and flirted a lot
I dont remember being a stalker
I remember one where I did some of that, but I was psyched out, and so was she
she, Im still not talking to
but this one
this one, I thot we were good friends:
what
the
fuck
I am pissed
I am hurt
and I am very
very
confused
she seems set on it
I just wish I knew why
what the fuck did I do?
and Im serious
i have no idea why she would send me an email like htis
its going to be on my mind for weeks, and piss off my girlfriend
gah!

dont expect her to reply, either.

have sent her a dozen emails over the last few months.

what you doing? everything ok? want to chat online? like to hear from you.

first reply is this peice of shit.

"your creepy, even tho Ive never given any mention about it in the past, and even found you roleplaying evil sexy, and I never want to speak to you again. dont email me, Im going to ignore any questions that you have about my sudden change in personality."

I am so fucking pissed.

yes, Im ranting.

you want to say goodbye to me, fine, say your too busy, its all to the good, my dearest darling has already said that. life goes on.

but this absurdity of acting like your saying hasta la vista after a huge fight - where was the fight? when did we argue? when did I say anything offensive?

why is this chick changing her complete act after I get away from bootcamp? I mean, seriously, she seemed busy when I left, but supportive, and now this shit.

First, we have a vent thread for this sort of stuff in HOS.

Second, how old are you? How old is she?

I was 17, she was 16.

and I did some ventign in the hos thread.

I have stopped now.

People change, grow apart, especially around that age. Best to move on.

certainly. Im just confused as all fuck.

her email before this one was some 6 months before, when I asked her thots on me joining up.

"its not a bad idea, if you think you can do it *nod*


you're never online when i get the chance to pop on.. and you just
signed on
and left. i prolly scared the hell out of whatever family member made
the
mistake of using your computer:

oops? kitti says:
HEY! *pounce*

come back, damn you."

Let her go man....

Dude, if she's gonna be like that you've lost nothing. Let her go and consider her well rid off.

Say it with me Talen : B O R D E R L I N E. Looks like this girl has some problems. Stay away.

Don't even try to understand it. You're likely to encounter more than one person who, for often no reason at all, does something you just don't expect and won't ever give you a good reason for it. And thinking about it or trying to get an answer for it will just drag it on farther than it needs to be.

Flush her for now, and when she decides to strike up a friendship again, blow her off.

sounds like a plan.

I hate when this shit happens.

I dunno what it is with chicks being unable to chat with me this month. one has her msn shut down, one thinks Im 'creepy', one hasnt said a word to me since I got back, one has a huge amount of plays keeping her busy, and I could prolly find some on my msn list who havent thot of me in months.

damn.

Spanky The Dolphin wrote:People change, grow apart, especially around that age. Best to move on.

Well put. I also agree. It is best to move on with life.

Enforcer Talen wrote:I dunno what it is with chicks being unable to chat with me this month. one has her msn shut down, one thinks Im 'creepy', one hasnt said a word to me since I got back, one has a huge amount of plays keeping her busy, and I could prolly find some on my msn list who havent thot of me in months.

You sure you're not being too...overzealous in girl-chasing? Generally speaking, if you write someone more than once and they don't respond, especially over a long period of time, you should get the hint that they don't want to talk to me anymore. Maybe they're being a snot about it, but you might be trying just a teensy bit too hard.

hell, I just flirt.

the one Im concerned about in this thread generally has long spaces of not chatting with me - just how it was with us.

this is the first notice Ive gotten that she meant it in any go away meaning.

hell, usually they just get busy. sometimes I email them after 6 months or a yr, and its all hey whats up.

Enforcer Talen wrote:I dunno what it is with chicks being unable to chat with me this month. one has her msn shut down, one thinks Im 'creepy', one hasnt said a word to me since I got back, one has a huge amount of plays keeping her busy, and I could prolly find some on my msn list who havent thot of me in months.

damn.

dude, you need to get out and stop dealing with these online flakes. etc. who cares if they don't appreciate you? some people don't need a reason to stop liking you. stop trying to place the blame on yourself. btw, 9 months without talking with someone is a very long time. don't expect to enter like fucking superman with them.

My advice is to meet some girls in the real world.
Online, psychotic behavior is a mystery, in real life there are subtle clues that a girl's crazy that will tip you off long before the shit hits the fan.

Like this one girl I knew who made dog growling noises while eating in a fancy restaurant, then orgasm noises over chocolate cake...no joke.

In real life, you can pick up on body language, pheromones, etc. And real life has other...tangible benefits that can't be found online.