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I need help. Seriously.

My ex has recently told me that she is now engaged. I have either the opportunity to express my true feelings and tell her I don't want her to get married to someone else, or I could keep my mouth shut, and let it happen (which might kill me).

This isn't some school-yard crush. I was previously engage to her, and I do love her terribly, but we broke up over 3 years ago. Part of me wants to let her go on and do her own thing, and part of me wants to make a complete ass of myself and try to stop this thing.

What should I do? Any advice?

You have to realize that three years ago you made a choice, and that choice like any other has consequences.

Move on, it's over.

Without any other information, move on, she's found someone else, you haven't. Find someone and move on. Don't take things hard, just let things happen. If you want, emerse yourself in study, work, video games, just get your mind off of it for a while, then go and put yourself back on the market for a girlfriend.

Why did you break up 3 years ago? What's changed?

you still friends with her?

could you call her "my little Sis" or "my soulmate" without being slapped?

Would she call you "my cool big bro" after you calling her little sis, or "my soulmate/best friend" after calling her your soulmate?

Can you ask her to have sex with you and get it?


If you have answered 'no' to two or more of the above questions, then I'm afraid there's nothing I can do for ya. Time to move on.



If you said yes to more than 2 of the above, then stop the marriage at all costs.

I would tell you to move on.

There *was* a reason why you broke up in the first place, right...?

Okay some ground bit has to be settled.

1. How does she feel about you?

2. Why did you break up?

Defiant wrote:What should I do? Any advice?

Suck it up, you've made your choice, she's moved on: DEAL WITH IT.

If she's gotten attached to this guy to the point of engaging him, don't you think the odds of her picking you over him are rather minimal?

Everyone's posts pretty much echo what I was thinking myself. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy. Oh well, life goes on.