Wants and Needs and Fears

Post by **haas mark** » 2002-10-28 06:36am

What do you want/need most in life? What is your greatest fear?

Here's mine:

Want/need (taken copy and paste from my online journal):

I need someone there to comfort me, I need someone there to hold me. I need someone there to wipe away the tears when I cry, someone to hug me when I am down. I need someone to keep me warm when I am cold, and to calm me down when I am in an angry rage. I need someone that could understand. I need someone to be there for me. I have never had anyone there, and it makes me feel alone. I need someoen to help me thru rough times. I need someone that I can do this for, too. I need someone that I can relate to, I need a boyfriend. I need someone that will keep me safe, and I can keep safe, too. I need someone that I can tell everything to, someone I can share everything with. When will the perfect guy come for me? Please let there be a time when I won't feel so alone...I feel so empty, like I have never been filled before. I feel like there will never be that perfect someone there to hold me, to protect me when I am sick or hurt or on bad terms. I feel like there will never be that one...

My greatest fear (also from journal):

My greatest fear is to be left all alone. I fear every day more and more that there I'll think that soembody is right for me, and they leave me. I fear every day that somebody will just...disappear.

Aren't I just such a bright ray of sunshine? *sigh*

Post by **Lagmonster** » 2002-10-28 10:29am

Teenage angst. I don't mean that in a disrespectful way, but that's pretty much a synopsis of what what you're describing. When you're old enough to comprehend what adults feel and do and not feel or do it yourself you are bound to feel like you'll never see the light of it. These feelings are largely untrue.

I didn't even get to kiss a girl until I was 18 and a bit. But I haven't stopped since. Lighter days are available for the taking, verilon.

That being said, *my* greatest want is kids. Wong and Kelly are around my age but have families; my wife and I haven't been able to get past the comfort of our own lives and the extra things that we can afford because we don't have kids. I figure we'll get there soon, though. We can't wait forever.

My greatest fear is, if you must bring it up, death. But that's only because I enjoy myself so much. It's tempting to toss it all to the wind and wish for an afterlife in a fantasy paradise in certain moments where you don't really want to picture the universe existing without you. It's that kind of colossal ego that got me through university. *laugh*

Larz · Post by **Larz** » 2002-10-28 10:58am

Want/need: duh... copious amounts of money

Fear: nothingness

Tosho · Post by **Tosho** » 2002-10-28 11:05am

Wants/needs: Children, I and my father were both the only sons of our households and to put it bluntly, if I don't have children I'll be the last of my family.

Fears: Acrophobia a.k.a. fear of heights. I don't fear death in case your wondering.

TrailerParkJawa · Post by **TrailerParkJawa** » 2002-10-28 11:42am

The foremost fear right now is not being able to find a job in time to avoid serious financial loss.

That means my greatest want right now is for a job that pay enough to avoid serious finanical loss.

Second fear, is that one of my best friends might get sent to Iraq. I dont want that to happen. He has a beautiful little baby girl, I want them to live a long happy life.

I think Wong, Kelly, and Lagomonster are in my age range too. Im not married and often worry that I might never be. But that is a far behind the fears related to jobs and home.

Verilon, Lagmonster is right, you have teenage angst. We all had it, some of it never goes away, everyone wants to be loved. But as you get older the angst slowly fades away to be replaced by other issues. Then one day you are an adult and you shake your fist at the "youngins" and their crazy ways.

Kelly Antilles · Post by **Kelly Antilles** » 2002-10-28 11:49am

Nope, no kids for me. I don't want them, but that's a long story.

Wants: I want to be able to go to Europe sometime, espeically Austria and Germany.

Fear: Death of course. For some reason, lately I've been fearing it more. Perhaps in my future, this will be the time of year it will happen. Who knows.

Stravo · Post by **Stravo** » 2002-10-28 11:49am

Greatest want: A stable normal relationship with an undamaged woman. What I mean by that is that there's this terrible trend that my best freind brought to my attention recently where all the women I have been with have been damaged in some way, they have emotional issues, personal problems, etc and I ride in because I see myself as some kind of hero and I want to rescue them. What ends up happening is I get royally screwed over most of the time and my heart gets broken. SO for once, a normal woman with no issues to rescue her from. It would be nice if she were good with kids too - my daughter is part of my life and so therefore the special lady would have to accept that.

Greatest Fear: Death/Oblivion. I fear death because I am fairly certain that what's on the other end of the road is oblivion, nothing, and THAT frightens me more than anything because I cannot even concieve of what it would be like to face NOTHING. It just all ends. Everything you've done does not matter. That is a frightening concept.

Post by **Lagmonster** » 2002-10-28 12:06pm

Stravo wrote:Greatest want: A stable normal relationship with an undamaged woman.

Ach. Been there, Stravo. I too suffered from a White Knight complex for more than a few years. In the end, it was probably because women with problems seem to need companionship in the eyes of the seeking male more than women who are grounded and comfortable with their lives (and often then don't appear to be as accessible).

Larz · Post by **Larz** » 2002-10-28 12:15pm

When I say nothingness I don't mean death. Death I'm fine with, its all just sugar pops to me... by nothingness I mean trying to envision no reality, no time, no existance, nothing...trying to envision and think of that gives me the chills. And before some wise acre tells me death and nothingness are the same thing, I just don't link the two, that simple.

Post by **haas mark** » 2002-10-28 12:18pm

Lagmonster wrote:Teenage angst. I don't mean that in a disrespectful way, but that's pretty much a synopsis of what what you're describing. When you're old enough to comprehend what adults feel and do and not feel or do it yourself you are bound to feel like you'll never see the light of it. These feelings are largely untrue. I didn't even get to kiss a girl until I was 18 and a bit. But I haven't stopped since. Lighter days are available for the taking, verilon.

I realize this, but you don' tunderstand what goes on beneath my skin, what I *HAVE* to have...that is why I said what I did. I *HAVE* to have that emotional connection, and I just happen to want all these little things to go with it. Yes, I have just been hurt by someone, but that doesn't matter. My point is that all those little things would be nice additions, but I NEED that attatchment.

Post by **Lagmonster** » 2002-10-28 12:29pm

verilon wrote:My point is that all those little things would be nice additions, but I NEED that attatchment.

Ah. Wish I could offer something more insightful. I will tell you this, from my own personal archives: When you're alone and need someone, it's a hell of a lot harder to find that 'right' companionship. I knew girls who felt like that, but that sometimes meant they didn't care who they were attached to, and I wanted them to want me, not the security I would provide. I'm not suggesting you're like that, but it's something to avoid while you're pooling your emotions and planning the next phase of attack in the quest for personal satisfaction and happiness, right?

Larz · Post by **Larz** » 2002-10-28 12:32pm

There is a line to which one must follow emotions, and a line where one must follow thier mind... learn and know this line well or your problems will just become deeper and deeper

Post by **haas mark** » 2002-10-28 12:34pm

Lagmonster wrote:
verilon wrote:My point is that all those little things would be nice additions, but I NEED that attatchment.
Ah. Wish I could offer something more insightful. I will tell you this, from my own personal archives: When you're alone and need someone, it's a hell of a lot harder to find that 'right' companionship. I knew girls who felt like that, but that sometimes meant they didn't care who they were attached to, and I wanted them to want me, not the security I would provide. I'm not suggesting you're like that, but it's something to avoid while you're pooling your emotions and planning the next phase of attack in the quest for personal satisfaction and happiness, right?

True. But I don't just fall for any guy...I do actually get to know them first...well, I do now. I used to not to (bad idea, that one). This guy that I am usually ranting about I really did like and he doesn't know that he hurt me in the way that he did...Long story.

Kelly Antilles · Post by **Kelly Antilles** » 2002-10-28 01:46pm

Trust me: Sometimes there really is such a thing as love at first sight. I know from experience.

oberon · Post by **oberon** » 2002-10-28 02:11pm

Want: children

Need: new windows and landscaping (both in progress), new plumbing.

Fears: that my next checkup will reveal something like cancer or ulcers or high cholesterol. That means bills, and those are scary.

Andrew J. · Post by **Andrew J.** » 2002-10-28 02:56pm

Need: Food.

Want: Tasty food.

Fear: Lack of food.

Post by **Mr Bean** » 2002-10-28 04:34pm

Want:Everything you can possible imagin, I am one who truley wants it all

Need:Nothing, I am completly fluid, none of my assets can be frozen, I have no real fixed location besides the place I live, I am a traveler my true needs are few and far inbetween

Fear:Fear? A emoition or a tag associated with somthing?
Fear for me is a neublious thing due to my excelnt control of my emoitions

However the thing that comes close under the running definition would have to be obvioion, No the fact nothing matters but the expecranced state of

IE Complete Senory Deprovation

I do not fear the dark, but I fear the nothingness

Post by **Kuja** » 2002-10-28 04:37pm

what me and some of my friends always wanted was to be a street band/singing goup. Not for money, just for fun. We actually did it a few times and loved it. I love music, and it's been a big part of my life, especially after I first picked up a trombone.

My biggest fear is that I'll end up working in a little frigging cubicle. I'd go pyscho.

Post by **haas mark** » 2002-10-28 05:49pm

Kelly Antilles wrote:Trust me: Sometimes there really is such a thing as love at first sight. I know from experience.

I do trust that....juts not with previous guys...

Post by **Darth Wong** » 2002-10-28 06:19pm

My greatest wish (since immortality and omnipotence seem unlikely) is to grow old with Rebecca and pass away peacefully in a home filled with the laughter of our grandchildren.

My greatest fear is that something bad will happen to my family.

Next of Kin · Post by **Next of Kin** » 2002-10-28 06:22pm

Stravo wrote: Greatest Fear: Death/Oblivion. I fear death because I am fairly certain that what's on the other end of the road is oblivion, nothing, and THAT frightens me more than anything because I cannot even concieve of what it would be like to face NOTHING. It just all ends. Everything you've done does not matter. That is a frightening concept.

I tend to see death as something that will free me from this world and send me, well who knows where...

Next of Kin · Post by **Next of Kin** » 2002-10-28 06:26pm

Kelly Antilles wrote:Trust me: Sometimes there really is such a thing as love at first sight. I know from experience.

I disagree with you Kelly. Its more like infatuation at first site.

Arthur_Tuxedo · Post by **Arthur_Tuxedo** » 2002-10-28 06:37pm

Want: Finish college so I can get a good job (I guess I could have just said money).

Fear: Death. I'm an atheist without a wife or children, what else would it be?

Hyperion · Post by **Hyperion** » 2002-10-28 07:51pm

want: someone to love and hold, someone to trust, someone to be there for me when things are going bad in my life, a shoulder to cry on. success in my life.

need: someone, a new laptop for college.

fear: going down in flames again, suffocation, complete failure, losing my family & friends, losing my way in the fog called life, never finding someone.

btw, i'm not afraid of death, granted being only 19 i'd rather prefer being around a while more, but if my number comes up there's nothing i can do about it, i can only hope that when i do go it's either fast and painless, or a big freakin' bang taking some mutherfuckers down with me for threatening my family & friends and/or country.

salm · Post by **salm** » 2002-10-28 08:27pm

wants: a dryer

needs: a dishwasher (have i mentioned that i´ve got one?)

fears: my dishwasher goes down.