i cheated and now i feal remorse...damn remorse

punkgothhippie · Post by **punkgothhippie** » 2002-11-02 01:23am

hey everyone i'm sorta newb at this but ya i am in desperate need of advice i'm friends with jadeite so you've delt with some of his stuff and now i hope you'll help me with mine
so how it goes is i get this new girlfriend right
she is like i dunno super and stuff lol like perfect and all well i'm alllll good and stuff for about 4 whole days and i mean i have never ever ever cheated on a girl before this mind you so i'm really not that bad of a person but any way to the point today well rather tonight i sorta cheated on my girlfriend with sorta her best friend and well so i here this is a horribly bad thing and i don't know if i will be as lucky as my friend i mean i hear she can hold grudges with the best of them but ya i think she will either break upw tih me or not trust me ever again either way it is horrible so if anyone can help me on this i would so very much appreciate it

Post by **haas mark** » 2002-11-02 01:25am

Dude, you're screwed. *pokes the noob*

XaLEv · Post by **XaLEv** » 2002-11-02 01:26am

4 days, eh?

BTW, run on sentences are cool.

Raxmei · Post by **Raxmei** » 2002-11-02 01:27am

I know this isn't the sort of advice you're looking for, but you need to learn how to use the shift key. It'd make your posts much more readable.

TrailerParkJawa · Post by **TrailerParkJawa** » 2002-11-02 01:28am

In all honesty. If you are truely sorry for cheating and know you wont do it again, I dont see any reason to tell the other person. Its more about your guilt than somehow being honest with her. Cause she has every reason to leave you if you tell the truth.

Just my opinion. This does not sound like its a long term, serious relationship..ie you are married with two kids right?

Post by **haas mark** » 2002-11-02 01:28am

XaLEv wrote:4 days, eh?

BTW, run on sentences are cool.

??????

XaLEv · Post by **XaLEv** » 2002-11-02 01:31am

verilon wrote:
XaLEv wrote:4 days, eh?

BTW, run on sentences are cool.
??????

To which part?

Post by **haas mark** » 2002-11-02 01:31am

XaLEv wrote:
verilon wrote:
XaLEv wrote:4 days, eh?

BTW, run on sentences are cool.
??????

To which part?

To the 4 days....

XaLEv · Post by **XaLEv** » 2002-11-02 01:33am

verilon wrote:To the 4 days....

well i'm alllll good and stuff for about 4 whole days

Post by **haas mark** » 2002-11-02 01:34am

XaLEv wrote:
verilon wrote:To the 4 days....
well i'm alllll good and stuff for about 4 whole days

Ah, um, well, ok, ah, yeah, whatever....

[EDIT] Oh duh. ONLY 4 days!?!?!? Sex-crazed little maniac!!!

neoolong · Post by **neoolong** » 2002-11-02 01:34am

What did you do though? And how drunk were you?

Post by **Sea Skimmer** » 2002-11-02 01:35am

*Poke*

Meet my friend alcohol, your new savior in this crisis.

punkgothhippie · Post by **punkgothhippie** » 2002-11-02 01:36am

sorry about the run ons. lol i was trying to hurry. and i abrely ever use punctuation. the four days i know it isn't any sort of record or anything but i mean it is a start, and well i'm hoping i didn't ruin this, cause that would suck really bad cause i actually care about this girl i think i will go with the keeping it from her but if any new advice pops into your guyses head i'm open for it too

TrailerParkJawa · Post by **TrailerParkJawa** » 2002-11-02 01:38am

4 days is nothing. In my book you are not even a couple, but just dating. Thats my book. Everyones is different.

punkgothhippie · Post by **punkgothhippie** » 2002-11-02 01:38am

basicly what i did was make out with my girlfriends best friend and well ya that isn't kool i mean it was while i was making out with her but then after the guilt hit in and now i feal like dumb ass boy super crusader of shitheadedness

Post by **haas mark** » 2002-11-02 01:41am

punkgothhippie wrote:basicly what i did was make out with my girlfriends best friend and well ya that isn't kool i mean it was while i was making out with her but then after the guilt hit in and now i feal like dumb ass boy super crusader of shitheadedness

So all you did was make out? Well, then that's different! But if you feel guilty, then I suggest telling your GF....it could be a good idea you know...just bring it up slowly, don't rush into it, be cautious.

[EDIT] That is, if making out is what I think making out is....

XaLEv · Post by **XaLEv** » 2002-11-02 01:42am

If you really care about her, my recommendation is to tell her. If you intend for your relationship to be anything more than a short fling, you should be honest with her. Better to get it out in the open and deal with it now, than risk it coming out later. It would probably less hurtful to her if she learns of it now, from you.

neoolong · Post by **neoolong** » 2002-11-02 01:42am

punkgothhippie wrote:basicly what i did was make out with my girlfriends best friend and well ya that isn't kool i mean it was while i was making out with her but then after the guilt hit in and now i feal like dumb ass boy super crusader of shitheadedness

It depends on a couple of things. First, how old are you? Second, when you say girlfriend, do you mean that you considered the both of you exclusive, or that you started dating?

I would say fess up and admit your mistake, and ask for forgiveness. A bribe wouldn't hurt. The longer you go without telling, and she finds out later, it will be severly worse.

But that's just me, it depends on your exact situation.

Knife · Post by **Knife** » 2002-11-02 01:45am

It is simple yet not very easy. Tell your GF what happened and what ever she does or say.......TAKE IT LIKE A MAN.

Basicly if she is a good women, she will leave you then and there. Learn from your mistakes and don't do it again. If you want to be with multiple partners then tell them and find people of like mind and you will be happier.

Sorry, probably not what you were looking for......

punkgothhippie · Post by **punkgothhippie** » 2002-11-02 01:46am

It depends on a couple of things. First, how old are you? Second, when you say girlfriend, do you mean that you considered the both of you exclusive, or that you started dating?

okey dokey well i'm fifteen i am trying to be exclusinve with my g/f but it is working out so well
but if there is some sort of quick fix like say if i like...did soemthing to like make up for it how would i make up for what i did exactly??!?

Knife · Post by **Knife** » 2002-11-02 01:47am

punkgothhippie wrote:
It depends on a couple of things. First, how old are you? Second, when you say girlfriend, do you mean that you considered the both of you exclusive, or that you started dating?

okey dokey well i'm fifteen i am trying to be exclusinve with my g/f but it is working out so well
but if there is some sort of quick fix like say if i like...did soemthing to like make up for it how would i make up for what i did exactly??!?

Well if your only 15, don't sweat it. You will have lots of other oppertunities to fuck up perfectly good relationships for years to come.

punkgothhippie · Post by **punkgothhippie** » 2002-11-02 01:51am

Well if your only 15, don't sweat it. You will have lots of other oppertunities to fuck up perfectly good relationships for years to come.

but see the thing is although i fucked up i don't want my relationship with this girl to be over i mean i really like this girl and i am sorta at the end of my ropes i've dated eight other girls this school year and well i only have two more left i could date after this one at least for the time being and well the one i am with is the best one so i want to try to fix it if at all possible

Knife · Post by **Knife** » 2002-11-02 01:54am

punkgothhippie wrote:
Well if your only 15, don't sweat it. You will have lots of other oppertunities to fuck up perfectly good relationships for years to come.
but see the thing is although i fucked up i don't want my relationship with this girl to be over i mean i really like this girl and i am sorta at the end of my ropes i've dated eight other girls this school year and well i only have two more left i could date after this one at least for the time being and well the one i am with is the best one so i want to try to fix it if at all possible

Irrelavent. Tell her what happened and if she takes you back count yourself lucky. But if she does, what does that say about both you and her? If she leaves you, it just proves she's a good lady and you missed out.

Basicly look at it like this. Do you want to do the right thing? Or what ever it takes to cover up you fuck up?

punkgothhippie · Post by **punkgothhippie** » 2002-11-02 02:01am

Basicly look at it like this. Do you want to do the right thing? Or what ever it takes to cover up you fuck up?

i sorta wanna do a lil of both i just wanna make sure i'm still in this relationship when tomorow comes arounf and the next day and the next day and the next

Knife · Post by **Knife** » 2002-11-02 02:03am

punkgothhippie wrote:
Basicly look at it like this. Do you want to do the right thing? Or what ever it takes to cover up you fuck up?
i sorta wanna do a lil of both i just wanna make sure i'm still in this relationship when tomorow comes arounf and the next day and the next day and the next

The next day sure, but what about the one after that when her so called best friend tells her what happened. Be a man, tell her what happened and then be a man and take the consequences.