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punkgothhippie wrote:Okey dokey guys...well i ended up telling her tonight, finally. Ummm...she basicly reacted horribly. She is heartbroken, and doesn't want to talk to me right now. She told me she doesn't know what to do. She told me she still loves me though. She told me she doesn't want to break up with me, but she isn't ure what to do. I now have to find some way to get her to trust me again if anyone can help me, i would appreciate it. How can i make sure that i keep her. I guess it turned out okay since i'm still with her i just want to know how to make her know for sure i love her and that she can trust me again... :cry:

First, don't do stupid shit like that again. And secondly, start completely over with her. I know you have only been with her less than a week but bear me out. Start the relationship colmpletely over with a first date and all. Go slow and earn trust, try more for a friendship and let all the good stuff come later.
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But as far as board culture in general, I do think that young male overaggression is a contributing factor to the general atmosphere of hostility. It's not SOS and the Mess throwing hand grenades all over the forum- Red
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Kelly Antilles wrote:I must say that I'm very pleased by your replies, guys. It makes me feel pretty good knowing that you all would speak truthfully rather than lying to someone you care about greatly.
I may not be an old married man yet, but I'm getting there. Besides, right is right and there is no getting past that. Plus that, I wasn't kidding when I said Take It Like A Man because he didn't act like one when he made out with his girl friend's best friend.
They say, "the tree of liberty must be watered with the blood of tyrants and patriots." I suppose it never occurred to them that they are the tyrants, not the patriots. Those weapons are not being used to fight some kind of tyranny; they are bringing them to an event where people are getting together to talk. -Mike Wong

But as far as board culture in general, I do think that young male overaggression is a contributing factor to the general atmosphere of hostility. It's not SOS and the Mess throwing hand grenades all over the forum- Red
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For a tad more background on this relationship...We have been friends for over a year so this relationship holds more than just teenage love, it's a solid friendship on the line. So if i screw this up not only do i lose a great girlfriend but i also lose a wonderful friend. And in turn i might lose other friends along with her if i hurt her ever again. My tempoorary lapse of judgement will haunt me for some time, now i will have to earn back trust from not only a girlfriend but a friend who's trust i ahve had for some time now.
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punkgothhippie wrote:For a tad more background on this relationship...We have been friends for over a year so this relationship holds more than just teenage love, it's a solid friendship on the line. So if i screw this up not only do i lose a great girlfriend but i also lose a wonderful friend. And in turn i might lose other friends along with her if i hurt her ever again. My tempoorary lapse of judgement will haunt me for some time, now i will have to earn back trust from not only a girlfriend but a friend who's trust i ahve had for some time now.
Ouch. Well, all I can say is, if you find yourself in that situation ever again, don't get involved. It's not going to help your trust any if you can't keep out of trouble. Another thing, if you go to a prty, see if she'll come with you. Go to social events together. That kind of thing.
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EDIT: I deleted the post that was here previously.


Hey people, Derek was able to get her to forgive him completely, altho she warned him not to ever pull that shit again. And shes mad at her friend.
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XaLEv wrote:
verilon wrote:
Asst. Asst. Lt. Cmdr. Smi wrote:Well, at least you made out with a . I won't have that luxury.[/u]
Why do you always leave spaces? Put some words in there goddammit!!!
There seems to be something on his computer which censors his posts.

Curiously, this has been mentioned to him several times before, but I have never seen him respond to it....
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punkgothhippie wrote:Okey dokey guys...well i ended up telling her tonight, finally. Ummm...she basicly reacted horribly. She is heartbroken, and doesn't want to talk to me right now. She told me she doesn't know what to do. She told me she still loves me though. She told me she doesn't want to break up with me, but she isn't ure what to do. I now have to find some way to get her to trust me again if anyone can help me, i would appreciate it. How can i make sure that i keep her. I guess it turned out okay since i'm still with her i just want to know how to make her know for sure i love her and that she can trust me again... :cry:
I think that you might gently ask the best friend to step in on your behalf. Make it clear, though, to the first girl that you really want to stay with her, and that you know you made a mistake.
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