you guys need a reality check

[Kelly_Donald]

I was searching the web for starwars stuff and look what I found I have to agree with Pat Kelly

as a so called survivor of sexual abuse I would just like to say that if you have a violent forceful sexual encounter than it was abuse but not sexual you need to separate the two
I am 21 now and I have had a sexual encounter with a adult from the time of 8yr old till I was 13 yrs old. I must say I enjoyed it very much as a matter of fact I kept it going till he moved. he always respected me he was never violent to me or ever harmed me in anyway. I think that much of the damage felt by people is a morality issue more than the act it's self sex does not harm us violence harms us and once we understand that we can move on to better understanding of adult/child relationships I think it is a very important part of my life that I had that experience and as a female I feel that it has given me a better out look on sex now. religion and morality has nothing to do with sex as a matter of fact we are sexual almost from day one I remember playing with myself as a child because it felt good and I also remember my parents telling me it was dirty to do that but the gentleman that taught me about my sexuality and that it was not dirty but natural and for this I will always love him I have yet to find a relationship as loving and full of kindness as that one I hope one day I will

there may have been some pleasure in what you experienced and it was the system that made you feel dirty and not the act it's self I under stand that people out there have had violence used on them and my heart goes out to the victims of violence but when it is not violent than we should not feel like victims the system is made to make us feel like victims and I have a friend was a victim of the system in her experience but if no harm is done than we should not feel like victims I myself am not a pedophile and have no interest in children other than giving birth one day to my own children I just want people to know that sometimes were not victims in adult/child sexual relationships but a victim of the system who makes us feel dirty for enjoying our selves those who get the chance to find some one who will lovingly show them about sex with out causing harm should feel good about it again my heart goes out to victims of violence but sex is a beautiful thing

I think that people are wrong in that it can be a beautiful experience as it was for me I think the system rapes are minds into believing that it is wrong there for we feel like victims I am not talking violent here I'm talking consensual sex as a child I think there is a difference and once we see that even as children it's not wrong to explore our sexuality with who ever we please and as a child we have sexual needs too then the witch hunt can stop against those who have not hurt us sexually did you know in many cultures in the past this was practiced an elder would teach the child about sex first hand I have been doing a lot of research on this because there need to be a separation of sexual abuse and sex I do not need a wedding band to have sex with some one I care about or love and I should not need the permission of a system to tell me what is right and wrong I am very free about my sexuality I believe that every time I have shared myself with someone it has had meaning I enjoy my sexual freedom and I owe it to my adult friend that taught me what sexual freedom was all about as a child and chastity and virginity is over rated when I was 17 I met a guy I loved him but I would never have married him but I give my virginity to him because I wanted to be close to him as a friend and feel him as a part of me I have shared my self at least once with most of my male friends because I wanted to share my love and friendship with them and some I still share myself with some times just for sexual release others times for closeness but none to spend the rest of my life with I am still in my sexual exploration stage of my life and I welcome new friends to share them selves with me I have also shared myself with some of my girlfriends not because I am Lesbian but because I love them sex is a expression of love and should be shared openly and freely with someone you love now if and when I find that man to spend the rest of my life with then I will be with him and him only but till that time I will feel free to love every one in my life that I choose to and have no tie ups on whether or not it is wrong because it is not wrong to express myself sexually and it is not wrong of others to express them selves sexually as long as it is consentual

The adult that I had a relationship with as a child expressed his love to me sexually and I consented if I did not like something all I had to do is say no and he would stop that is not abuse that is love


I am not trying to downplay any body's suffering what I am trying to say is that some people are a victim of the system and the moralities they try to push on people and then they push to make you feel like a victim because they say it is wrong or dirty thus making you feel like it was a violation when it may not have been as for Priests they are sexual being forced to not have sex this in it's self is wrong and my be one of the reasons these things happen because God made us able to show love through sex and making any one repress thoughts feelings is wrong at any age maybe the priest was trying to express his love for a child and due to the morality of today's society and the brain washing of religious cults like Christianity and Catholics who have raped our minds into believing what is moral and what is not will never control nature and nature runs the world and even our sexuality from the day were conceived maybe you should visit this web site and read it its about the sexual life of a child
http://home.wanadoo.nl/host/martinson/
it's a study done by doctors maybe you will see that it's the brain washing of the system and religion that has made a lot of people victims and not the sexual experience shared between adults and children on a consensual level

and as for having trouble defining my own experience I don't think so what I am trying to do is make it clear that it's not always the adult that is the predator but the system is just as guilty and then the adult and the child become the victim of the system who exploits them to enforce there own views of morality I will let you in on a little secret I work with children that are victims of sexual abuse and about 90% of all children of non violent sexual contact that I have had to counsel are more a victim of the system than they ever were victims of the adults that they had contact with

Kelly