Whats the best way to get over Shyness???(Help!!)

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walk over to a girl and ask her again some question which she cant answer with yes or no. for example: i dont knw this town too well, can you recomend a good club?
That's the same "give options but no escape route" tactic they recommend to telemarketers and insurance salesmen. I don't know if it's worked in your case, but I would tend to think that any intelligent girl will notice that you're trying to play that game, and won't be impressed.
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Post by Ted »

And sometimes acting like a bumbling stuttering idiot can help you.

Honestly!

They could be sympathetic to your state, and some girls think its cute!
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I've always seen self confidence and intelligence work well above bumbling.

Getting a reaction of you poor thing works only for a few instances, but as to ensnaring persay...they want something of stronger material.

I mean one way of curing shyness is simply accepting that women are human as well...seriously it goes a long way.
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Re: Whats the best way to get over Shyness???(Help!!)

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THEHOOLIGANJEDI wrote:I'm extremely shy when it comes to approaching the ladies. Which is a shock to most people I know, because I constantly hear from either my mom, relatives, friends etc. How I am a good looking guy and I get lot's of positive reinforcement from people about that (and have been since I was little esp. from complete strangers). Whenever I see a girl I find attractive or when I get the vibe that a girl finds me appealing or if a girl approaches me, I freeze, My mind goes totally blank, my shyness kicks in, and I speak in two word sentences. I would say normally I am a talkative person who has a good personality and I'm funny (or try to be). How can I get over my shyness with the Ladies.
flirt with everything that moves. I'm using that philosophy now, and aside from it's fun, it's also great practice for socializing. . . and often leads to quite nice things ^^.
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What I do is I just start throwing any words that comes into my head even if they don't make much sense and I keep on changing the topic and then going back to the original topic when I thought something about that. Either that or imagine her as being more ugly :wink:
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