Zaia, Diamonds, and Piercings

[Rob Wilson]

Hi! Y'all are going to think that I am the most spoiled-rotten woman on the face of the planet, but I'm going to tell you this anyway, because it's amusing and makes me feel extremely loved. My parents gave me diamond earrings this year for Christmas, as did one of my brothers, so now I have THREE pairs (including of course the infamous pair my friend gave me last week). The phrase "when it rains, it pours" keeps coming to mind, although this is of course a lovely thing to have happen to me, as opposed to a nasty thing.

Nice one Zaia.

It seems everyone knew I wanted those earrings and they all decided at the same time to get them for me. Go figger. So, when I tell my guy friend about the other two pairs I now have, I plan on saying something about how my parents, my brother, and a friend who is just like another brother to me (him, of course) all got me what I most wanted! In that way, I both thank him again and point out that it is not seen by me as a romantic gift AND that I don't see him in a romantic light. Yes, I will talk with him at length about his not having a chance in hell, but I think I'll use that family comment to start off that discussion.

I missed the original discussion thread when it started, but I really do think you need to simply drop this guy. You've told him 5 times that there's no chance and that should have been all th warning you needed that he is never going to stop. If you tell him once and thn need to tell him again, then fine - maybe he misunderstood you the first time. But if you have to tell him a third time then he is never going to get the message (or acknowledge it anyway). Your best bet is to Give him back the earrings, tell him why in a clear manner. Explain you're uncomfortable with the idea of having a freind that won't accept the boundaries of that friendship, and that if he's really your friend he'll let you go now on good terms. Wish him the best in the future and then leave.

Now if any of my female friends told me i was making them uncomfortable, and wanted to make a clean break. Then as their friend I'd accept that (I'd be unhappy but it's their choice) and move on. If he's really your friend he'll understand, if he only sees you as a friend he'll understand, if he genuinely wants the best for you he'll understand. If he's in love with you he'll protest, he'll tell you that he can work at not making you uncomfortable and things will be fine if you just give it a chance, He'll say anything to guilt you into not leaving him.

You have to be strong, and you have to make a stand. You're returning the earrings, you're making it clear why you need to do it and if he really is your friend he'll do his best to make it easy for you.

Obviously you need to talk it over with your offline friends as well as us here, and see if they thought it was an inappropriate gift. Go through your options with them first and then act on it.

Marla, I think this pretty much rules out your "diamond earrings = sexual favours" rule. And if that doesn't, I'd really rather not hear about it.

Marla's a troll don't waste your time on her feculant spewings.

[Mark S]

Personally, I never liked piercing of any kind. I think the female face and body look just great the way they are, with no jewellery or holes drilled through anything.

Amen. I can't say I care much for tattoos either. It's like spraypainting graffitti on the Taj Mahal - no matter how pretty a picture you make, on something that looks as good as that does to start with, it's only going to be a distraction and a blemish.

You got that right. And let's not forget our friends age and gravity. In thirty years that cute little butterfly is going to sag and be looking more like a vulture.

[Vympel]

Girls look great with earrings IMO- but there's no point in a little round button earring- if you can't see them unless you're already erm ... close, what the hell's the point?

Tongue piercings etc are a bit too much though.

[Rob Wilson]

Girls look great with earrings IMO- but there's no point in a little round button earring- if you can't see them unless you're already erm ... close, what the hell's the point?

well if you're that close then a few kisses to the side of the neck wouldn't be out of place. See they do serve a purpose.

I don't like those weird hoop earrings or the long ones that forever distract you whenever the woman so-much-as breathes. If they get them right then they look nice, but whenever they get their ears pierced I always think they have a large pimple on the side of their nose, and it really puts me off (same for those stupid ones wnere they pierce the skin between the bottm lip and their chin).

Tongue piercings etc are a bit too much though.

Well they will try to tell you that it improves the kissing and oral sex, unfortunately it's a lie . The damned things feel horrible during a kiss and they really add fuck-all to oral sex (unless you get turned on by small ball-bearings rubbing against your cock).

They're just fashion statements (and there's nothing wrong with that per se), nothing more nor less.

[InnerBrat]

Well they will try to tell you that it improves the kissing and oral sex, unfortunately it's a lie . The damned things feel horrible during a kiss and they really add fuck-all to oral sex (unless you get turned on by small ball-bearings rubbing against your cock).

I Have no experience on the oral sex front, but I have to disagree with you on the kissing - I've kissed peeps with either tongues or lower lips pierced, and I love it - gives me something to play with and tease.

[Zaia]

You got that right. And let's not forget our friends age and gravity. In thirty years that cute little butterfly is going to sag and be looking more like a vulture.

Eh, it depends on what it is, how big it is, and most importantly where it is. The two places I think I might like a tattoo are on the inside of my left ankle (right on the bone, where no one will do it, unfortunately) and on the back of my neck. Something very small; probably a crescent moon on the ankle or a rune or something on my neck. I don't think that falls under the same categorization as your 'butterfly ---> vulture' equasion. But maybe that's just me.

[ArmorPierce]

Heh, I got a box of soap. . . .

[Rob Wilson]

I Have no experience on the oral sex front, but I have to disagree with you on the kissing - I've kissed peeps with either tongues or lower lips pierced, and I love it - gives me something to play with and tease.

I just find them annoying (especially lip rings), when you go to kiss someone the last thing you want to find in their mouth is a lump of metal. Plus if you can put your tongue in the mouth of someone without a piercing and Not find something to tease and play with, your not doing it right (or they had some radical surgery)

[The Duchess of Zeon]

Congratulations on the gifts. Truly, if you can get men to get you diamonds, what else do you need them for?

Diamonds are forever,
They are all I need to please me,
They can stimulate and tease me,
They won't leave in the night,
I've no fear that they might desert me.
Diamonds are forever,
Hold one up and then caress it,
Touch it, stroke it and undress it,
I can see every part,
Nothing hides in the heart to hurt me.

I don't need love,
For what good will love do me?
Diamonds never lie to me,
For when love's gone,
They'll luster on.

Diamonds are forever,
Sparkling round my little finger.
Unlike men, the diamonds linger;
Men are mere mortals who
Are not worth going to your grave for.

I don't need love,
For what good will love do me?
Diamonds never lie to me,
For when love's gone,
They'll luster on.

Diamonds are forever, forever, forever.
Diamonds are forever, forever, forever.
Forever and ever.

...Sorry. It just seemed like a good moment for that.

[The Duchess of Zeon]

Well they will try to tell you that it improves the kissing and oral sex, unfortunately it's a lie . The damned things feel horrible during a kiss and they really add fuck-all to oral sex (unless you get turned on by small ball-bearings rubbing against your cock).

They're just fashion statements (and there's nothing wrong with that per se), nothing more nor less.

Whatever you say, Rob, whatever you say.

[Rob Wilson]

Well they will try to tell you that it improves the kissing and oral sex, unfortunately it's a lie . The damned things feel horrible during a kiss and they really add fuck-all to oral sex (unless you get turned on by small ball-bearings rubbing against your cock).

They're just fashion statements (and there's nothing wrong with that per se), nothing more nor less.

Whatever you say, Rob, whatever you say.

You know it's true Cuddles. Unless you want to tell us different.

[The Duchess of Zeon]

You know it's true Cuddles. Unless you want to tell us different.

It's all a matter of perspective.

[Rob Wilson]

You know it's true Cuddles. Unless you want to tell us different.

It's all a matter of perspective.

True, it is a matter of opinion... and of course mine is the right one!

[Coyote]

Congratulations on the gifts. Truly, if you can get men to get you diamonds, what else do you need them for?

*snit*

You women see us as nothing but material success objects; mere wallets to be exploited in a sex-for-security scam.

So when do we get started?

[The Duchess of Zeon]

True, it is a matter of opinion... and of course mine is the right one!

I didn't say opinion, I said perspective. Think about that for a moment.

[The Duchess of Zeon]

*snit*

You women see us as nothing but material success objects; mere wallets to be exploited in a sex-for-security scam.

So when do we get started?

Actually, I don't see men like that at all. However, turning the tables on the exploiters is a key victory for any revolutionary movement and an important step towards our real goal: Extermination of the Male Overclass!

Uhm...

I didn't really mean that.

Really.

[Rob Wilson]

True, it is a matter of opinion... and of course mine is the right one!

I didn't say opinion, I said perspective. Think about that for a moment.

*poke* stop spoiling my joke with relevancies Cuddles. *poke*

*Cranks up the semantics machine* A perspective is a veiwpoint and a point of veiw is an opinion so I was right

And yes, I do know what you are getting at, you naughty girl.

[Rob Wilson]

Congratulations on the gifts. Truly, if you can get men to get you diamonds, what else do you need them for?

*snit*

You women see us as nothing but material success objects; mere wallets to be exploited in a sex-for-security scam.

So when do we get started?

After you have the sex-change probably, Marina is less than interested in the male of the species.

[Rob Wilson]

Actually, I don't see men like that at all. However, turning the tables on the exploiters is a key victory for any revolutionary movement and an important step towards our real goal: Extermination of the Male Overclass!

Uhm...

I didn't really mean that.

Really.

Phew, I was worried there. Now if you'll excuse me I have a ticking present to open from you (very sweet of you to send me one Cuddles).

*Tick, tick, BOOOOOM*

[The Duchess of Zeon]

After you have the sex-change probably, Marina is less than interested in the male of the species.

Eunuchs may work in the palace without concern.

[The Duchess of Zeon]

Phew, I was worried there. Now if you'll excuse me I have a ticking present to open from you (very sweet of you to send me one Cuddles).

*Tick, tick, BOOOOOM*

That cost me a rather valued servant, Rob. Someday you're going to be one of my ghouls and them I'm going to take that out on you quite systematically. (Ah. The benefits of personality jump when suitable.)

[Rob Wilson]

After you have the sex-change probably, Marina is less than interested in the male of the species.

Eunuchs may work in the palace without concern.

I knew there was a reason you tolerated me... I mean.. that is... Damn my secret is out!

[CmdrWilkens]

Phew, I was worried there. Now if you'll excuse me I have a ticking present to open from you (very sweet of you to send me one Cuddles).

*Tick, tick, BOOOOOM*

That cost me a rather valued servant, Rob. Someday you're going to be one of my ghouls and them I'm going to take that out on you quite systematically. (Ah. The benefits of personality jump when suitable.)

I'm just gonna laugh the first time, if ever, you two meet and Rob lets slip with "Cuddles" (TM). In fact I'd pay to see that as a PPV event.

[CmdrWilkens]

4) Merry Xmas and enjoy the snow/slush

Maryland...DC...you guys all suck. I never get any decent powder in "sunny" California.

Well there's plenty of powder its just not the kind little kids can play it.

[Darth Yoshi]

Bah. It's not even sunny in San Francisco. All fog and clouds and fog...and fog...and...yeah.