seduction

[Enforcer Talen]

damn, the off topic is swarming with r/x rated material today.

now then. when you see someone you are attracted to, how do you go about ensnaring them. all details, plz

[Ted]

Didn't have to do that. I was snagged by her, somehow.

[weemadando]

*bad russian accent, ask casually over your shoulder or other "subtle" way*
"Are you Natasha, my contact?"

...

"Are you jamaican?"

(I'll let Zaia and Ewo finish that one).

[Zaia]

*bad russian accent, ask casually over your shoulder or other "subtle" way*
"Are you Natasha, my contact?"
...
"Are you jamaican?"
(I'll let Zaia and Ewo finish that one).

ROTFLMAO......oh no, I wondered what you would write in this thread, since I practically had to crush your skull to get you together with your present gf...

"Are you Jamaican?...'Cuz you're Ja-maican me crazy!"

EDIT: Had to clarify.

[Ted]

*bad russian accent, ask casually over your shoulder or other "subtle" way*
"Are you Natasha, my contact?"
...
"Are you jamaican?"
(I'll let Zaia and Ewo finish that one).

Do I WANT to know?

[Enforcer Talen]

yes.

[Durandal]

damn, the off topic is swarming with r/x rated material today.

now then. when you see someone you are attracted to, how do you go about ensnaring them. all details, plz

Different girls require different approaches. If I think she likes me and she seems like she's not arrogant, I'll usually act more nonchalant with her; that usually makes them want you even more, and they'll work harder to get your attention. That's when you know they like you. Of course, this can't carry on forever, and you eventually have to return their attention. The drawback with these types of girls is that they become dependent upon your attention, and that results in clinginess, which I hate.

If she seems confident in herself, all you really have to do is project a confident aura and (assuming you're not butt-ugly), she'll take notice of you. Strike up a conversation, subtly move it toward some sex-related topic (boxers, women's underwear, your first kiss, whatever, and before you know it, you'll both be turned on and burning for each other, and you'll have a makeout/orgasm buddy for the night, depending on how aggressive you both are.

[Drewcifer]

umm, I don't I try too hard and make a pompous ass out of myself. I do best if I just relax and be myself.

Sometimes though, the subtle things can help, like remembering little things she said. That also really comes in handy when showering with gifts.

And noticing something about her beauty that no one else tells her.

Oh, and being a good listener.

gah, someone shoot me and send me to Dr. Phil

[Joe Momma]

I actually use pick-up lines, but only when I'm in a relationship with the lady in question. I know it sounds ass-backwards, but they can be a lot of fun if they're a shared joke. God help the schmucks that use them actually hoping to impress a girl with their wit.

Other than that, I've nothing to add that hasn't been said already: pay attention and listen without being obsessive, take it slow and easy, etc..

-- Joe Momma

"I'll be your Burger King if you'll be my Dairy Queen: I'll do it your way if you treat me right."

"Excuse but I've been struck by your beauty, so I'm afraid I'll need your name and number for insurance purposes."

[Enforcer Talen]

yeah, I use pickup lines on my long time romances.

course, this topic wasnt pickup lines, exactly, but seduction. . . which is quite a bit more.

[Joe Momma]

Oh, and being a good listener.

This is tres important IMO, but the funny thing is it almost backfired on me a couple of times. I paid attention, asked sensitive questions, and so on, and found out later the women thought I was already married or otherwise seriously tied up; they assumed I paid such good attention to women because I'd already been housebroken.

Ditto being a decent dresser (no badly frayed/stained clothes, all the colors matching and complementing one another properly). One of my lady friends told me on the sly that people wondered if I was married or gay, which was pretty damn funny to me.

-- Joe Momma

[XaLEv]

The closest I've ever come is talking chicks online into sending me pics.

[Durandal]

Being a good listener is very important, but it's a big reason why I often get caught in the "just friends" trap. Girls usually just feel like they can trust me and tell me anything within a few weeks of knowing them, mostly because I'm low-key. I don't spread rumors, and I only tell the truth. You really have to develop your own personal aura. If you can exude trust and confidence, ladies will be crawling all over you.

[Drewcifer]

Oh, and being a good listener.

This is tres important IMO, but the funny thing is it almost backfired on me a couple of times. I paid attention, asked sensitive questions, and so on, and found out later the women thought I was already married or otherwise seriously tied up; they assumed I paid such good attention to women because I'd already been housebroken.

heha, ain't that the truth. Being a good guy often makes you gay or married.

Ditto being a decent dresser (no badly frayed/stained clothes, all the colors matching and complementing one another properly). One of my lady friends told me on the sly that people wondered if I was married or gay, which was pretty damn funny to me.

Yes, yes, this is very important. (I rely on my female friends to pick out clothes for me, as my personal sense of style is an old t-shirt and jeans with my favorite beat up sneakers.)

Besides, when you look good, you feel good, which leads to:

If you can exude trust and confidence, ladies will be crawling all over you.

Yup. Couldn't have said it better.

Being a good listener is very important, but it's a big reason why I often get caught in the "just friends" trap. Girls usually just feel like they can trust me and tell me anything within a few weeks of knowing them, mostly because I'm low-key.

Yeah, I used to be the guy that girls would hang out with to complain about their nasty boyfriends. That, and the "you're so awesome, I can't believe no one has snatched you up."

I've experienced the "telling secrets" thing often myself. People, but especially women, have told me things that no one else knows, sometimes before I even learn their last name. Weird, but a plus in my favor I guess.

[Darth Wong]

I've never seduced anyone on a first date. I know it can be done, but it depends on the girl more than the guy. Honestly, a girl who gives it up on the first date is a bad idea as far as I'm concerned. If she's not going to make you work for it, you'd best turn around and look somewhere else because this is a road well-travelled.

[Drewcifer]

That's true DW. I've always thought of seduction as a longer term goal than just one night/the first date though. A one night stand is getting laid, not seduction.

[Durandal]

Yeah, I used to be the guy that girls would hang out with to complain about their nasty boyfriends. That, and the "you're so awesome, I can't believe no one has snatched you up." icon_rolleyes.gif icon_lol.gif

Don't even get me started on that. Girls still complain the me about how big of an asshole their boyfriend is at a given time, but I've moved beyond them. Those girls and I will never be anything more than friends, so I find new girls for my relationship desires, even though I want the friends more than anyone else.

By the way, have you ever seen the Budweiser commercial?

[The scene opens with 4 beautiful women talking to a reasonable handsome man at a bar in a booth. They are cackling and giggling along with him]

WOMAN 1: Jeez, Dave, you're such a great guy. You're a good listener; you're really nice and courteous, why are you still single?

[The rest of the women begin echoing her sentiment]

WOMAN 2: Yeah, I know, I can't believe someone hasn't snatched you up yet!
WOMAN 3 and WOMAN 4 (together): Yeah really!

[JOHN, who is DAVE's friend, and completely ignores the 4 women, walks on to the scene]

JOHN: Hey man, I'm gettin' outta here.
DAVE: Oh, OK. By the way, John, this is Kathy and --
JOHN: Yeah, whatever.

[JOHN exist the scene. The women are all smitten]

WOMAN 1: Who's your friend?

Budweiser. True.

It is.

[Zaia]

Not true for all of us. Some of us are smitten with our guy friends who are hung up on stupid, self-centered spoiled little bitches. *forced smile*

[Drewcifer]

Don't even get me started on that. Girls still complain the me about how big of an asshole their boyfriend is at a given time, but I've moved beyond them. Those girls and I will never be anything more than friends, so I find new girls for my relationship desires, even though I want the friends more than anyone else.

That kind of thing dies off when your friends start getting married, and then later, it can get much, much worse. Luckily, most of my friends made really good choices in spouses, the soulmate kind.

Too, it helps when you get a little older and more mature, and can respond with "leave the asshole or shut-up". (Not always, a friend in trouble is something different, but you know what I mean.)

By the way, have you ever seen the Budweiser commercial?

no, but true, true...

[Drewcifer]

Not true for all of us. Some of us are smitten with our guy friends who are hung up on stupid, self-centered spoiled little bitches. *forced smile*

Look at this way Zaia, in five years when you're snuggled under the covers on a Sunday morning with your sweetie, your friend will be signing divorce papers.

Yeah, I know, that doesn't help right now.

[Vympel]

Theory I heard once- women like assholes because they mistake being a jerk for confidence- bad boy syndrome and all that.

Also has something to do with thinking that pain=passion.

Domestic violence is this times 100- when the lows are really low, the highs are really high.

[Enforcer Talen]

-skims badboy/self confidence image; wears all sorts of fashionable counter culture clothes-

[Zaia]

Theory I heard once- women like assholes because they mistake being a jerk for confidence- bad boy syndrome and all that.
Also has something to do with thinking that pain=passion.
Domestic violence is this times 100- when the lows are really low, the highs are really high.

Nah, I think it has more to do with the chickies who think they can change a man. When an asshole is attracted to a woman, he usually pretends to be nice when he's around her, which makes her think that if he loves her enough and vice versa, he'll be like that all the time to everyone.

Unfortunately, people don't change unless they choose to do so, which is why he stays an asshole and she (hopefully) eventually wakes up and realizes that he likes being a dick and is never going to stop. End cycle. Repeat with another dickhead until she gets what's going on, finds a sweet guy and lives happily ever after.

The end. Ta-da!

[Darth Wong]

A man marries a woman in the hope that she will never change. A woman marries a man in the hope that he will change.

[Zaia]

A man marries a woman in the hope that she will never change. A woman marries a man in the hope that he will change.

Both suffer from delusional thinking, then.