Interesting Moral Conundrum

[HemlockGrey]

Oh. I missed the part about us both being in college. Well, in that case, I smack him across the face and tell him to snap out of it.

[Slayen]

missed that part myself. In that case i would walk over, shut off the computer, roll him out the door and tell him to not come back until he has a date with some one actually out of high school.

[Arthur_Tuxedo]

When I was 18, I had it in for a 13 year old. She looked older, but nonetheless... it wasn't until later that I realized how sick the whole thing was. I can't give you good advice because you haven't told us about your friend, if he's thick-headed and stubborn like me then it could be hard to talk him out of it and you might have to resort to threats. Under no circumstances should you let him pursue a relationship with a child, because that's what she is. I've been in his situation, and I have the benefit of 20/20 hindsight. She is a child, he is an adult, and you cannot under any circumstances let him victimize her.

[SeebianWurm]

Its hypothetical.

[GrandMasterTerwynn]

When I was 18, I had it in for a 13 year old. She looked older, but nonetheless... it wasn't until later that I realized how sick the whole thing was. I can't give you good advice because you haven't told us about your friend, if he's thick-headed and stubborn like me then it could be hard to talk him out of it and you might have to resort to threats. Under no circumstances should you let him pursue a relationship with a child, because that's what she is. I've been in his situation, and I have the benefit of 20/20 hindsight. She is a child, he is an adult, and you cannot under any circumstances let him victimize her.

It is a purely hypothetical situation, kinda along the lines of my "If some guy came up to you with a box with a button on it and told you that if you pressed it, you'd get filthy rich . . . except that somebody would die" situation that I came up with several months back. Though, reading through the results, I see a near-universal condemnation of our theoretical friend's behavior. The majority of the votes are split between telling him to stop because it's wrong, or telling him to stop, otherwise he's going to meet a big guy named Bubba who likes to play "drop the soap" in Cellblock A.

This is not including the fairly sizeable chunk of people who voted: "Do nothing, it's none of my business." For those people, I should ask why they chose to vote this way? Does your friend's right to determine his own actions outweigh the legions of moral ramifications that would come with a serious (read: sexual) relationship with a 14 year old girl? Or is it possibly fear of becoming involved in such a tricky situation. (Even though the fact that he has told you and you chose to do nothing could get you arrested as an accessory if it so happened that he did get caught with his pants down . . . pun intended.) Or is it another reason altogether?

[GrandMasterTerwynn]

Well, what's the MAX age difference between two people who want to become lovers? Or just BF and GF?

Well, there are people out there who have married in spite of an eighteen year difference in ages. However, this question is asking about a girl who is fourteen and a guy who is . . . say in his early twenties . . . just to peg down the age. By any definition, she is a minor. (Some states stipulate that fifteen is the absolute minimum. Which is why I chose 14.)

[GrandMasterTerwynn]

Threaten the fucker.

14 is too young. Too damn young.

If it was 16, I might voice my concerns and let it ride... but 14 - what kind of sick arsehole is my friend?

Interesting. Why the big difference between 14 and 16? It's a difference of 13 to 31 months, which in the overall scheme of things, may not be that big a difference. (When I was in HS, there were freshmen who had their heads screwed on straighter than some seniors.)

[Arthur_Tuxedo]

At 14, girls are still developing. They do not have the mental or emotional faculties to make such a choice. Let me put it this way: How many women have you met that had their cherries popped at 14 or earlier that didn't deeply regret it? I only know of 1, and she ended up marrying the guy.

[C.S.Strowbridge]

At 14, girls are still developing. They do not have the mental or emotional faculties to make such a choice. Let me put it this way: How many women have you met that had their cherries popped at 14 or earlier that didn't deeply regret it? I only know of 1, and she ended up marrying the guy.

It still seems to be an arbitrary age, not a maturity level. Cause at 16 they are still mentally developing, in fact, that continues to about 21, in most people.

[InnerBrat]

At 14, girls are still developing. They do not have the mental or emotional faculties to make such a choice. Let me put it this way: How many women have you met that had their cherries popped at 14 or earlier that didn't deeply regret it? I only know of 1, and she ended up marrying the guy.

It still seems to be an arbitrary age, not a maturity level. Cause at 16 they are still mentally developing, in fact, that continues to about 21, in most people.

Thing is, a line has to be drawn. 16 seems sensible to me because I think by that point most people are just about mature enough to be able to decide whether or not to sleep with someone. 18, IMO, is too old, 14 is too young.

[C.S.Strowbridge]

At 14, girls are still developing. They do not have the mental or emotional faculties to make such a choice. Let me put it this way: How many women have you met that had their cherries popped at 14 or earlier that didn't deeply regret it? I only know of 1, and she ended up marrying the guy.

It still seems to be an arbitrary age, not a maturity level. Cause at 16 they are still mentally developing, in fact, that continues to about 21, in most people.

Thing is, a line has to be drawn. 16 seems sensible to me because I think by that point most people are just about mature enough to be able to decide whether or not to sleep with someone. 18, IMO, is too old, 14 is too young.

I think there should be a maturity test. You need to pass to be able to own a car, vote, etc.