DaveJB wrote:
While I can't speak for anyone else, here are the statements which I find the most contentious:
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You seem to be implying that autistics are the victims of a cruel society, scared by what they don't understand, and that it's time to make a stand for our right to be socially inept. In reality, that's exactly what we DON'T need to do.
I've researched the social controls, caste-systems, and the like. And still am. I'm not
ignorant of society's rules and beliefs, I've simply looked and analyzed them and believe that they are a piece of shit. I'm sure some others think similarly and don't care. Back then I was heavily inept, still I am in some cases but because people bitched about it; I researched it. I still had the same opinions, but I did research society.
I can speak from personal experience on this, because my own damn mother told me to sit back, play the victim and reap disability benefits from the taxpayer (I'm not kidding; she got me to spend my 16th birthday filling out all the claims forms so I could get my first payment the following Thursday) instead of going out into the real world, getting a job alongside my A-Level studies and learning valuable work ethics and social skills.
Unfortunately I was naive enough to believe that this was the right thing to do, and so the end result was that I ended up going to university a social cripple with no employment record. So, when my original set of housemates told me to go fuck myself at the end of our first year - which, in retrospect, they had every right to do - and my mother tried assuring me that I hadn't done anything wrong and that the rest of the world was to fault, that was when I finally realized that I had to shed the whole victim complex if I was going to get anywhere. It's the same case with most autistics - you have to try and make things work for yourself, otherwise you will simply die when you try and go out into the real world.
I am working on looking into society's controls, ideas, standards (and has). I am not necessarily ignorant of them, I see them and have researched much of this. I simply came to a different conclusion that they are complete and utter shit (to me).
My mother had a different thing, she complained to me that "I lack common sense", issues and arguments with her, her bitching about how I would get up or how I would sit down, complaining about the words I use-even if they do fit due to connotations. Her saying "you better act this way, or do things this certain way" claiming that there is not various ways to get the job done when I believed this. Maybe that is my experience and others had different experiences.
BTW I'm a Senior in HS, 17 and graduate in a few months. I'm trying to get single-room dorms.
