Alyrium Denryle wrote:
So this is your proof that my entire family is "unbalanced" and "incapable of thinking rationally." Wow. One conversation with one of my six sisters. Brilliant.
At least that one sibling is. Strictly speaking, all the conclusion I can draw with certainty is that she is significantly "off". She may be able to think rationally about an equation, but when it comes to her own value sets, moral decision making, and generally the things that dictate how she treats others at least politically (in terms of policy she supports) and I will hazard to guess individually as well (those sorts of things have a correlation coefficient that approaches 1), she seems incapable of it.
With the knowledge that I have at my disposal, and given that you are an admitted outlier I make a rational inference within a certain confidence interval to make predictions about the others. Those may or may not be accurate. I am using inductive rather than deductive logic.
I moved beyond fundamentalism and learned to question all assumptions; my sister has not (largely, I would argue, because of her personality). So you have a sample size of two. You cannot draw from this that my entire family is "off," and you later admitted this.
So, I will ask the question. Are your other family members religious bigots? Can they handle polite discussion regarding the intersection of politics and religion without going "wonky"? Have a significant number of them ever questioned their preconceptions about their worldview in a meaningful way? Prior to them getting out on their own, were they ever faced with the opportunity to legitimately make their own moral and personal decisions?
If not, your parents failed at one of the core aspects of a good, well-rounded education.
Again, most of them haven't grown up yet. I'll give what I can, though:
Mom - She is a feeler, not a thinker. While she's very intelligent, she'd rather read a kids book with a small child or play the piano while the kids fall asleep than carry on a political conversation. She prefers things everyone agrees on - a tray of brownies, a game of Uno.
Dad - He wasn't always a fundie; he converted in high school. He went into the navy as an officer. He's an engineer, and is very very intelligent. He's always reading, thinking, learning new things. He is able to think critically, but he believes that the Bible is backed up by evidence, that that scientific evidence points to creation, not evolution. This may be because of the types of books he reads. However, he is always seeking to learn more because he is afraid of being wrong. My father ran for state rep some years back, and has been politically involved since; he's totally fine in social situations, and is really good at connecting people, etc.
My sister - She's like my mom, really. No, she hasn't questioned her preconceptions. However, she was always a little bit more of a wild child and she now makes her own decisions, and this doesn't always please my parents. She has piercings and several tatoos and she's on the birth control pill. This means she is able to make her own decisions, even when they go against my parents. Serious religious or political discussions don't interest her.
My brother - He's only a sophomore in college. I don't see him all the time, but when I do, he's been fine with discussing political and theological points with me even when I disagree, and he's perfectly civil about it. He's also disagreed with my parents on some things, particularly choosing not to go into the military and not to have political ambitions. He's charting his own path and I think he'll continue to think for himself. He's definitely a thinker.
My next brother - Though still in high school, he can't wait to get out of the home and go to college. He's taking college classes at a local college, and is involved in an adult music group, Civil Air Patrol, and sports at a public school. He's very logical, and wants to be an engineer. I'm excited to see where he goes as he grows.
My next brother - Also in high school, he's full of teenage angst and just wants to be a drummer in a band. Most of his friends attend public school, and he's begun attending a youth group at another church (for social reasons), something my parents weren't initially too keen on. Again, we'll see where he goes.
My other siblings are 13 and under, and I don't see them but six or so times a year, so it's hard to tell. Again, I'm excited to see what directions they take as they grown.
You asked about making decisions while still at home. Yes, we were able to. My parents make a point of giving my siblings more freedom as they grown, esp. in high school. My two high school aged brothers spend time outside of the house and away from my parents with Civil Air Patrol, their (not homeschool) music groups, public sports, and general get-togethers with their friends, homeschool or no. The oldest one at home now completely directs his own schedule; he has his license and, within reason, comes and goes as he pleases.
Does this answer your question?
I will however retract my proposition that your family at large is insane. It was unfair of me, and I apologize.
Thank you.
A very lot of people, the vast majority of whom are not homeschoolers, believe that homosexuality is a sin against God. My family (except me, of course) happens to hold this belief, and it has nothing to do with the fact that they homeschool.
Had your siblings ever been exposed to gay people in a neutral setting, they may have (many do) gotten over that an early age. Instead the homeschooling never gave them that chance.
Are all children in public schools across the entire country exposed to gays in a neutral setting at an early age? My guess is that that they aren't around others identifying as gay until high school, and that even then there is a lot of bigotry, etc, rather than simple acceptance. My sister was exposed to gays when she arrived at college when she was 17. Two of her best friends freshman year are gay (they're not close now only because she dropped out for a year and then moved out of the dorms, and her friend group was kind of scattered).
Lots of people are bigots. Homeschooling ensured that only one of the ~10 children in your family ever grew the fuck up and stopped hating 6ish% of the population for no reason. If we go with a random distribution of who is and is not a bigot we would expect something along the lines of 50% of them having done so.
I can site study after study, all of them in peer reviewed journals showing the predictive power of religious fundamentalism with respect to homophobia. Certainly with a 90% success rate, your parents did a pretty good job of assuring that their kids stayed fundies. Has there been research specifically on this subject? No. I cant find any. On the other hand the inference is a rational one.
You forget one thing. My siblings are not all grown up. You have me, then my sister, age 21. One of us got beyond it, one didn't. Then there are my next two brothers, ages 20 and 17, both of whom are markedly less fundamentalist than my parents. And they're not done growing up and figuring out where they stand. Then the rest of my siblings, well, you can't say yet. They are ages 16, 14, 12, 10, 8, 6, 6, and 4. In saying that my parents have a "90% success rate" at keeping their kids fundies, you assume that a four year old is grown up and mature and intentionally choosing to be a fundie. I have a problem with that. Time will tell which of my siblings stay or leave, and I'm looking forward to welcoming those who will (inevitably) leave with open arms.
Point 3: A very lot of people, the vast majority of whom are not homeschoolers, believe that the Bible is true and the ultimate source of wisdom. My family (except me, of course) happens to hold this belief, and it has nothing to do with the fact that they homeschool.
This is a non-sequitur. Just because people hold a position without condition X being true, does not mean that condition X did not contribute to the holding of that position in a given case.
Would all of your siblings be raging fundies had they not been homeschooled?
Again, we don't know yet whether they all
will be raging fundies as adults, homeschool or no.
The academic performance analyses indicate that home school graduates are as ready for college as traditional high school graduates and that they perform as well on national college assessment tests as traditional high school graduates. The results of this study are also consistent with other studies on the academic performance of home school students compared to traditional high school graduates (Galloway 1995, Gray 1998, Jenkins 1998, Mexcur 1993). These results also suggest that a parent-guided K-12 education does not have a negative effect on a student's college success.
I noted that it was a wash. A wash being no statistically significant effect. IE that homeschooling parents who think they can do a better job than our shitty school system actually do no such thing.
Some do a better job, some don't (I do support more regulation to weed out the failures). My point was that homeschoolers can do as good a job as the public schools, which you said was not true.
Homeschool parents do teach science. Most of the time the idea is "this is what evolution teaches, learn this, but remember that we believe it's wrong."
It is the unifying principle of the entire field of biology, they are effectively saying "All of biology is wrong, but regurgitate this on tests that the devil worshipers give you"
Do you not see something wrong with this?
For what it's worth, I've been around fundies all of my life and I've never heard them mention the term "devil worshipers." "Secular humanists," yes, but not "devil worshipers." Unless you've heard that term mentioned frequently in fundie circles, I would discontinue using it; it makes it sound like you don't really know what you're talking about.
And again, there are plenty of parents of public school students who tell their children that evolution is wrong. It's not just homeschoolers.
And I do see a problem with people teaching that evolution is bunk. But that's not just a homechool problem, that's a half-of-America problem. Yes, when you're homeschooled, you don't have a public school teacher telling you it's right. But when it comes to people believing in creation...when you've got half the population convinced the world is 6,000 years old, the problem is way bigger than that.
Sex ed - come one, do public schools really do a good job of that? Surlethe went to a public charter school; sex ed was one day, and he was out that day for a dentist appointment and missed it, so he got...NOTHING.
One day of awkward teacher telling you about condoms and that masturbating wont make you go blind is a hell of a lot better than the homeschooled children of most fundies will get.
You do still have parents at home telling public school kids that abstinence is the only way, in many cases. And did you catch that I said I told my mom that she did a shitty job of teaching me sex ed, and that she's intentionally changed that with the younger kids, teaching it to them starting at age eight? You can't say point blank that all homeschoolers to a bad job of this. I think it varies, just like it varies in public schools. Here's an article on health ed in Indiana homeschools:
http://cat.inist.fr/?aModele=afficheN&cpsidt=15208111
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