But in our eyes, when someone goes through a difficult event and manage to survive it and become a good person, we are moved by his courage and his unfailing heart. We respect those that overcome obstacles. And those that turn evil are still put on trial and sentenced, even though it's not entirely their fault. That's somewhat the same idea behind a god's actions (or inactions).
So you are saying...what exactly?
That god doesn't help anyone so that they can develop by the challenge?
You see, that's the kind of double-speak and twisted thinking i am talking about - you take a concept that is valid in some cases and spread it to everything.
See, if someone has trouble with managing money and trough some personal experience get's better at it (say, by spending some months near broke), that could be called a good thing.
But NOT if his failings with managing money cause harm to thousands of others (see our current financial crisis).
And NOT if his mismanagment (on a personal scale) causes him to be broke for the rest of his life, or to die due to a lack of money.
If a child has an accident and therefore learns to be more carefull since it has hurt itself, then that is a valid learning experience.
But NOT if it dies in the process or is crippled for life.
I am sure you know the saying about a child which has burnt itself will stay away from fire (or somewhat like that).
But what if that event is a pot of boiling water that cripples the right arm for the rest of it's life and also causes a disfiguring scar which leads to endless ridicule during the teenage years? This happened to my mother, by the way.
Your concept is not universal. Sometimes hard times can be beneficial. But quite often they are not.
An omnipotent benevolent god could easily prevent fatalities or long-lasting negative effects from all challenges.
Just the possibilty to gain something is challenge enough, even if you have nothing (or next to) to loose. Going further than that is just cruel.
Saying that "unwilling to prevent a bad thing = necessarily evil" is just some tantrum thrown in the discussion. Because by its very definition god is an otherwordly existence that doesn't follow any law or rule you are following. He is not responsible for my life or for yours.
THIS is also what i am objecting to. Morality should be universal. In most religions, it IS universal. Causing harm to another self-aware being is a BAD THING. It can sometimes be justified (e.g. self-defense), but your god does it for selfish reasons all the time.
You can't just say "he is above the rules". While your concept of god is clearly to powerfull to have to answer to us, we still can and should judge and reject him on the basis of his actions.
Otherwise, by your logic (and it has often be used like that), a ruler is also unaccountable to the people just because he is too powerfull.
Note : it really seems to me that the in helenistic, ancient egypt and abrahamic religions, there is a judgment day at some point after death. Could you explain how is that possible if, as you claimed, their god(s) isn't the one defining what is good and what is not?
Wrong.
While some religons contain an "Armageddon"-szenario, i am not aware of any religion but the abrahamic ones that has something like your "Judgement day".
If you take, as an example, the nordic Ragnarök, then you will see that is is merely the final battle between the gods and their supernatural opponents which results in the destruction of the world - with two (or more?) humans surviving and starting a new world.
Many religions don't have any "end of the world"-szenarios at all.
Furthermore, your version of judgement is not universal either.
While helenistic and egyptian religion contained judges, they were quite different from your version.
Helenistic selection in the afterlife was more about important than good deeds (tough the deeds had to be heroic, IIRC), while the judges in egyptian religon cared only for good and bad deeds (and used scales to determine which weighted heavier) and not for any kind of mindless worship of deities.
Many other afterlifes are based on achievements, too - some even have many different afterlifes depending on the life you lead - e.g. a warrior would go to an afterlife where he would life an eternal life as a warrior, while a farmer would retire as the head of a large farm etc.
I am by no means an actual expert on religions, this is just basic knowledge back from school and some reading on my own.
If you want to get an actual education on religion, ask someone else.