mr friendly guy wrote:Duterte has been under intense global scrutiny over the more than 2,000 suspected drug dealers and users killed since he took office. Obama had said he planned to raise the issue in his first meeting with Duterte, but the Philippine leader insisted he was only listening to his own country’s people.
“You must be respectful,” Duterte said of Obama. “Do not just throw questions.” Using the Tagalog phrase for “son of a bitch,” he said, “Putang ina I will swear at you in that forum.” He made the comment to reporters in Manilla.
“We will be wallowing in the mud like pigs if you do that to me,” Duterte said.
This sort of thing, and the reaction, is an excellent example of why you don't want to elect a "tells it like it is" leader with a gift for grandstanding to his own voters. Having filters and a "Miss Manners" persona in public is a
good thing in international affairs, because it is really, really not supposed to get personal. If you get used to being the guy who insults people crudely and aggressively as a way of trying to show dominance,
especially with people who have power greater than your own, you will end up sorry and sore.
Obama also spent about 90 minutes Monday with Russian President Vladimir Putin, another leader whose fate seems intertwined with Obama’s in all the wrong ways. On opposing sides of many global issues, the U.S. and Russia are nonetheless trying to broker a deal to address the Syrian civil war and perhaps even partner militarily there.
“President Putin’s less colorful,” Obama said, comparing him with Duterte. “But typically the tone of our meetings is candid, blunt, business-like.”
Right... because Putin, like most
successful, long-lasting powerful men, knows how to make nice and to be polite regarding people with enough power that they cannot be bullied.
Duterte's remarks suggest that he tried to bully Obama, or tried to convince his own voters that he was bullying Obama. This is not a good move.
Question - is Obama a drama queen and inappropriately raising tensions for cancelling, or is he right because the office of the president must be respected, because the office is going to get its feelings hurt or something.

I mean I have seen people criticise others for calling Bush an idiot because of the office of president thing, and I have seen people criticise other countries, cough China cough for withdrawing ambassadors and disapproving of them "raising tensions" when Stas suggested they hypothetically tell some country to fuck off, so hey, is Obama raising tensions here. LOL.
I don't even remember the incident involving China.
What it comes down to is that when you're involved in international diplomacy, you can call policies stupid, and you can disapprove of what people say and do. But you should not
lightly, willfully insult people you expect to have a working relationship,
ever. It's just that simple.
Unless you are in a social circle where insults are a widely accepted form of humor, and everyone involved knows that, the insults will damage your working relationship. And you cannot reasonably expect powerful people to let crude insults and "yeah, he better not talk about my human rights record!" huffing and puffing go unchallenged or unanswered. They didn't get into positions of power by being people it was easy to push around.
mr friendly guy wrote:Of course, all countries have to do this to send a message that they will play hard ball for certain positions. What's the betting that if the US president (lets imagine a hypothetical Trump presidency) called another president a son of bitch, and that country refused to meet the POTUS, what would Western media say about it? Would it be "toughen up snowflake" or what an idiot the POTUS is? I suspect it would be both, but purely depending on which party the particular media outlet supports.
Well, the media certainly
should be calling hypothetical President Trump an idiot for this kind of thing. And indeed this is one of the best arguments against electing Trump, near the top of a very long list. Trump is unlikely to show judgment and discretion, and he does not have a gift for being polite or tactful to people he isn't in a position to bully.