mr friendly guy wrote: ↑2017-11-11 07:15pmYeah I know what you mean. As a kid I admired Hulk Hogan (racist), the Ultimate Warrior (homophobe), Chuck Norris (Christian fundamentalist fool), Kevin Sorbo (racist and Jews control Hollywood apparently) and Nelson Mandela. Ok, Mandela still intact. John Barrowmen still seems alright.
Part of the issue is that if you pick the shittiest thing a person has literally ever done, and choose that as a representative sample of their character, you can make any person look very bad. Much worse than they'd look if you took the weighted average of everything they've ever done.
Weinstein's thing seems to be that he's been doing this
constantly; he's basically set himself up as Baron of Hollywood and exercised
jus primae noctis over every starlet he could get his hands on for decades. There is not a single instance, there are many. There is no sign that he has come around on this issue, he kept doing it for years and years, long after the culture as a whole had agreed that what he was doing was wrong.
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Also... thinking about George Takei, going from "grope oh my" in 1981 to "people who victimize other people are douchebags" today... This may reflect some kind of change of heart on his part between, say, 1981 and 2011?
I think part of the problem is that we've had a massive sea change in "this is what it is acceptable for men in some kind of prominent or authoritative position to do" between the 1980s and the present.
I get the feeling that the norm that it is just plain never ever okay to grope people you're attracted to, even as an 'alpha male' of high social status? That seems to be a product of the last 20-40 years. The idea that as a high-status male, you can invite lower-status people to a private location and they still have a reasonable expectation that you will
NOT make sexual advances, if you feel like doing so? Again, product of the last 20-40 years.
So it may well be that if we look back on the behavior of males who were high-status in 1975 or 1980,
nearly all of them were sexually harassing people, because that was normative behavior by the standards they grew up under in the '50s, '60s, and '70s. If you find a prominent male in 1975 who didn't commit sexual harassment, it may well not be because they were more virtuous than their fellow high-status males. It may well just be because they had less sex drive. Or had religious hangups about sex, or a very vigilant wife who would jump up and down on them for any hint of infidelity.
And at some point, it just becomes pointless to even try to single out specific men from this era who are free of sin versus those who are to be cast into the outer darkness forever. There are very likely men
now who were children or not born then, who are not guilty of sexual harassment... but among those who were famous or successful in the '70s and '80s, they seem to fall into three categories: "guilty," "guilty but not found out" and "innocent because they were never tempted, for reasons they can't take credit for."
Personally I prefer to reserve outrage for:
1) People who specifically abused a position of power.
2) People who made a pattern of unwanted sexual advances over a period of years against multiple targets
3) People who
haven't learned the goddamn lesson even though we've spent the '80s, '90s, '00s, and '10s systematically hammering the lesson into everyone willing to sit still for it.
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It's like, you can look back at the prominent ancient Romans who owned slaves (i.e. all of them) and say "OH MY GOD THEY WERE ALL AS BAD AS HITLER FOR BEING PRO-SLAVERY." But all this accomplishes is to give us a case of outrage fatigue. Even the most enlightened Romans were, on the whole, pro-slavery. Because by and large, it
never occurred to them that slavery was a bad thing. Calling them evil in some absolute sense for this is useless because it deprives us of one of the most important reasons to even talk about good and evil: namely, the ability to clearly differentiate between the two in any given situation.
"Right" is a meaningless concept if everyone and everything is uniformly and without exception "wrong..." but by implication, so is "wrong." So saying "everyone is terrible" is meaningless. You end up needing a Moral Quotient that's sort of like IQ, in that it is normalized to the standards of the specific culture in question. You can't just relegate everyone to the outer darkness for being
less than optimally good according to our best efforts to optimize for goodness.
I mean...
In 1965, a man being enlightened on gender issues might mean, say, that he thought women should have a chance to prove themselves in the workplace. By 1965 standards, that was a cutting-edge view. But that exact same man might still mistake the one female executive in his building for a secretary and order her to make coffee on a single occasion,
because everything was terrible. No one existed outside the terrible-ness. There was no "unmoved mover" who could derive from principles the 'one true stance on gender issues' and adhere to that in all things.
Singling out the man I'm talking about as terrible over him treating a female executive like a secretary
that one time is just counterproductive, because it robs you of the ability to tell the difference between the people who helped society make progress, and those who delayed that progress.
Alyrium Denryle wrote: ↑2017-11-11 07:47pmRevising:
Everything boils down to Bayesian priors, it is usually a safer bet to believe the accuser (92-98% of rape and sexual assault accusations are true, if not in the exact details, then in the fact that it happened. Hell, sometimes they even get the perp wrong for various psychological reasons). In some cases, that doesn't hold true.
Celebrities tend to draw in...interesting people (the guy who shot Reagan thought Jodi Foster told him to do it). That is a factor. The Werther Effect is another factor (when an event happens that is under human control like a publicized suicide or mass shooting, it will tend to repeat as people are inspired to do the same thing. True accusations can be followed by false ones, or more true ones). Plus, this just...doesn't seem like something George would do.
Does that cancel out the 92-98% odds that a general-case accusation is true? I don't know. Those other effects are not quantified as well.
Ways to resolve it would be things like additional independent accusations that move the probability slider toward Yes, or disinterested witnesses who remember an interaction between the two men that would demonstrate that Takei is being dishonest or has an unreliable memory.
Well, personally I think the prior on believing the accuser is a bit lower than some, but higher than others (say, your 92% figure? Maybe 90%? Factor in the Werther Effect and the delusional people around celebrities and I tend to dial it down to, say, 60-70%
for a single isolated accusation. Sometimes lower or higher, depending on the celebrity or other factors.
Time elapsed is one of them. It's a lot easier to misremember something that happened literally half a lifetime ago, even if it's a big event seared into your memory as something you'll "never forget."
Power levels is another. I ask myself, how much trouble would this person actually get in for going public? The first woman to recently accuse Weinstein must have had ovaries of steel, because Weinstein is tremendously powerful. Nobody would take the risk of crossing him without a reason, at least not until there was a LOT of safety in numbers. As in, after 50 women had truly accused Weinstein, a false accuser might take the risk of being #51... but she sure as hell wouldn't have taken the chance of being #2. George Takei doesn't have that kind of muscle and never has, so far as I know...
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Does this translate into my not reacting to true accusations sometimes? Yes, but it
also means I won't automatically buy into every character assassination attempt that comes down the pike. As I said last time, none of this EVER, ever means that people who have been (or say they were) sexually harassed should EVER be treated with anything other than decency, dignity, and support... But at the same time, the accused is still a human being and they still have some reasonable claim to be treated as such, at least until
clear evidence that they are a mass of foul lascivious slime in a skinsuit comes to light.
I'd be lying if I said that the fact that I've admired George Takei for a long time is not coloring my judgement. It is. If this accusation is true, I will have lost a hero and a big part of me doesn't want to confront that. If it is true, I'll accept it and likely become more bitter and cynical about the world, if that were even possible.
But right now, I am leaning toward what I like to call Provisional Non-Disbelief. Have fun parsing that. I'm certainly not.
If it
IS the sort of thing the George Takei of 1981 would have done, it's pretty clearly not the sort of thing the George Takei of 2011 or 2016 would do, and not just because he's slowed down in his old age. Compare and contrast to, say, Donald Trump; I suspect if he gropes less today, it's because he has lower testosterone than in 1981,
and for no other reason.
At some point, we have to allow for the idea that people are not permanently sullied and discredited forever by an action. That a bad person can become adequate, that an adequate person can become good. Otherwise, we're all left hating each other for that one nasty thing we did to somebody in high school and it
never stops.
AniThyng wrote: ↑2017-11-11 09:33pm
At least the late Carl Sagan was not a sexual predator...
He wasn't, right?
We'll never know. He died long enough ago that any women (or for that matter men) he groped in, say, 1960 may themselves be dead of old age.
I think we may have to figure out a way to come to terms with this kind of shit cropping up.