Boy-related: Gah! SO CONFUSED!!!!!!

Post by **Ghost Rider** » 2003-04-22 11:57pm

*Fingers crossed*

Spanky The Dolphin · Post by **Spanky The Dolphin** » 2003-04-22 11:58pm

Just keep trying, dear. Don't give up.

*hugs*

Enforcer Talen · Post by **Enforcer Talen** » 2003-04-23 12:17am

Zaia wrote:Ok, this isn't much of an update, but at least y'all will know I tried--I called him this evening, but only got his messages, so I left one. I looked for him online, but by the time I got around to getting online, he was almost definitely in bed (wasn't online, anyway), so....we'll see if he writes or calls me tomorrow.

*grin* I just can't get over how sweet you guys are! Seriously...if I didn't need the ego-stroking so badly to build up my courage, I'd tell you to stop.

oh, Id expect we;d keep complimenting you, just for the pleasure of your company

Post by **Gandalf** » 2003-04-23 02:06am

OOC, does he visit this board?

Because if he does, he could learn of what you feel, then it could be open for him to make a move. All you'd have to do is get a mutual friend to recommend it. It is a bit dishonest, but possibly workable.

EDIT: You could also just ask a mutual friend to check his feelings.

Boba Fett · Post by **Boba Fett** » 2003-04-23 03:53am

Zaia wrote:*grin* I just can't get over how sweet you guys are! Seriously...if I didn't need the ego-stroking so badly to build up my courage, I'd tell you to stop.

You don't have to say anything, that's a friend's duty!!!

Post by **Edi** » 2003-04-23 04:15am

Boba Fett wrote:
Zaia wrote:*grin* I just can't get over how sweet you guys are! Seriously...if I didn't need the ego-stroking so badly to build up my courage, I'd tell you to stop.
You don't have to say anything, that's a friend's duty!!!

As I've been telling her, repeatedly!

@Zaia
*hugs*
Seeing as how wonderful a person you are, one would wonder why you do need such backup, but you'll never lack for it here.

@board in general
Given the response here and Zaia's popularity in the since hijacked and locked Favorite Posters thread, I think it's safe to assume that anybody who comes here and starts picking on our favorite girl (well, mine anyway) will find out the hard way that when the lot of us are done there won't be more than a smoking crater left of them...

Edi

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-04-23 11:18am

Gandalf wrote:OOC, does he visit this board?

As far as I know he does not, but he is a huge SW fan and once he finds out that I post here...well, if he wasn't in love with me before, he should be once he learns about me & this place.

Because if he does, he could learn of what you feel, then it could be open for him to make a move. All you'd have to do is get a mutual friend to recommend it. It is a bit dishonest, but possibly workable.

Yes, I thought about that, actually--thought about how it would be if he learned of my feelings for him this way. I think it'd be rather surreal for him to read all the stuff I've written, but it would certainly get my point across, now wouldn't it. *laughs* I don't think I could direct him here, because it would be a bit like handing him my diary to a page all about him, but....I don't know.

EDIT: You could also just ask a mutual friend to check his feelings.

I thought about that too, but I don't want to go that route. I want to get the courage to do it myself, it's just really difficult.

GR & Spanky: *chuckles* Yeah, I'm crossing my fingers with you. Thank you guys for caring.

Enforcer Talon: Awwww, you are so cute! *kisses cheek*

Boba Fett: *tight hug and kiss on the cheek* Thank you, darlin'! You're too good to me, I swear it.

Edi: LOL, a smoking crater?! *hugs and kisses nose* You are adorably cute when you're protective.

I got an email from him this morning, apologizing for being so busy that he hasn't had time to talk or hang out with me. It started out with "I'm REALLY sorry" and went on from there. He wanted me to know that he hasn't been blowing me off and that he's going to call or IM me either tonight or tomorrow, so...yeah.

Post by **Ghost Rider** » 2003-04-23 11:23am

That's sweet...hope that works out good for you

As for directing him here...yeah it poses the problem that you do use it less for screaming at trolls and more for a diary of your thoughts, so that may not honestly be the most prudent action(besides you gotta have a few secrets from him

)

So hope things work out better.

Enforcer Talen · Post by **Enforcer Talen** » 2003-04-23 01:52pm

Zaia wrote:
Gandalf wrote:OOC, does he visit this board?
As far as I know he does not, but he is a huge SW fan and once he finds out that I post here...well, if he wasn't in love with me before, he should be once he learns about me & this place.

Because if he does, he could learn of what you feel, then it could be open for him to make a move. All you'd have to do is get a mutual friend to recommend it. It is a bit dishonest, but possibly workable.
Yes, I thought about that, actually--thought about how it would be if he learned of my feelings for him this way. I think it'd be rather surreal for him to read all the stuff I've written, but it would certainly get my point across, now wouldn't it. *laughs* I don't think I could direct him here, because it would be a bit like handing him my diary to a page all about him, but....I don't know.

EDIT: You could also just ask a mutual friend to check his feelings.
I thought about that too, but I don't want to go that route. I want to get the courage to do it myself, it's just really difficult.

GR & Spanky: *chuckles* Yeah, I'm crossing my fingers with you. Thank you guys for caring.

Enforcer Talon: Awwww, you are so cute! *kisses cheek*

Boba Fett: *tight hug and kiss on the cheek* Thank you, darlin'! You're too good to me, I swear it.

Edi: LOL, a smoking crater?! *hugs and kisses nose* You are adorably cute when you're protective.

I got an email from him this morning, apologizing for being so busy that he hasn't had time to talk or hang out with me. It started out with "I'm REALLY sorry" and went on from there. He wanted me to know that he hasn't been blowing me off and that he's going to call or IM me either tonight or tomorrow, so...yeah.

years of practice =^_^= keep chatting with me and I will be quite happy to flatter you into incoherancy

tho, my name has an e =p

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-04-23 02:00pm

Enforcer Talen wrote:years of practice =^_^= keep chatting with me and I will be quite happy to flatter you into incoherancy

*chuckles* Will do.

tho, my name has an e =p

Oh, I'm so sorry! I hate it when people misspell my name. *kisses cheek* Won't do it again, I promise.

Enforcer Talen · Post by **Enforcer Talen** » 2003-04-23 02:38pm

very good

Kelly Antilles · Post by **Kelly Antilles** » 2003-04-23 02:40pm

Z, I'm really glad things are starting to look up. Sounds like it might go REALLY well soon. *huggles*

Darth Yoshi · Post by **Darth Yoshi** » 2003-04-23 07:31pm

Zaia wrote:I got an email from him this morning, apologizing for being so busy that he hasn't had time to talk or hang out with me. It started out with "I'm REALLY sorry" and went on from there. He wanted me to know that he hasn't been blowing me off and that he's going to call or IM me either tonight or tomorrow, so...yeah.

Hey, that's excellent news. Hope it goes well for you.

Post by **Edi** » 2003-04-24 02:35am

Zaia wrote:Edi: LOL, a smoking crater?! *hugs and kisses nose* You are adorably cute when you're protective.

*hugs back*
Well, if somebody did start trouble I would be.

Starting trouble with my friends inevitably gets a stronger response from me than starting trouble with me personally. Besides, I was just stating out what seems to be rather self-evident.

We have had some idiots who got the crater treatment, Arminius and Azeron. Arminius was a racist asshole and Azeron a misogynist, asshole prick. Both got banned, and Arminius got mercilessly flamed by everyone whenever he showed up. HoS has more of his topics than anybody else's...

Zaia wrote:I got an email from him this morning, apologizing for being so busy that he hasn't had time to talk or hang out with me. It started out with "I'm REALLY sorry" and went on from there. He wanted me to know that he hasn't been blowing me off and that he's going to call or IM me either tonight or tomorrow, so...yeah.

Good luck, darling!

Edi

Mitth`raw`nuruodo · Post by **Mitth`raw`nuruodo** » 2003-04-24 09:47pm

Stravo wrote:OK, some men need a simple bit of encouragement to take that step from being freinds to something else. I've fucked upa few freindships by taking that step and getting rejected then told that they can no longer see me as a friend because they know how I really feel and leave. He obviously enjoys your company and likes you so he's probably afraid that you haven't given him the signal to come on in. (Some men need something overt akin to you standing in front of him with a orange hard hat and a lightwand in each hand waving him in.)

*snip*

If you tell him he will come.

I just had something like that happen to me. A girl and me were friends, became more than that, but just broke up because she thought "we had a better relationship as friends". I know this isn't my "help-me-please" thread, but damnit I want to know what I did wrong....

EDIT: THank you all posters, the different views on this kind of stuff have convinced me to figure out "what I did wrong", and maybe fix it. Oh, and thank you Zaia for bringing this up in the first place, hope it all works out.

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-04-24 10:52pm

Mitth'raw'nuruodo wrote:I just had something like that happen to me. A girl and me were friends, became more than that, but just broke up because she thought "we had a better relationship as friends". I know this isn't my "help-me-please" thread, but damnit I want to know what I did wrong....

Well, I'm not really looking for a hijack, but if you really want to get into it, start up your own thread, go into detail, and maybe someone will be able to give you some plausible possibilities as to why that happened. *shrugs and smiles*

Post by **Gandalf** » 2003-04-24 10:54pm

Zaia wrote:
Mitth'raw'nuruodo wrote:I just had something like that happen to me. A girl and me were friends, became more than that, but just broke up because she thought "we had a better relationship as friends". I know this isn't my "help-me-please" thread, but damnit I want to know what I did wrong....
Well, I'm not really looking for a hijack, but if you really want to get into it, start up your own thread, go into detail, and maybe someone will be able to give you some plausible possibilities as to why that happened. *shrugs and smiles*

Welcome back for another day, any developments?

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-04-24 11:03pm

Gandalf wrote:Welcome back for another day, any developments?

*kisses Gandalf's cheek* Well, I did get online last night a little after 11:30pm, figuring he had gone to bed, but he was still up, still online, and apparently waiting for me, since he IMed me the second I was signed in. We talked for about half an hour, I guess, maybe 45 minutes?--until he had to go back to work writing his piece (he's been commissioned to write a symphonic band piece), and I had to go to bed. He was very sweet during the conversation: wanted to know what was going on with me at work (there have been some specific annoyances that he remembered & asked about), we talked a little bit about some other things, joked around a little, and then he told me that he had to get back to work, but that he had wanted to talk to me.

Today I sent him an email thanking him for listening to me complain about work, and I asked him whether or not he had plans for Saturday night. My best friend is going to be in town this weekend (she lives in Utah, so she's hardly ever in town), and I'm getting some of my friends together Saturday night, so I asked him if he was free if he'd like to hang out with us. None of my friends have met him yet (other than the mutual friends we have, of course), so this would be a pretty big deal if he went. Of course, he's still crazy-busy, so I'm trying not to get my hopes up, because I really do understand how horrifically busy he is.

So....yeah. I feel good about it, for whatever reason, so....I guess we'll see.

Enforcer Talen · Post by **Enforcer Talen** » 2003-04-25 12:20am

he stayed up for you?

-notes he always did that when he liked a femme-

Post by **Edi** » 2003-04-25 01:30am

Okay, Darling, you've got him in the bag, so long as you do ask him how he feels and tell him how you do.

Edi

Enforcer Talen · Post by **Enforcer Talen** » 2003-04-25 02:50am

oh, and rule of thumb for me is figure out where they want the relationship to go.

summer fling is somewhat different then looking for heart of heaven.

Post by **Gandalf** » 2003-04-25 05:34am

The way I see it, if you advance now he's yours.

Go! go! go!

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-04-25 10:15am

Enforcer Talen wrote:he stayed up for you?

-notes he always did that when he liked a femme-

Well, he was staying up anyway, to continue working on his piece, but he was almost definitely waiting for me to get online, since I signed in and 2 seconds later, he said hi. So I can't say that he stayed up for me, exactly...

Captain Cyran · Post by **Captain Cyran** » 2003-04-25 02:04pm

Zaia wrote:
Enforcer Talen wrote:he stayed up for you?

-notes he always did that when he liked a femme-

Well, he was staying up anyway, to continue working on his piece, but he was almost definitely waiting for me to get online, since I signed in and 2 seconds later, he said hi. So I can't say that he stayed up for me, exactly...

You're being modest....

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-04-25 03:21pm

Captain_Cyran wrote:
Zaia wrote:Well, he was staying up anyway, to continue working on his piece, but he was almost definitely waiting for me to get online, since I signed in and 2 seconds later, he said hi. So I can't say that he stayed up for me, exactly...
You're being modest....

No, seriously, he's been staying up late to work on this piece of music, but he usually does that over the weekend, which is why I was surprised that he was up at 11:30 in the middle of the week (he's a high school teacher, so he has to be at work by 7, and he's got a 1/2 hour commute...). I can't take credit for him staying up for me, but I can admit that he was definitely looking for me, and had said that he had been waiting to talk to me, so that part's pretty positive, I'd say...

Unless of course he's just a sweet guy who's a great friend. Ahh...*takes deep breath* I do so hope it's more than that......