Ignorant twit wrote:What surprised me when I dated an Asian girl was that her parents were the racist. I'm sitting at their table talking to her dad waiting for her to get dressed to go out. We ended up on the topic of the Japanese concentration camps in WWII ... I think I had a history class on it. So when she comes down and is doing something with her hair involving a blow dryer and is coloring her nails. Her parents go into the other room and talk amongst themselves. I catch my name and some Japanese (they are first generation immigrants).
So after we are in the car I ask her what it means as I parot it as best I can. It translates to "He's nice for a foreignor, but I hope she finds a proper Japanese husband" - she was going to Japan for a year of study soon thereafter. It ended up breaking off before she left, but it was all I could do treat her parents respectfully and not make snide comments about them. She ended up marrying a Israeli she met in Japan, and thus another pair of racist bigots were thwarted
Very true. Bigots come in all shapes and colors. I meet them here constantly.
XPViking
If trees could scream, would we be so cavalier about cutting them down? We might if they screamed all the time for no good reason.
all ive gotta say is that the die is cast. IR is on the upswing. Hell, just a generation ago, right here on Ft. Lauderdale beach, such things were simply unheard of... now one cant drive the strip without seeing an IR couple every 10 feet (many of them of HS or college age).
aint it great how things change? now... if only I could get in on the action...
Ignorant twit wrote:What surprised me when I dated an Asian girl was that her parents were the racist. <snip> Her parents go into the other room and talk amongst themselves. I catch my name and some Japanese (they are first generation immigrants).
So after we are in the car I ask her what it means as I parot it as best I can. It translates to "He's nice for a foreignor, but I hope she finds a proper Japanese husband"
My parents weren't that bad, but they're still a bit racist and weren't exactly happy that I was dating a white chick. They never said anything to her but they'd sometimes ask me why I was dating a white chick and imply that it wasn't for the best. However once they found out she was a student at Princeton, everything was suddenly OK and my parents stopped hassling me about it.
Her parents on the other hand have been great to me, they're real nice and accepting and see me as a nice guy who loves their daughter with all his heart without race even entering into things. And that's the way it should be.
aerius: I'll vote for you if you sleep with me. Lusankya: Deal!
Say, do you want it to be a threesome with your wife? Or a foursome with your wife and sister-in-law? I'm up for either.
My fiance's (her name is Ai) parents are great. Her dad is a high up in a real estate corporation and is one heck of a nice guy. Whenever I go to Japan, he loves to stay up late with me and drink "Kirin Ichiban" or "Sapporo" beer, and eat those green soy beans. Ai's mom and sister are very nice too!
I will never forget the first time I met him. He stepped off of the plane, walked over to us, looked up at me and said, "wow, you're big!" Ai weighs probably 100 pounds while I weigh 245. We are a great couple!
Darth Wong wrote:Yes. Appeasement is always the best way to handle racist assholes
Appeasement? Its called not making yourself a target.
I'm not saying that people of different races shouldn't marry, I'm just saying that, all other things being equal, it would be preferable to not give yourself the trouble.
Darth Wong wrote:Yes. Appeasement is always the best way to handle racist assholes
Appeasement? Its called not making yourself a target.
I'm not saying that people of different races shouldn't marry, I'm just saying that, all other things being equal, it would be preferable to not give yourself the trouble.
Fuck that, I'm picking whomever I damn want to. Fuck letting popular vote run my life for me.
Grand Admiral Thrawn wrote:Poe, Salm, I'm afraid I need more evidence to convince me...
Hehehehe!
"Brian, if I parked a supertanker in Central Park, painted it neon orange, and set it on fire, it would be less obvious than your stupidity." --RedImperator
Even from supposedly liberal types, I get this crap "I don't think it would be a good idea since your child would have no identity (wtf?) and society would have a problem with it"
Well, goddammit, they keep the vicious cycle going by harboring those opinions in the first place.
Anyone else get into debates over this?
Well, in a way it makes sense, the children of black and white parents wouldn't know which side to hate
Here in the Bay Area interracial relationships (especially white male/asian female ) are fairly common. My "neice" is the product of a mixed race marriage. As for "culture" that really only matters for recent immigrants. I routinely meet 3rd generation full blood Chinese who cant say shit in Chinese are as Americans through and through.
I somethings wonder if people are opposed the the "color" vs "culture" of a person. Ive seen some pretty black girls, but I have very little interest in becoming involved in black culture. It is one things to say, Im not to interested in that culture, but I wont date her simply cause of the color of her skin seems harsh.
I think for some people, including me in the past, group identity is very important cause if fills some need. But as Ive gotten older that need has been replaced for a desire just to find the right person.
Howedar wrote:Appeasement? Its called not making yourself a target.
I'm not saying that people of different races shouldn't marry, I'm just saying that, all other things being equal, it would be preferable to not give yourself the trouble.
Oh, yes, try explaining that to a girl who is sweet on you. "I'm sorry, I really like you and all, but your Japanese, and I care more about the opinions of idiotic bigots than us having a relationship." I'd wager she'd stop being sweet on you in, oh, three seconds.
I can't decide if your idea on the issue is cowardice or racism.
Tell me about. My folks are always on my case about getting good grades and being accepted into a good college, even though nobody cares where you start out as long as you graduate from a good college. And I'm supposed to take AP classes, which I almost got away with not doing (I need to take AP Calculus next year to have a legal schedule).
ditto for me, really cramps my mindset
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Exonerate wrote:One thing I really hate is how I'm expected to act a certain way because I'm Chinese. Oh, I'm supposed to get good grades[...]
What's wrong with getting good grades? The other stereotypes you listed may send a "weak" image, but academic excellence paves the way to future success. Getting good grades and being a tough guy is not mutually exclusive.
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The problem with "race traitors," of course, is that they're unlikely to listen to the filth spewed out by the ike of Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton - So of course people like that work to keep "black culture," and, ultimately, black people as an ethnic group, seperate in America. Their goal is not Martin Luther King's dream, but rather an America of Seperate But "Equal" - Purely their idea of equal - Special Interest Groups, all striving to grab the most from the government. And that's permeated the faux-culture they dictate.
The same holds true for radical hispanic groups and others. The cultural reasons with Asians (and in some cases with Native Americans) are more complex in the least. Suffice to say that sinic culture is very old and advanced, and, well, sometimes there are still traces of the old "barbarian" attitude left over in looking at outsiders. That's certainly the strongest with modern day Japan.
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I'm ethnic: Irish/Scottish, Italian, German, Croatian. That's almost every corner of Europe. All, if you consider the British Isles to be "northwest."
Lucy Liu is waaay too boney (no, NOT a pun!) for me. I go for cute chubby girls with nice boobs. It is of my opinion that 'ethnic' girls don't look good when they aren't skinny.
Personally I couldn't see myself with a non-white. I just dig creamy, soft very white/pale skin that much.
...This would sharpen you up and make you ready for a bit of the old...ultraviolence.
Living in Southern California, interracial dating/marriage is very commonplace, and first generation children between whites and asian look VERY pretty (at least first generation.. second generation.. well..).
However, there is pressure on the children to date and marry within their race. It's a strange dualism that is put on asian-americans where they're expected to meld in perfectly with American culture yet be acutely aware of their cultural heritage. In some ways, it's kind of snobbiness and superiority they're projecting, some asians could probably give the KKK a run for their money.
Eh, regardless though my parents don't have to worry about me.. I personally think Asians look the best anyways (and cook better too dammit).
Ignorant twit wrote:What surprised me when I dated an Asian girl was that her parents were the racist. I'm sitting at their table talking to her dad waiting for her to get dressed to go out. We ended up on the topic of the Japanese concentration camps in WWII ... I think I had a history class on it. So when she comes down and is doing something with her hair involving a blow dryer and is coloring her nails. Her parents go into the other room and talk amongst themselves. I catch my name and some Japanese (they are first generation immigrants).
My mother did not seem very happy that her sister was marrying a white guy. She was also not happy that I went to my junior prom with someone who was black
Trytostaydead wrote:However, there is pressure on the children to date and marry within their race. It's a strange dualism that is put on asian-americans where they're expected to meld in perfectly with American culture yet be acutely aware of their cultural heritage. In some ways, it's kind of snobbiness and superiority they're projecting, some asians could probably give the KKK a run for their money.
Needless to say, pretty much every minority feels this, one way or another.
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I know why I will be against inter-racial relationships.
For me,I get my turn on with Asian women.Sure,some Cacusian women turn me on too,but I prefer my race.So,if inter-racial relationships was possible,it simply means more competition in a small pool,and one I won't come out on top due to my many many failingsl.
All I can say is,give a loser a chance.
Let him land on any Lyran world to taste firsthand the wrath of peace loving people thwarted by the myopic greed of a few miserly old farts- Katrina Steiner
Trytostaydead wrote:Living in Southern California, interracial dating/marriage is very commonplace, and first generation children between whites and asian look VERY pretty (at least first generation.. second generation.. well..).
However, there is pressure on the children to date and marry within their race. It's a strange dualism that is put on asian-americans where they're expected to meld in perfectly with American culture yet be acutely aware of their cultural heritage. In some ways, it's kind of snobbiness and superiority they're projecting, some asians could probably give the KKK a run for their money.
Eh, regardless though my parents don't have to worry about me.. I personally think Asians look the best anyways (and cook better too dammit).
yes, that´s what i saw on my last trip to the states. i stayed in california and i thought i saw a lot of interracial relationships. my aunt who is a teacher confirmed that and my cousin is married to a woman from the philipines. so maybe the younger generations don´t really give a fuck about their parents narrow minded ideas anymore. nice.
Painrack wrote:I know why I will be against inter-racial relationships.
For me,I get my turn on with Asian women.Sure,some Cacusian women turn me on too,but I prefer my race.So,if inter-racial relationships was possible,it simply means more competition in a small pool,and one I won't come out on top due to my many many failingsl.
All I can say is,give a loser a chance.
Your personal preference is your own, but if you start railing against those who are in an inter-racial relationship, expect to be slammed.
XPViking
If trees could scream, would we be so cavalier about cutting them down? We might if they screamed all the time for no good reason.
Ignorant twit wrote:What surprised me when I dated an Asian girl was that her parents were the racist. I'm sitting at their table talking to her dad waiting for her to get dressed to go out. We ended up on the topic of the Japanese concentration camps in WWII ... I think I had a history class on it. So when she comes down and is doing something with her hair involving a blow dryer and is coloring her nails. Her parents go into the other room and talk amongst themselves. I catch my name and some Japanese (they are first generation immigrants).
My mother did not seem very happy that her sister was marrying a white guy. She was also not happy that I went to my junior prom with someone who was black
Dating a black is the ultimate no-no for many Vietnamese or Chinese parents. Although Chinese and Vietnamese couples are pretty common here to.
XPViking wrote:
Your personal preference is your own, but if you start railing against those who are in an inter-racial relationship, expect to be slammed.
XPViking
Boss.Take a good look at where I'm from.I have so many friends,collegues and whatnot in inter-racial relationships that I can't be bothered about such things.
Yes,I admit,deep down,in my visceral guts,I be surprised if one of my friend had a girlfriend from another race{as did happen}.However,that's it. I don't go around thinking "she isn't compatible" because of her race,I go around thinking that because of their totally different personality.
Hell,I was sad when my bud failed to get a lasting relationship.And my friend a different race from me.
Let him land on any Lyran world to taste firsthand the wrath of peace loving people thwarted by the myopic greed of a few miserly old farts- Katrina Steiner
