How would you react? A couple of scenarios

[Alex Moon]

How do you react in each of the following scenarios. What would you say/do? Give a full reason why if possible.

1) You are online checking out a porn sight of amature videos when you come across one of your parents engaged in a homosexual act with a stranger. Your parents are still married. The video is aparently from a few years back. Would you say/do anything?

2) One night, while out at a bar, you run across a beautiful man/woman. You hit it off with them, and soon the two of you end up back at your place for the night. The person you are with mentions that they do this all the time. A few days later a new coworker shows you a picture of their SO, the person you met at the bar. Do you say anything?

3) Your child is diagnosed with a rare disease and docters want to look for a donor in the family. After testing you he asks for information concerning the child's biological father. Confused, you state that you are the kid's biological father. The doctor replies that according to tests, no you are not.

[haas mark]

How do you react in each of the following scenarios. What would you say/do? Give a full reason why if possible.

1) You are online checking out a porn sight of amature videos when you come across one of your parents engaged in a homosexual act with a stranger. Your parents are still married. The video is aparently from a few years back. Would you say/do anything?

I'd freak out, but no I wouldn't.

2) One night, while out at a bar, you run across a beautiful man/woman. You hit it off with them, and soon the two of you end up back at your place for the night. The person you are with mentions that they do this all the time. A few days later a new coworker shows you a picture of their SO, the person you met at the bar. Do you say anything?

That ENTIRELY depends on the situation:

-Is the guy some girl's BF? If so, he's obviously bi; they probably have an open relationship, and so would ask about him. Things either go one way or another, and that's that.
-Is the guy some guy's BF? Bad. Very bad.
-Do the guy and his person have an open relationship? Makes things complicated.

3) Your child is diagnosed with a rare disease and docters want to look for a donor in the family. After testing you he asks for information concerning the child's biological father. Confused, you state that you are the kid's biological father. The doctor replies that according to tests, no you are not.

Depressed, pissed off, shocked, etc. etc.

~ver

[Frank Hipper]

How do you react in each of the following scenarios. What would you say/do? Give a full reason why if possible.

1) You are online checking out a porn sight of amature videos when you come across one of your parents engaged in a homosexual act with a stranger. Your parents are still married. The video is aparently from a few years back. Would you say/do anything?

After freaking right the fuck out seeing one my elderly parents gettin' it on, I'd say nothing and respect their privacy.

2) One night, while out at a bar, you run across a beautiful man/woman. You hit it off with them, and soon the two of you end up back at your place for the night. The person you are with mentions that they do this all the time. A few days later a new coworker shows you a picture of their SO, the person you met at the bar. Do you say anything?

Not to them, but I'd try and hunt down the unscrupulous SO and have words with THEM.

3) Your child is diagnosed with a rare disease and docters want to look for a donor in the family. After testing you he asks for information concerning the child's biological father. Confused, you state that you are the kid's biological father. The doctor replies that according to tests, no you are not.

I think that my own concept of morality would make me shield the child I've raised as my own from the truth. But god help the mother. This one makes me so glad I'm gay.....

[haas mark]

This one makes me so glad I'm gay.....

Ditto.. [shudders]

~ver

[Zoink]

#1) I would commit ritual suicide, or bang my head on a table until I get amnesia, or join some brainwashing cult.

#2) I would tell the person, unless said person appeared to be a completely unreasonable, ex-Navy Seal with violent mood swings.

#3) Have a serious discussion with the mother. If said person was currently married to me, it would take a serious effort on her part to remain married.

[TheFeniX]

1. I would either vomit, shoot myself in the head with a large caliber handgun, or both.

2. Of course I say something. I just have to decide what percentage of "Yea, I nailed your girlfriend." with "She's a slut, dump her." I mix in.

3. Do what I can to find out who the biological father is to save my son's life (Hell, I raised him this far). After the ordeal is over, beat biological father within inches of his life and divorce my wife.

[Ghost Rider]

1. Not care...pfft if mom and da are freaky, would bettter explain their being uptight about many things.

2. Tell my friend of my wild night with his girlfriend...better to hear it from me then find out sometime down the line he has a child that doesn't resemble him at all.

3. Ask mommy about this, get father and after all said and done go back to life as is...more pissed with wife then usual.

[Zoink]

3. ...more pissed with wife then usual.

Heh. How about:

#3) "Not again!"

[Alyeska]

Here is some food for thought on #3.

What if artificial insemination was used and the doctor used the male donor? What if your wife had been raped near the time conception was thought to begin?

Do not automaticaly leap to the conclussion that she is cheating. While it is the likely cause, its not the only one.

[Embracer Of Darkness]

1) You are online checking out a porn sight of amature videos when you come across one of your parents engaged in a homosexual act with a stranger. Your parents are still married. The video is aparently from a few years back. Would you say/do anything?

I would get that off my screen immediately. I wouldn't say anything to them, it's their life.

2) One night, while out at a bar, you run across a beautiful man/woman. You hit it off with them, and soon the two of you end up back at your place for the night. The person you are with mentions that they do this all the time. A few days later a new coworker shows you a picture of their SO, the person you met at the bar. Do you say anything?

If the co-worker was a friend of mine, I'd tell him what happened and that I didn't know she was they were involved. After expressing my apologies (and probably being beaten) I would reccomend he dump the whore.

3) Your child is diagnosed with a rare disease and docters want to look for a donor in the family. After testing you he asks for information concerning the child's biological father. Confused, you state that you are the kid's biological father. The doctor replies that according to tests, no you are not.

Demand that the mother tell me who the father is and look him up for the sake of the child. I'd probably be pissed at the mother and I would go one-on-one with the father.

[Mr Bean]

1) You are online checking out a porn sight of amature videos when you come across one of your parents engaged in a homosexual act with a stranger. Your parents are still married. The video is aparently from a few years back. Would you say/do anything?

1. Arrrgh! my eyes the burning!!! Were's a rusty spoon to gouge out my eyes when I need it!

2) One night, while out at a bar, you run across a beautiful man/woman. You hit it off with them, and soon the two of you end up back at your place for the night. The person you are with mentions that they do this all the time. A few days later a new coworker shows you a picture of their SO, the person you met at the bar. Do you say anything?

2. So how long you too been togther now? Think you spend enough time with her?

3) Your child is diagnosed with a rare disease and docters want to look for a donor in the family. After testing you he asks for information concerning the child's biological father. Confused, you state that you are the kid's biological father. The doctor replies that according to tests, no you are not.

3.(Can't help myself) "Luuucy! you got some expl'ain to do!

[Sir Sirius]

1) I say nothing and do nothing, but I would save the tape (it might come in handy later).
2) I say nothing and do nothing.
3) Eh, knowing my temper I'll flip out totaly, I can't really predict my actions in that state.

[Zoink]

2) I say nothing and do nothing.

If you say nothing its going to look pretty bad when it comes out. If you say it right away, at the first opportunity, the betrayal is completely hers. If you help her cover it up, then you're a partner in crime. I wouldn't trust the cheating girlfriend/wife to keep a secret.

To take the situation further: If you look at the typical answer to number 3... when the guy finds out the kid is yours.... you're in for a beating!

[Solauren]

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1) You are online checking out a porn sight of amature videos when you come across one of your parents engaged in a homosexual act with a stranger. Your parents are still married. The video is aparently from a few years back. Would you say/do anything?
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After I got over my shock, I'd probably fall over laughing (my father is not homo-phobic, but he finds the idea a little uncomfortable) ask that parent about it privately, and then drop it.

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2) One night, while out at a bar, you run across a beautiful man/woman. You hit it off with them, and soon the two of you end up back at your place for the night. The person you are with mentions that they do this all the time. A few days later a new coworker shows you a picture of their SO, the person you met at the bar. Do you say anything?
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Depends. I would probably ask some questions and determine if they were dating at the time my encounter with them, and also the parameters of there relationship.
If they were not dating, I'd mention I know the S.O.
If they were dating, I'd have to get more information.
If they were dating and open relationship,I'd keep my mouth closed
If they were dating and closed relationship, and they guy could take it
I'd tell them
if he could not
I'd confrot the S.O about it, and warn them if they don't clean up there act, then I'll be forced to tell the co-worker.

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3) Your child is diagnosed with a rare disease and docters want to look for a donor in the family. After testing you he asks for information concerning the child's biological father. Confused, you state that you are the kid's biological father. The doctor replies that according to tests, no you are not.[/quote]

First, I'd get the tests verified.
If the tests show I was not the biological father again, and there were know circumstances I know of that could account for that reasonably
(i.e the ex was in a previous relationship shortly before we hooked up and she got pregnant, which would have raised my eyebrow to begin with, the child was concieved via artifical insemination, etc), I'd be confronting the mother about it in private.

If she confessed to cheating, well, quite frankly, the mother and child are no longer my concern, and she has 24 hours to get the hell out of my house, and to expect a call from my lawyer.

If there were other circumstances (i.e she was raped and didn't tell me) or something like that, it would depend on the circumstances.
Raped and not told me, I'd be hurt, but I'd probably recover.

Otherwise, it would really depend.

However, cheating: Don't let the door hit your ass on the way out.
Other circumstances not involving cheating: Welcome to the newest crisis in my life

[Joe]

1) You are online checking out a porn sight of amature videos when you come across one of your parents engaged in a homosexual act with a stranger. Your parents are still married. The video is aparently from a few years back. Would you say/do anything?

After gouging out my eyes, I tell the other parent. He/she has a right to know, in my opinion.

2) One night, while out at a bar, you run across a beautiful man/woman. You hit it off with them, and soon the two of you end up back at your place for the night. The person you are with mentions that they do this all the time. A few days later a new coworker shows you a picture of their SO, the person you met at the bar. Do you say anything?

Absolutely. It would be doing him a disservice not to let him know about what the person he may end up spending the rest of his life with is doing to him.

3) Your child is diagnosed with a rare disease and docters want to look for a donor in the family. After testing you he asks for information concerning the child's biological father. Confused, you state that you are the kid's biological father. The doctor replies that according to tests, no you are not.

There's not much I can do. I do whatever I can to find a suitable donor for the child, even if that means contacting my wife's lover.

[Colonel Olrik]

1) You are online checking out a porn sight of amature videos when you come across one of your parents engaged in a homosexual act with a stranger. Your parents are still married. The video is aparently from a few years back. Would you say/do anything?

- shit

2) One night, while out at a bar, you run across a beautiful man/woman. You hit it off with them, and soon the two of you end up back at your place for the night. The person you are with mentions that they do this all the time. A few days later a new coworker shows you a picture of their SO, the person you met at the bar. Do you say anything?

- Don't leave her, man. She sucks in bed.

3) Your child is diagnosed with a rare disease and docters want to look for a donor in the family. After testing you he asks for information concerning the child's biological father. Confused, you state that you are the kid's biological father. The doctor replies that according to tests, no you are not.

I'd probably spend some thousand Euros in a quality company girl that night, just out of spite. Then I'd go and get the bastard, and tear from him the needed organ/spine/whatever

[Slayen]

How do you react in each of the following scenarios. What would you say/do? Give a full reason why if possible.

1) You are online checking out a porn sight of amature videos when you come across one of your parents engaged in a homosexual act with a stranger. Your parents are still married. The video is aparently from a few years back. Would you say/do anything?

Imediately purge my computer of all evidance that such a video ever existed. Then probably have therapy to help repress any and all memories of the incident. The image of ether of my parents doing that is not a plesent one. ::shudders::

2) One night, while out at a bar, you run across a beautiful man/woman. You hit it off with them, and soon the two of you end up back at your place for the night. The person you are with mentions that they do this all the time. A few days later a new coworker shows you a picture of their SO, the person you met at the bar. Do you say anything?

Ask him just what kind of relation ship they have and hope he doesn't try and kill me once i break the news to him.

3) Your child is diagnosed with a rare disease and docters want to look for a donor in the family. After testing you he asks for information concerning the child's biological father. Confused, you state that you are the kid's biological father. The doctor replies that according to tests, no you are not.

Get a little miffed and ask my wife to explain her self. Definatly not tell my kid about it though.

[The Third Man]

1) What could you possibly say? And to whom? Therefore keep quiet

2) I'd instantly admit to meeting her the previous night. First rule of lying - "the nearer to the truth it is, the more likely the lie is to succeed". It's a starter to muddying the waters if the truth starts to come out further down the line. And I'd be instantly condemned if it came out that I'd been seen with her, and co-worker remembered that I'd never mentioned it (shit he might already know and be testing me!). Telling him the innocent bit ASAP makes me seem as though I've nothing to hide.

3) Tough one. There's a strong case for doing nothing. My wife has already lied to me in one important respect so it's maybe likely I'm never going to get the truth out of her, at least that I can be certain of. Why create all the inevitable suffering for a child that I presumably love as my own, having brought it up for x years with that belief. Not to mention that said child now has a serious disease as well.

[CrimsonRaine]

How do you react in each of the following scenarios. What would you say/do? Give a full reason why if possible.

1) You are online checking out a porn sight of amature videos when you come across one of your parents engaged in a homosexual act with a stranger. Your parents are still married. The video is aparently from a few years back. Would you say/do anything?

There would be definately some time in the bedroom while I cried my eyes out, and shot some shit with Red, but it's something that I have no control of. My parents relationship is really their own. And besides, perhaps this is something they had already worked out? You can't change something that's already happened. What I would try to find out is whether those kinds of acts are still happening.

2) One night, while out at a bar, you run across a beautiful man/woman. You hit it off with them, and soon the two of you end up back at your place for the night. The person you are with mentions that they do this all the time. A few days later a new coworker shows you a picture of their SO, the person you met at the bar. Do you say anything?

No. It's not my job to ruin a relationship. I would feel horrible, but it's for the co-worker to discover what is going on with his signifigant other.

3) Your child is diagnosed with a rare disease and docters want to look for a donor in the family. After testing you he asks for information concerning the child's biological father. Confused, you state that you are the kid's biological father. The doctor replies that according to tests, no you are not.

The goal is to save the child, so I would try my hardest to make sure the operation is conducted and an organ donor is found. However, as soon as that fiasco is over, I would immediately file for a divorce.

Crimson Raine

[Rye]

1) You are online checking out a porn sight of amature videos when you come across one of your parents engaged in a homosexual act with a stranger. Your parents are still married. The video is aparently from a few years back. Would you say/do anything?

I am repulsed, i am silent about it for the rest of my days.

2) One night, while out at a bar, you run across a beautiful man/woman. You hit it off with them, and soon the two of you end up back at your place for the night. The person you are with mentions that they do this all the time. A few days later a new coworker shows you a picture of their SO, the person you met at the bar. Do you say anything?

I'd ask if she had a twin sister. Then if they reply "why?" i tell them.

3) Your child is diagnosed with a rare disease and docters want to look for a donor in the family. After testing you he asks for information concerning the child's biological father. Confused, you state that you are the kid's biological father. The doctor replies that according to tests, no you are not.

I am shocked, but deal with it. Tell the mother, ask about it, move on, bring the kid up well.

[Straha]

1. Depends, what I'd probably do is save the tape, make copies, and then leave one copy out, with a Label on it saying "I have others," where I know the parent who was in it will see it and watch it. Then wait for the flattery to roll in.

2. Not that this would ever happen to me but it probably depends on how well I know the person, if we are really close friends I'd tell him the truth, if we're good friends beyond reproach I'd do the same. And if we were just aquintences I wouldn't say a thing.

3. Save the kid by finding the father, and then get the full story from my dear beloved wife.

[Trogdor]

1) I would hit myself in the head multiple times with a blunt object, get really drunk, whatever I had to do to forget about it. I wouldn't mention it to anyone.

2) I'd probably just keep my mouth shut.

3) I wouldn't tell the kid, but I'd be plenty pissed at the mother. I'd probably make her cough up the organs since I couldn't.

[NapoleonGH]

1. I would certainly get plastered/otherwise fucked up. Then i would tell the other parent and show them. Then whatever parent it was I would hit...hard (since my parents have been together since they were 18 and are 52 now, i would know that whatever parent it was was cheating on my mom/dad, unless they looked like super super young, in which case its kiddy porn, which is gross)

2. I would say anything and would be happy i got away with it.

3. I would have a very long talk with my wife/SO and probably would divorice her. but i would still talk to the kid, since i would have raised it.

[HemlockGrey]

1) Repress and deny

2) Tell the guy at once and apologize profusely- in private. He has a right to know if his girlfriend/wife is cheating on him, but there's no reason the whole office has to know.

3) Extract the truth from my wife, hunt down the father, save the kid, divorce. In that order, unless it turns out the man raped her, in which case the police get involved. Or, if it was artificial insemination, and she was just too embarrassed to say anything, I might be a little more forgiving.

[Darth Wong]

How do you react in each of the following scenarios. What would you say/do? Give a full reason why if possible.

1) You are online checking out a porn sight of amature videos when you come across one of your parents engaged in a homosexual act with a stranger. Your parents are still married. The video is aparently from a few years back. Would you say/do anything?

I would call a therapist immediately. I would also confront the parent involved, and find out whether the other parent knows about it. If one parent is fucking around like that, it's possible that he or she is going to bring home a disease, and given the range of lethalities in venereal diseases, this is no small concern.

2) One night, while out at a bar, you run across a beautiful man/woman. You hit it off with them, and soon the two of you end up back at your place for the night. The person you are with mentions that they do this all the time. A few days later a new coworker shows you a picture of their SO, the person you met at the bar. Do you say anything?

Yes. I would meditate for a while about how to break the news, and what information to reveal, but I feel that I have an obligation to say something. For all I know, they have an open marriage and the guy will just laugh.

3) Your child is diagnosed with a rare disease and docters want to look for a donor in the family. After testing you he asks for information concerning the child's biological father. Confused, you state that you are the kid's biological father. The doctor replies that according to tests, no you are not.

I would immediately confront my wife and demand the truth. Then, I would try to find the biological father and plead for the necessary medical donation (blood or bone marrow or whatever). I don't think I would necessarily divorce her, assuming she had not cheated since, and it would be terribly disruptive for my kids. As for the child himself, after all these years of raising him as my son, he is my son. Biological connections don't mean that much in the grand scheme of things.