Yep... Yep... Divorce

FettKyle · Post by **FettKyle** » 2003-09-19 02:45pm

Yeah I've haven't been here for awhile and my life is going in a spiral.
Being 17 and all with the Bi-polar disorder this is going to sound Screwy.
My parents are getting Divorced and not this I agree let's throw the kids in the Fucking middle. My Dad or whatever is trying his damnist to paint my mom the evil bitch and he is the victim. He is constantly complaining about this divorce when he himself was the first one to complain and wished for a Divorce.

So here he is telling me that my mom is trying to ruin the family and she is going to imbezel loads of money. The fact is she is lazy and that is all. And then here he comes saying that my mom is ripping my brother away when she asked him (brother) if he wanted to go with her and he said yes. And I tell my dad that he is the real one trying to rip my brother away from our mom and he says no. But then later on I here him on his cellphone say something about my mom being on drugs and wants to have full costody over the both of us period.
That pisses me off however that is not the end.

One night while working on my homework my dad says "Oh my God, OH MY GOD, Kyle your mom just took $8,000 dollars out of the joint account and put it in your account" And I'm like what.

So I look at my account and there it is $8,000 of illegal money because my mom was supposed to split in half.

And get this my mom promised that she would not put me in the Middle and then she does this. So I cuss her out for most of the day. Now I'm a wreck and feel like hurting people physically.

Chardok · Post by **Chardok** » 2003-09-19 02:53pm

Water off a duck's back, bro.
Repeat after me: SERENITY NOW.
Bend like a reed in the wind. Let it ride. Take it easy. put it back in your Dad's account.
I mean, come on. It isn't like some fuckwad in an accord nearly blocked you in and then checked to make sure you didn't hit his car when you finally Squirmed out of it, causing you to get so angry you lose control and yell at him "RELAX ASSHOLE, I DIDN'T HIT YOUR COCKWAGON!" or anything.
serenity now. Serenity now.

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Sorry, put it back into the JOINT account. that ought to piss her off but good. Plus, you are absolved of any guilt (embezzlement charges) Actually, I don't even know what embezzlement is. I just know it's a crime....

Zoink · Post by **Zoink** » 2003-09-19 03:17pm

Sorry to here about your family problems.

Step one is to realise that hurting people won't solve your problems. This includes physically as well as emotionally and financially. If you do, you're basically doing what your parents are doing. They feel understandably upset that their life is turned upside down, and it sounds like they are lashing out at people, probably making arguments over the stupidest of things, feeling all self-righteous when they do things like steal $8000.

I’d try to stay calm as best you can, and try to think of things/decision you might need to do to help your own situation. I think you did the right thing by telling them to leave you out of their problems, and confronting your mother over it, just make sure you don't overdo it..

When my friend’s parents got divorced they went through a similar situation. They argued over everything. Even though he wanted to stay with his father, the mother wouldn’t let up, she even tricked him into going to her lawyer, who tried to coerce him into signing a statement saying the opposite. Once both parents calmed down a bit (primarily the mother) and realised they could in fact live separately things calmed down.

Hope everything works out.

EmperorMing · Post by **EmperorMing** » 2003-09-19 04:38pm

One more year and you can effectively get out.

My parents did the divorce thing *many* years ago and it was pretty much a cut and dried thing.

In your case, I definately feel for you as you *are* being used and put in the middle. Your parents need to move the battle somewhere's else.

Like was posted earlier, roll with it, bend with the wind and wait fo rthe smoke to blow over. It aint gonna be easy, but it's all you have. Good luck with it.

Alex Moon · Post by **Alex Moon** » 2003-09-19 04:50pm

You're 17? Are you still in High school. If possible, see if relatives could take you in for a few months. The reason is that your parents are stupid immature children who are dead set on getting back at the other one, and they will use you; they're too stupid to do otherwise. The only way they're going to stop is if you make it clear that you won't stand for it. Cutting off as much contact as possible with both of them if they don't work out their problems is your best weapon. At 17, you have a lot of power over this kind of stuff.

How old is your brother?

Solauren · Post by **Solauren** » 2003-09-19 04:56pm

Tell them if they don't keep you out of it when you turn 18 they'll never see you again.

Then prove it by taking off for a few days.

I've seen that work wonders on parents

Post by **Dalton** » 2003-09-19 07:51pm

Sorry to hear that. Divorces can be tough. My parents got divorced several years ago.

FettKyle · Post by **FettKyle** » 2003-09-20 03:28am

To answer to your messages and to finsh my story

1: I got fed up of being like a reed and taking it calm it just made things worse. 2: After cussing off my mom she imediatly put the money back. In fact I even threaten her to no longer call her my mother. In the end she apologized and told me she paniced but that apology didn't go far. I'm still mad at her. 3: My closest relative is 300 miles away. So that won't work out. 4: My brother is 10. 5: Thank you all.

However it is not just a divorce it's a little word called AFFAIR, Both sides of the party invovled. And the guy my mom is going with is a guy I know very well his name is Bob Baker. Well I can't tell the whole Story. But that justs stresses and weirds me out. And this is what I feel like.

Einhander Sn0m4n · Post by **Einhander Sn0m4n** » 2003-09-20 03:48am

OMFG you have my sympathies, Kyle. If I had a choice between a sticky divorce and dealing with senseless slaughter in my neighborhood, I'll take the divorce.

Not to make light of the situation tho. My dad divorced this fucking whore some years ago and he's still giving half his paycheck to the bitch. Well, the OTHER half. We all know how Uncle Sam likes to take an unfairly-huge cut out of everyone's pay as it is, so my dad makes a huge gob of money on paper. In reality, he's below the fucking Poverty Line because of the fucking bitch and the fucking government.

Pig is a Pig...

The Kernel · Post by **The Kernel** » 2003-09-20 04:41am

I feel for you man. My mom decided to leave my dad and I had to sit there watching my dad ball his eyes out and wondering why his wife had left him since she basically just ran out and got on a plane.

The trick is that you just have to accept that you parents are real people and not the idols that you figured they were in your youth. This is a lesson everyone has to learn--some sooner, some later. It may be the single hardest lesson a kid has to learn and it's awfuly tough not to take sides in a divorce.

Just try to take it one day at a time.