Tips on how to act on a first date

Uraniun235 · Post by **Uraniun235** » 2003-11-20 03:22am

Zaia wrote:*raises hand* Do I count?

Yes, but I suspect going after females via forums would be rather fruitless. I should have specified "Where does one find available female geeks?"

His Divine Shadow · Post by **His Divine Shadow** » 2003-11-20 04:05am

Metrion Cascade wrote:I believe I have a problem with the latter, I tend to come off as the terminator.

Better than coming off as the Shermanator.</American Pie reference>[/quote]

Sorry, I've only seen American Pie 1, and that was some time ago, this has no meaning to me.

Uraniun235 · Post by **Uraniun235** » 2003-11-20 05:23am

Heh, I haven't seen American Pie either, so when I see "Shermanator" I think Jay Sherman from The Critic.

InnerBrat · Post by **InnerBrat** » 2003-11-20 05:30am

Zaia wrote:
Uraniun235 wrote:Where the hell does one find female geeks?
*raises hand* Do I count?

What about me?

OK, where to meet female geeks - clubs, natch. Try SF societies, gaming clubs, anime clubs and the like.

If there all a bunch of ugly smelly men, move on. Every single SF or gaming club I've been a member of has had a sexy blonde female member.

h0rus · Post by **h0rus** » 2003-11-20 05:46am

InnerBrat wrote:
No presents (flowers, chocolate etc). It's only a first date.

shit... and here i was trying to buy their sex with expensive presents. i always wondered why they ended up leaving.

InnerBrat wrote: Don't smoke unless she does.
Don't chew gum. that's gross, too.

roger!

His Divine Shadow · Post by **His Divine Shadow** » 2003-11-20 05:59am

Lots of things here are irrelevant to me as we don't have a dating culture here, it's practically unheard of, but I wonder why chewing gum is gross?

PainRack · Post by **PainRack** » 2003-11-20 07:32am

His Divine Shadow wrote:Lots of things here are irrelevant to me as we don't have a dating culture here, it's practically unheard of, but I wonder why chewing gum is gross?

Then how do you pick up girls? Don't tell me its like us, where you give her a spiked drink, drag her into bed and then wake up to say "You were all over me" crap?

His Divine Shadow · Post by **His Divine Shadow** » 2003-11-20 07:44am

PainRack wrote:Then how do you pick up girls? Don't tell me its like us, where you give her a spiked drink, drag her into bed and then wake up to say "You were all over me" crap?

We just do it, like at parties and such, there's no specific method to it.

PainRack · Post by **PainRack** » 2003-11-20 08:01am

HDS, why would you say you were emotionally cold then? I would have thought that in order to pick up girls like that and presumably have a sustainable relationship( as opposed to ONS), you would be rather effusive in your emotions?

His Divine Shadow · Post by **His Divine Shadow** » 2003-11-20 08:14am

PainRack wrote:HDS, why would you say you were emotionally cold then? I would have thought that in order to pick up girls like that and presumably have a sustainable relationship( as opposed to ONS), you would be rather effusive in your emotions?

I never said I do that, I said thats one of the ways it might be done.

Post by **Gandalf** » 2003-11-20 08:29am

From the only first date I have been on, I've learned that Gangs of New York is not a good first date movie, too serious.

Anyone got flirting tips though?

aerius · Post by **aerius** » 2003-11-20 08:59am

Bertie Wooster wrote:Seriously though, its not like there is a rule that a girl can't make out with her guy friends, or vice versa. If a guy and a girl are friends and have a platonic friendship, the only reason it shouldn't be more romantic and closer to the heart is if they don't find each other physically attractive (y'know, fuck each other). Then a romantic relationship won't work.

That's pretty much how I ended up with my GF. We'd been good friends for several years and then one day it just kinda happened. Of course there's my other chick friend who's also a complete cutie but it was mutually agreed that we shouldn't date each other. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but in any case I don't see anything wrong with dating your friends. As for looks, well, look at my GF and then look at me. She's an amazingly cute & sexy babe and I'm a dorky looking asian guy.

Zac Naloen · Post by **Zac Naloen** » 2003-11-20 09:38am

Gandalf wrote:From the only first date I have been on, I've learned that Gangs of New York is not a good first date movie, too serious.

Anyone got flirting tips though?

flirting is easy, don't be obnoxious, don't be loud... don't make an idiot of yourself and you'll be fine.

however, be funny, be talkative, and if she is responsive to your flirting (i.e flirting back) touch an arm once or twice, something like that, i've noticed girls tend to touch legs, i have no idea why it just happens... i touch arms and hands thats just how it works for me. If she has any idea what she is doing she'll be doing the same thing and you'll pretty much be able to talk for hours. btw, when i say touch don't grab, just light and short contact, and try not to make it obvious.

Another thing i have noticed is that if a girl is attracted to you she will lean in your direction, or flash her cleavage at you... these are GOOD signs

atleast, thats how it works for me lol

Metrion Cascade · Post by **Metrion Cascade** » 2003-11-20 10:45am

His Divine Shadow wrote:
Metrion Cascade wrote: Better than coming off as the Shermanator.</American Pie reference>
Sorry, I've only seen American Pie 1, and that was some time ago, this has no meaning to me.

I think the Shermanator is mentioned in the first one.

Rye · Post by **Rye** » 2003-11-20 02:40pm

Metrion Cascade wrote: - If you're a geek, look for geeks. There's no substitute. No amount of physical hotness or caked on makeup will compensate for a woman who isn't into at least some of the same things as you. If she's into most or all of them, the gods have smiled upon you.

That sounds like such a good idea. Not too many around here though, i would imagine. OH well, only one way to find out...stay at home and hope that somehow one comes to my house.

If you're Rye, just wear your hair down and smile. And catch her when she stumbles from cumming in her pants.

:blushes: hehe ohh met

That would be a cool power to have though.

Post by **Gandalf** » 2003-11-20 09:55pm

Another thing I've noticed, if they know you're a geek, it can be used to incredible advantage. But just be careful. Apparently if done right, they'll think you're "cute". It worked for me. Basically just drop little mentions or references where appropriate.

neoolong · Post by **neoolong** » 2003-11-21 01:55am

Gah, I hate being called cute. Especially when I'm trying to be all mysterious and rugged.

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-11-21 02:03am

neoolong wrote:Gah, I hate being called cute. Especially when I'm trying to be all mysterious and rugged.

Awww, that's so cute!

Spanky The Dolphin · Post by **Spanky The Dolphin** » 2003-11-21 02:03am

neoolong wrote:Gah, I hate being called cute. Especially when I'm trying to be all mysterious and rugged.

Can't you be both?

neoolong · Post by **neoolong** » 2003-11-21 02:08am

Spanky The Dolphin wrote:
neoolong wrote:Gah, I hate being called cute. Especially when I'm trying to be all mysterious and rugged.
Can't you be both?

No. That only works in anime.

neoolong · Post by **neoolong** » 2003-11-21 02:08am

Zaia wrote:
neoolong wrote:Gah, I hate being called cute. Especially when I'm trying to be all mysterious and rugged.
Awww, that's so cute!

You just had to go there didn't you.

Post by **Zaia** » 2003-11-21 02:13am

neoolong wrote:You just had to go there didn't you.

[Valley girl w/attitude] Umm....yeah! Of course. Duh. [VG w/'tude]

El Moose Monstero · Post by **El Moose Monstero** » 2003-11-21 02:15am

InnerBrat wrote: If there all a bunch of ugly smelly men, move on. Every single SF or gaming club I've been a member of has had a sexy blonde female member.

Bah, I think they're all getting slow and complacent on this board, that was clearly the opportunity to point out that that was because you were in the clubs.

*sigh*

Men...

InnerBrat · Post by **InnerBrat** » 2003-11-21 04:09am

The_Lumberjack wrote:Bah, I think they're all getting slow and complacent on this board, that was clearly the opportunity to point out that that was because you were in the clubs.

*sigh*

Men...

Y'know what, that's exactly what I was thinking. Well done for noticing that I made a funny, I feel noticed, now.

CmdrWilkens · Post by **CmdrWilkens** » 2003-11-23 07:05pm

neoolong wrote:
Spanky The Dolphin wrote:
neoolong wrote:Gah, I hate being called cute. Especially when I'm trying to be all mysterious and rugged.
Can't you be both?

No. That only works in anime.

Completely incorrect, or at least partially. Nonetheless you can be both mysterious (read slightly insane) and cute at the same time. the key is understanding where a little bit of oddballness is both mysterious and funny at the same time. Those instances tend to be both 'cute" and "mysterious." I apparently have been able to pull this off recently as I am both an "interesting" 9read mysterious) person to my g/f but also inexplicably cute. Oh well.