Unrequited love, or infatuation for someone

FaxModem1 · Post by **FaxModem1** » 2004-02-05 07:54pm

have you ever had it?

how did you survive it?

What do you if its someone very close to you?

Howedar · Post by **Howedar** » 2004-02-05 07:59pm

Of course.

Time.

Life's a bitch, ain't it?

AnimeJet · Post by **AnimeJet** » 2004-02-05 08:04pm

Howedar kinda said what i was gonna say >.>

aerius · Post by **aerius** » 2004-02-05 08:05pm

FaxModem1 wrote:how did you survive it?

Dating & sleeping with other chicks kept my mind off it, never thought about it much and it didn't bother me or anything.

What do you if its someone very close to you?

Have her somehow end up as your GF and live happily ever after. Unfortunately I have no idea how to do this.

Post by **Alyrium Denryle** » 2004-02-05 08:10pm

Had an infatuation that ended in Dec of 2002... I cut it off in my mind when I realized the guy was not worth my time and energy.

Then, the long-standing mild "like" for an old friend decided to turn up that proverbial dimmer switch almost a year ago... fucking emotions always fucking with me. I am going to be really jaded by the time I hit 30. Then yu can all call me "Mr. Bitters"

I manage to survive this sort of stuff by becoming jaded and cynical when not thinking about it. The one two years ago wasnt as bad because he wasnt close to me from the start.

Now, this time around, the person is someone I have been friends with for 6-7 years. Someone who was there for me through the entire period of "growth" in my life going from fundie to atheist, closet case to non-stereotypical queer... *grumbles something about probability and how she is a cruel fickle bitch of a woman*

Dorsk 81 · Post by **Dorsk 81** » 2004-02-05 08:15pm

Inffatuations suck. I had one that lasted like...2 years and I made a tit of myself so many times it wasn't even funny. I the end I realised that she was a bitch when she dumped me for the...er...I can't remember, but it was the last time and that was that.

Bertie Wooster · Post by **Bertie Wooster** » 2004-02-05 08:19pm

FaxModem1 wrote:have you ever had it?

how did you survive it?

What do you if its someone very close to you?

1) Yep, a few times. When I was 19, 20, and 22.

2) By finding a new object of your affection, love and all that mushy-gushy, fuzzy warm gooey stuff inside of you that you want to fling at some poor victim.

3) Don't hold it in. You really must tell them how you feel about them right away. If you try to hold it in, you'll end up appearing all creepy and scare them away by being all weird towards them. Holding in you're feelings for someone and trying to contain it and ignore it will really fuck up you mind.

Post by **Alyrium Denryle** » 2004-02-05 08:25pm

3) Don't hold it in. You really must tell them how you feel about them right away. If you try to hold it in, you'll end up appearing all creepy and scare them away by being all weird towards them. Holding in you're feelings for someone and trying to contain it and ignore it will really fuck up you mind.

Cant agree more. My friend knows how I feel, and if anything our friendshipis better because of it... But probability is still a spiteful WHORE!

Korvan · Post by **Korvan** » 2004-02-05 08:27pm

Unrequited love doesn't have to be a bad thing. It is something that belongs to you and no-one can ever take it away. Nicholas Cage says it better than I do in the movie Adaptation, but basically your feelings for someone don't have to depend on how that person feels about you.

The best part about unrequited love is that you can have it over and over and over again with as many different people as you like. Once I found out just how much hard work requited love is, I started to appeciate unrequited love a whole lot more.

Soontir C'boath · Post by **Soontir C'boath** » 2004-02-05 08:44pm

have you ever had it?

Yes just about a year or so ago.

how did you survive it?

As Howedar said time. Memory will fade in time and the pain leaves.

What do you do if its someone very close to you?

Tell the person straight away how I feel. It sucks to keep it all inside. Whether she liked me or not its more painful holding it in.

I am glad that I did got over it, now we are just friends and without me being in that state.

Cyaround,
Jason

aphexmonster · Post by **aphexmonster** » 2004-02-05 11:26pm

The only love i know is unrequited ...

and ive never gotten over my first heart break

Demiurge · Post by **Demiurge** » 2004-02-06 12:07am

FaxModem1 wrote:have you ever had it?

Still have it. About one and a half years now.

how did you survive it?

As others said, time. It's not as bad as it used to be, except when I see her.

What do you if its someone very close to you?

No idea.

Rye · Post by **Rye** » 2004-02-06 12:30am

FaxModem1 wrote:have you ever had it?

Unfortunately a few times.

how did you survive it?

I did? Meh, just have to deal with it i suppose, move on, care about myself and friends first.

What do you if its someone very close to you?

Tell them and work through it.

Uraniun235 · Post by **Uraniun235** » 2004-02-06 02:28am

have you ever had it?
Let's say it's not a past-tense thing.

how did you survive it?
I try going after other girls. I preoccupy myself with other things. Sometimes I just wallow in it.

What do you if its someone very close to you?
I grin and bear it.

Durandal · Post by **Durandal** » 2004-02-06 02:43am

Sure I have. Twice in high school. I am still good friends with both of the girls. I've basically lost interest in one of them, but the other one still niggles in my head every now and then, but as it stands, I have a rewarding relationship with her. The other one is still a great friend, too, but we've both been busy as Hell recently and haven't had time to talk since we saw each other on New Year's. I've moved on. It's something just about every guy goes through.

Now I'll delve into male chauvinist pig mode for a second and quote The Man Show ... "Let's talk about friendship. The bad kind of friendship. The kind between a man and a woman who aren't boning." Ah ... too true.

Daltonator · Post by **Daltonator** » 2004-02-06 07:59am

FaxModem1 wrote:have you ever had it?

Yes, and it's present tense in my case.

FaxModem1 wrote:how did you survive it?

Learn patience.

FaxModem1 wrote:What do you if its someone very close to you?

"Be honest" is my only advice.

Enigma · Post by **Enigma** » 2004-02-06 08:22am

AnimeJet wrote:Howedar kinda said what i was gonna say >.>

Ditto. He took the words right out of my mouth..... Hey Howedar! Give me back my words!

Dahak · Post by **Dahak** » 2004-02-06 08:30am

So far, never.
But then again, I haven't been in love with anyone...

Darth Fanboy · Post by **Darth Fanboy** » 2004-02-06 11:55am

lemme tell you, its real. I feel invincible right now. Why? Because she told me she loves me! Every fiber of my being is on fire, its wonderful.

Theres no sensation to compare to this,
suspended animation, A state of Bliss.

Shaidar Haran · Post by **Shaidar Haran** » 2004-02-06 12:22pm

FaxModem1 wrote:have you ever had it?

how did you survive it?

What do you if its someone very close to you?

I've had it bad. It was the first girl I really loved and I still haven't gotten over her. Comforting huh?

Stofsk · Post by **Stofsk** » 2004-02-06 12:30pm

You never really get over the First One, or so I am told. It's certainly true in my case. The girl I first fell in love with (or became infatuated with) ended fairly miserably, although we're friends now. But not the "best friends in the whole world" type friend - more like the "oh, hey, it's been awhile - like, several months - since we last saw each other..."

I still think about her from time to time, and she's dating my friend. So usually I see her when I see him. Bah! Love. Who needs it? ('cept Darth Fanboy, lucky swine...

)

PainRack · Post by **PainRack** » 2004-02-06 01:00pm

Bertie Wooster wrote:
FaxModem1 wrote: 3) Don't hold it in. You really must tell them how you feel about them right away. If you try to hold it in, you'll end up appearing all creepy and scare them away by being all weird towards them. Holding in you're feelings for someone and trying to contain it and ignore it will really fuck up you mind.

Errrr. what do you mean by this?

Frankly, if it can never be, I rather be silent from this hence forth. One guy suffering is better than a gal and a guy suffering.

2000AD · Post by **2000AD** » 2004-02-06 03:13pm

have you ever had it?

Yes

how did you survive it?

By knowing that i'd probably never have a chance so i might as well just not bother trying

What do you if its someone very close to you?

Deal with it.

Uraniun235 · Post by **Uraniun235** » 2004-02-06 05:10pm

PainRack wrote:Frankly, if it can never be, I rather be silent from this hence forth. One guy suffering is better than a gal and a guy suffering.

Agreed. In my case, telling her would only burden her because she's in love with another guy (engaged to him, in fact).

GrandMasterTerwynn · Post by **GrandMasterTerwynn** » 2004-02-06 05:26pm

FaxModem1 wrote:have you ever had it?

All the time.

how did you survive it?

You wait until it gets better. Eventually you realize that there are better things to do with your time than pine for someone who doesn't like you.

What do you if its someone very close to you?

That depends. If you used to be in a relationship with them, then they've probably made their choice. Refer to above answer. If you're just friends with them, then ask yourself what's more important, staying friends with them, or trying to get them to love you, in spite of all the indicators indicating that they don't want to do so. Then refer to the above answer.

Unfortunately, there isn't a whole lot you can do with unrequited love.

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