Girl problem: Getting to know her.

ArmorPierce · Post by **ArmorPierce** » 2004-03-22 12:42am

just let her pay and you're fine.

h0rus · Post by **h0rus** » 2004-03-22 01:08am

Galvatron wrote:
Crom wrote:I do generally tend to be a homebody. I end up hanging out with my roommates, or generally goofing off. I have started going to the nearest African Drum & Dance center on Saturday nights for their jam sessions, to combat the whole homebody thing. On Sundays I try and hit up a yoga class.

Generally I don't go out for drinks. Since I don't drink much.

My roommates are my friends, so I usually end up hanging out with them ...

Oh my god. I'm boring.
"Going out for drinks" is just a convenient and casual way to get together so you can break the ice. Depending on your tolerance for alcohol, you could power down shots or simply order a light beer and nurse it the whole time. That part's up to you. My point is that you could ask her to join you and your friends at a pub or TGIF's or someplace like that. I'm sure you have at least one or two places like that in your area.

Also, at the risk of getting shouted down by the more uptight members of the peanut gallery, I recommend reading this...

This almost sounds like an episode of some cheezy assed 'adult' show.

Arthur_Tuxedo · Post by **Arthur_Tuxedo** » 2004-03-22 02:01am

ArmorPierce wrote:just let her pay and you're fine.

My ass, dude. You don't ask someone out and then let HER pay. That's just rude.

Galvatron · Post by **Galvatron** » 2004-03-22 02:43am

h0rus wrote:This almost sounds like an episode of some cheezy assed 'adult' show.

You mean a porno?

ArmorPierce · Post by **ArmorPierce** » 2004-03-22 03:10am

Arthur_Tuxedo wrote:My ass, dude. You don't ask someone out and then let HER pay. That's just rude.

Considering she's going moving into her boyfriend's place I don't think that she considers it a date, or she is just doing it to get a free night out and in that case she's a manipulative bitch. If she's moving into her boyfriend's place I doubt that their relationship is on the rocks too.

Crom · Post by **Crom** » 2004-03-22 04:22am

I'm going to confront her about her boyfriend the next time I get a chance to have an actual conversation with her. Hopefully that opportunity will come up on Monday. Besides my desire to see the situation resolved, I've pretty much lost interest. Admittedly, an offer for anal sex would reignite the fires of our friendship, if only because it has been spoken of highly here on the board.

"So how did moving in with your boyfriend go ...?" And see where it goes from there.

PainRack · Post by **PainRack** » 2004-03-22 07:58am

Crom wrote:I'm going to confront her about her boyfriend the next time I get a chance to have an actual conversation with her. Hopefully that opportunity will come up on Monday. Besides my desire to see the situation resolved, I've pretty much lost interest. Admittedly, an offer for anal sex would reignite the fires of our friendship, if only because it has been spoken of highly here on the board.

"So how did moving in with your boyfriend go ...?" And see where it goes from there.

Actually, what's so great about anal sex? Other than the thrill that its supposed to be extremely tight, and its somewhere nobody goes, anal sex is a prime suspect for spreading STD as its easier to cause scratches and breaks in the skin there.

Anyway, here's how I deal with rejection. I log on, find a trekkie or a right wing american, and vent my fury out. Example? When I found out that the girl I had an obession with(and who rejected me a long time ago) found herself a boyfriend, I went online and debated Darkstar. That was dumb. But damn, was that dumb.

I since realised that a carton of beer along with male company should do the trick just nice.

Ravenwing · Post by **Ravenwing** » 2004-03-22 09:17am

PainRack wrote:I since realised that a carton of beer along with male company should do the trick just nice.

you get ratted every time you find out your crush is attached? if i did that id be permanently wasted

Post by **Darth Wong** » 2004-03-23 12:25pm

PainRack wrote:Actually, what's so great about anal sex? Other than the thrill that its supposed to be extremely tight, and its somewhere nobody goes, anal sex is a prime suspect for spreading STD as its easier to cause scratches and breaks in the skin there.

One word: lube. Besides, that is a widely propagated but rather silly criticism of anal sex. If you're having sex with someone who has AIDS or some other sexually transmitted disease, you should be using a condom. If you don't, then what difference does it make whether you stick it in her pussy or her ass? Transmitting it versus really transmitting it?

PS. There are a lot of nerve endings in the wall that separate the anus and vagina. Women can have extremely intense orgasms from the right kind of manipulation during anal sex.

Bob the Gunslinger · Post by **Bob the Gunslinger** » 2004-03-23 09:24pm

Darth Wong wrote:
justifier wrote:Best of luck, I advise using the buttsex ice-breaker.

But yeah, I've got a two year and still running crush on a girl to whom I've been banished to the Friend-tom zone for. Damn her cuteness! Damn it to Hell! *breaks down crying*
Sun Tzu would say that a general should know better than to attack a fortified target when non-fortified targets are available.

I thought Sun Tzu's advice on such a target was to have a maneuverable auxilliary force come in from behind.
It's like even Sun Tzu wants you to move for anal.

Bob the Gunslinger · Post by **Bob the Gunslinger** » 2004-03-23 09:37pm

Crom wrote:I'm going to confront her about her boyfriend the next time I get a chance to have an actual conversation with her. Hopefully that opportunity will come up on Monday. Besides my desire to see the situation resolved, I've pretty much lost interest. Admittedly, an offer for anal sex would reignite the fires of our friendship, if only because it has been spoken of highly here on the board.

"So how did moving in with your boyfriend go ...?" And see where it goes from there.

First of all, you may not want to confront her. A confrontation ia always an antagonistic thing and will not endear you to her. You would only make her feel judged or uncomfortable. If she never thought of it as a date in the first place, then the misunderstanding may even weird her out or cause her to pity you.

You might want to take a page from Darth Vader's book and just lightly probe around the subject (not with droids but conversation). Don't be too obvious or you'll insult her. Just questions like "so how was your weekend? What kinds of insane fun did you have while moving?"

And as for anal sex, I find it to be somewhat overrated. Yeah, it's a bit different, a bit tighter perhaps, but you have to spend time and concentration applying a condom and lube while trying to keep her aroused, which is about as challenging as juggling sponges while riding a bike. Unless you don't use lube or condoms, in which case you are left with a chafed and shit-encrusted doodle, my friend. Or so I would imagine.

Galvatron · Post by **Galvatron** » 2004-03-23 10:11pm

In my experience, until a girl actually tells you she has a boyfriend, she's "single."

On the other hand, until a girl actually tells you can do her in the butt, don't try to surprise her with a spontaneous cornholing. Unless you're Rocco Siffredi, that is...

Crom · Post by **Crom** » 2004-03-23 10:18pm

Galvatron wrote:In my experience, until a girl actually tells you she has a boyfriend, she's "single."

On the other hand, until a girl actually tells you can do her in the butt, don't try to surprise her with a spontaneous cornholing. Unless you're Rocco Siffredi, that is...

His name is Nelson. He treats bathrooms like closets. He can live without a bed. I never even knew people named their kids Nelson. I salute you, Nelson, for a game well played.

She told me she'd try and remember to invite me to their house warming party.

...

On to less fortified targets!

Galvatron · Post by **Galvatron** » 2004-03-23 10:29pm

Crom, you're a god. Let no man stand in your way, especially Nelson.

Post by **Darth Wong** » 2004-03-23 10:41pm

Crom wrote:On to less fortified targets!

You were forced to retreat, but you have nevertheless gained valuable experience during this skirmish.