Actually, he might be 15, but his brain is still stunted from his one-dimensional hatred of MS.
I wonder if he's still in the "girls are yucky" stage? Then again, I never was.
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Exonerate, this is my successfully tested method for going from agape to amor with a female:
1) Slowly focus most of your "friend" activities to primarily involve her. Hang out with her at school, talk to her often in person and the internet, and develop a best buddy relationship. This can take a while, but it sounds like you've already got it in motion. The whole time, don't do anything too obvious; pretend like you're interested in nothing but her company (which shouldn't be untrue, if you really like her).
2) Ask her out. This isn't as hard as it sounds, especially since the first date shouldn't even be romantic. My advice is to see a movie you'd both like to see, during the day, and then get some sandwiches or burgers or something. Do something you might do with one of your guy friends, or she might do with one of her girl friends. If she agrees to do this with you, she's at least basically interested.
Keep it strictly platonic on this date, unless she gives signs otherwise of course.
3) A short time after the date (~1 week, maybe), during which you've maintained friendly contact, surprise her with a gift from the heart. It must be something that you put a lot of effort into, but not so much that it makes you look like a total stalker.
I wrote a sonnet for my friend-turned-girlfriend. You can paint a picture, sing a song, whatever, but it should be personal. I chose the sonnet because I was able to drop it in her locker without having to confront her.
Again, this should be personal, but don't come off like a total obsessed freak, even if you happen to be one.
4a) If your show of affection was well-recieved, keep it coming. "Love letters" and the like are great; you can be cheesey during the first stages of a friendship-turned-romantic relationship.
From there, I leave it to you. Remember to pay attention to her often (go on dates, talk to her, etc.). Take the relationship where you mutually decide for it to go (but don't get too serious, because I guarantee you you'll part after high school, and if you don't, you'll wish you had).
4b) If your show of affection was not well-recieved, then back off and respect her right to not like you like that. You should be able to keep her as a friend, because none of the aforementioned steps were too over-the-top.
P.S. When I read the title of this thread, I totally thought it was about advice for Exxon the oil company. Whatever.
1) Slowly focus most of your "friend" activities to primarily involve her. Hang out with her at school, talk to her often in person and the internet, and develop a best buddy relationship. This can take a while, but it sounds like you've already got it in motion. The whole time, don't do anything too obvious; pretend like you're interested in nothing but her company (which shouldn't be untrue, if you really like her).
2) Ask her out. This isn't as hard as it sounds, especially since the first date shouldn't even be romantic. My advice is to see a movie you'd both like to see, during the day, and then get some sandwiches or burgers or something. Do something you might do with one of your guy friends, or she might do with one of her girl friends. If she agrees to do this with you, she's at least basically interested.
Keep it strictly platonic on this date, unless she gives signs otherwise of course.
3) A short time after the date (~1 week, maybe), during which you've maintained friendly contact, surprise her with a gift from the heart. It must be something that you put a lot of effort into, but not so much that it makes you look like a total stalker.
I wrote a sonnet for my friend-turned-girlfriend. You can paint a picture, sing a song, whatever, but it should be personal. I chose the sonnet because I was able to drop it in her locker without having to confront her.
Again, this should be personal, but don't come off like a total obsessed freak, even if you happen to be one.
4a) If your show of affection was well-recieved, keep it coming. "Love letters" and the like are great; you can be cheesey during the first stages of a friendship-turned-romantic relationship.
From there, I leave it to you. Remember to pay attention to her often (go on dates, talk to her, etc.). Take the relationship where you mutually decide for it to go (but don't get too serious, because I guarantee you you'll part after high school, and if you don't, you'll wish you had).
4b) If your show of affection was not well-recieved, then back off and respect her right to not like you like that. You should be able to keep her as a friend, because none of the aforementioned steps were too over-the-top.
P.S. When I read the title of this thread, I totally thought it was about advice for Exxon the oil company. Whatever.
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You need to take the matter up with her by one of the methods already suggested, Exonerate.
Do NOT wait. This is one of the biggest mistakes you could do. Like it was already said, if she likes you now, she'll eventually get over you if you do nothing. Yes, you'll run the risk of getting a no for an answer, but there's that every time you fall for someone. It only hurts once. After a while, you get over it and then you'll be ready to fall in love all over again, but if you wait and it becomes obvious that she's lost interest, or if she falls for someone else (could happen), you'll regret not doing anything for a long time, and that's worse than just getting a 'no'. You'll also learn to recover faster and faster every time it happens.
Besides, look at it this way: If it turns out later (we'll see that then, won't we?) that the relationship wouldn't have happened or would have broken up anyway, it's better to make all sorts of mistakes now and learn from them than it is to find someone you really love (and who loves you) later and make the mistakes with her because you hadn't had a chance to make them before. I learned this lesson the hard way, and I'd rather you didn't have to.
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Do NOT wait. This is one of the biggest mistakes you could do. Like it was already said, if she likes you now, she'll eventually get over you if you do nothing. Yes, you'll run the risk of getting a no for an answer, but there's that every time you fall for someone. It only hurts once. After a while, you get over it and then you'll be ready to fall in love all over again, but if you wait and it becomes obvious that she's lost interest, or if she falls for someone else (could happen), you'll regret not doing anything for a long time, and that's worse than just getting a 'no'. You'll also learn to recover faster and faster every time it happens.
Besides, look at it this way: If it turns out later (we'll see that then, won't we?) that the relationship wouldn't have happened or would have broken up anyway, it's better to make all sorts of mistakes now and learn from them than it is to find someone you really love (and who loves you) later and make the mistakes with her because you hadn't had a chance to make them before. I learned this lesson the hard way, and I'd rather you didn't have to.
Edi
Um... no. I just have no social skills and fucked up my situation last spring. If I were you I would stay on the safe side and bury everything. Of course I'm probably incorrectly assuming you have bad social skills. Then again if you did have good social skills you would'nt ask. Right? Wrong?Spanky The Dolphin wrote:Actually, he might be 15, but his brain is still stunted from his one-dimensional hatred of MS.
I wonder if he's still in the "girls are yucky" stage? Then again, I never was.
I'm at another school now, but still have not recovered.
Besides my one-dimensional hate for MS only started last summer, after thinking slightly too deeply about Wong's anti-MS page, then subsequently reading an assload of anti-MS and pro-Linux "propaganda".
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