When someone has died, and a major anniversary is coming up -- their birthday, their wedding anniversary, or the date they died -- how long should you keep bringing it up?
Yes, I know all these things, even if I want to forget the most painful one, but is it right to share it? Is it right to remind other people about it? Is it private, or is it something to spread over FB that this was the day he was born, this was the day he died.
Does it help to remind people of this? Or is it something to keep to myself.
Re: The Board Members You Miss Thread
Posted: 2022-06-22 08:19pm
by DrMckay
Howdy, old-inactive member here. Been feeling a bit nostalgic and decided to check up on one of my first forums. Noticed that there is apparently a discord.
PM'd a couple people listed in the thread earlier, but no replies as of yet. Figured I'd see if that discord is still active/going.
When someone has died, and a major anniversary is coming up -- their birthday, their wedding anniversary, or the date they died -- how long should you keep bringing it up?
As long as bringing it up brings some benefit to you.
Yes, I know all these things, even if I want to forget the most painful one, but is it right to share it? Is it right to remind other people about it? Is it private, or is it something to spread over FB that this was the day he was born, this was the day he died.
Unless it's with a group of other people who are likewise reminiscing I wouldn't go too crazy. My preference would be "Today I am remembering X's Y, and I miss X very much"
The problem with putting birth date and death date together on the internet, along with other details, is that it could lead to identity theft. Now, you might think that that is not important - the person is dead, after all - it may be distressing to people who knew and cared about the person. And why help the bad guys?
Does it help to remind people of this? Or is it something to keep to myself.
Widows shouldn't be in a closet any more than anyone else should be in a closet.
I never knew Nitram like you did, but I miss him, too. It would be tragic for him to be forgotten.
Re: The Board Members You Miss Thread
Posted: 2022-06-23 12:18pm
by Elheru Aran
DrMckay wrote: 2022-06-22 08:19pm
Howdy, old-inactive member here. Been feeling a bit nostalgic and decided to check up on one of my first forums. Noticed that there is apparently a discord.
PM'd a couple people listed in the thread earlier, but no replies as of yet. Figured I'd see if that discord is still active/going.
Gravy! Who would I want to reach about an invite? (PM'd ace and dartzap)
I'll poke them to get back to you. Hope to see you soon
Re: The Board Members You Miss Thread
Posted: 2022-06-29 01:05pm
by Galvatron
What ever happened to Durandal and Illuminatus Primus?
Re: The Board Members You Miss Thread
Posted: 2022-07-03 02:38pm
by Elheru Aran
Galvatron wrote: 2022-06-29 01:05pm
What ever happened to Durandal and Illuminatus Primus?
No idea about IP but a couple people have mentioned that Durandal is "just busy", presumably staying in touch via Facebook or similar. RedImperator did show up on the Discord, though.
Galvatron wrote: 2022-06-29 01:05pm
What ever happened to Durandal and Illuminatus Primus?
No idea about IP but a couple people have mentioned that Durandal is "just busy", presumably staying in touch via Facebook or similar. RedImperator did show up on the Discord, though.
Married, kid, working at Apple as I recall. He's doing fine. We chat on Twitter occasionally.
Re: The Board Members You Miss Thread
Posted: 2022-10-30 07:40am
by bobalot
I miss the general activity of this board.
Websites like reddit just don't let make you have regular posters or make connections like a "traditional" does.
Re: The Board Members You Miss Thread
Posted: 2022-11-18 06:30am
by The Xeelee
Nobody missed me
Not surprising lol I was never a power user in terms of posting but when I was in school I’d login to read here every day feels like a huge part of that period of my life. I always wanted to be a user people would know but never had anything worth contributing lol
Re: The Board Members You Miss Thread
Posted: 2022-12-26 10:31pm
by EnterpriseSovereign
Anyone know what became of mr friendly guy? As a doctor he would have inevitably been exposed to COVID-19 and he was last seen while the vaccine was still in development.
Broomstick wrote: 2022-02-22 04:25am
I miss Thanas. Not my favorite person, we didn't really like each other much, but I had respect for his knowledge and he often made me think or re-think topics.
Broomstick wrote: 2022-02-22 04:25am
I miss Thanas. Not my favorite person, we didn't really like each other much, but I had respect for his knowledge and he often made me think or re-think topics.
What happened to Thanas?
Iron Man snapped his fingers.
Holy fuckballs you're back!
On a more relevant note, I wasn't around at the same time but I miss Stravo and his writing. Too bad none of them ever seemed to get finished (yes, I am well aware I have my own incomplete story on here) he had some really cool ideas and plotlines.
Broomstick wrote: 2022-02-22 04:25am
I miss Thanas. Not my favorite person, we didn't really like each other much, but I had respect for his knowledge and he often made me think or re-think topics.
bobalot wrote: 2023-02-05 07:16am
For all his bloviating at times, I miss The Romulan Republic.
Same. I hope that wherever he is, he's doing well.
He hasn't updated his Fanfiction account since Nov 2020
Huh... has it been 2yrs since he went on that rant and dared the Admin to Ban him?
*checks Parting Shots*
Huh... so it has. It didn't seem that long ago.
Re: The Board Members You Miss Thread
Posted: 2023-02-06 12:18am
by Ralin
LadyTevar wrote: 2023-02-05 10:37pm
Huh... has it been 2yrs since he went on that rant and dared the Admin to Ban him?
Pretty sure that was at least the second or third time he'd demanded a perma ban.
