How Datable are you?

[Zaia]

though I know many a girl who finds the ring attractive

I remember some talk-show discussing that, and the consensus was that the ring indicates the ability to commit, hence the attraction. Of course, the problem with that explanation is that if a woman can get a married man to cheat on his wife with her, then he's obviously not committed, ring or no ring. Maybe it's an ego boost to steal a man away from his wife.

A couple of people I sort of consider friends go after married guys. They like what they can't have, they like the challenge, they like the danger and the thrill that the chase has to be so secretive. I don't understand it. I have had crushes on married men before, and yes, a small part of the attraction was the commitment factor, but I never let anything happen. I was too late to the game; he was already awarded to someone else. I just had to suck it up and find someone else. That's the way it goes. Or, the way it should go.

[Darth Wong]

A couple of people I sort of consider friends go after married guys. They like what they can't have, they like the challenge, they like the danger and the thrill that the chase has to be so secretive. I don't understand it. I have had crushes on married men before, and yes, a small part of the attraction was the commitment factor, but I never let anything happen. I was too late to the game; he was already awarded to someone else. I just had to suck it up and find someone else. That's the way it goes. Or, the way it should go.

I think some women are just evil towards other women. Trying to take someone's spouse away is (to me) pretty damned low. Mind you, the spouse himself still bears the ultimate blame; he made the vows, he broke them.

[Ghost Rider]

Very true...the blame still lies with the spouses...and as for some women are just evil...reminds me everytime I see two women fight over something.

Some women go to some new lows to humilate and destroy another women.

[neoolong]

No, they just go "your best friend is H-O-T." Almost as irritating.

I get the "you're like a brother to me." And not the cool kinda brother either. I hate that.

There's always the confessional type who likes to tell you everything about her date (incluing the gory details) because you can help her understand men better.

I thought that was implied. And that sucks as well. Thank's for bringing it up.

[neoolong]

A couple of people I sort of consider friends go after married guys. They like what they can't have, they like the challenge, they like the danger and the thrill that the chase has to be so secretive. I don't understand it. I have had crushes on married men before, and yes, a small part of the attraction was the commitment factor, but I never let anything happen. I was too late to the game; he was already awarded to someone else. I just had to suck it up and find someone else. That's the way it goes. Or, the way it should go.

You explained the reason quite well. It is the desire for the unobtainable. Well, should be unobtainable. It is the thing that is forbidden so there is danger and excitement. Ultimately it is not about love, but the pleasure from excitement.

[Master of Ossus]

HOLY SHIT! I'm considered 85% dateable! It must be the fact that I take a shower whenever I get around to it. DAMN, even I didn't think I was that good.

And all this time I've thought that Kate had really bad taste in men. Maybe I should raise my self esteem a few notches as a result of this test.... Naah. I think it would be more productive to continue my efforts to change myself into the Incredible Hulk (TM).

[Zaia]

A couple of people I sort of consider friends go after married guys. They like what they can't have...blah blah blah...

I think some women are just evil towards other women. Trying to take someone's spouse away is (to me) pretty damned low. Mind you, the spouse himself still bears the ultimate blame; he made the vows, he broke them.

Absolutely it's the spouse's fault if he breaks the vows. I don't think it has anything to do with being evil toward the wife, though. The women who try to take away other people's spouses don't think anything at all of the wives (the ones I know, anyway). They place no value whatsoever in the opinion of a woman in terms of worth; the women that date married men need to have a man validate them with what he will do to be with her. Sneak out of the house, lie to his wife, stay at 'work' late, maybe even leave his family--all this is done to make the woman feel worthwhile.

The women who try to steal husbands don't do it because they hold anything against the wife; that's why they can say so convincingly (to themselves, anyway) that the affair has nothing to do with "her." You and I see it differently, but they honestly do not. It's all about the man.